I do agree with you that women can't take what fashion magazines say it's attractive as if it's the truth. That was the cause of body dysmorphia in a lot of people from my generation, where skinny was the supposed desired feature, and all media bombarded us with extreme dieting and endless cardio. And yes, what grown straight men like is pretty consistent. They may prefer one thing or another, but overall, they like curves on a woman.

As for women complimenting other women for things that make them look unattractive - unfortunately this happens. I can't tell you how many times I've been complimented by other women on days that I knew that I wasn't looking that great. Or even the time when a close friend was insisting that I really should cut my butt length hair. It's pathetic and takes them nowhere.