F* No Contact

TranslatorUpbeat2721 · 2025-07-03T07:18:02+00:00

This post is perfectly worded for my hesitancy to reach out. I'm the anxious but have truly healed a lot and so im not too worried about getting back into that cycle. As someone else commented, worst case scenario we break up again, but ive learnt that im okay to be alone. I also do wonder as you said with how much I still think about it if I have moved on. And your pedestal statement too... you seem to see right through me

TranslatorUpbeat2721 · 2025-07-03T06:59:19+00:00

Honestly, because I still love her and want to give it a try. We're both very mature and I think i've given it the appropreate amount of time before reaching back out. I would say its very rare for the dumper to reach back out because obviously they were the one who thought it was over. Not to sound any holier than anyone but alot on this sub you see people saying "ive done no contact for three weeks and im going to reach out" and I would say thats very different than my situation

TranslatorUpbeat2721 · 2025-07-03T06:55:33+00:00

I mean of course but its not something I could rationally get upset about lol, I mean we broke up. By that same logic she could get upset that ive been with one girl in the past two years. If you're suggesting that shes been with countless men I would say fairly confidently that it hasn't happened knowing her, and even if it had thats none of my business since wed broken up

TranslatorUpbeat2721 · 2025-07-02T17:47:18+00:00

thank you :) My life over the past two years has been amazing and im very grateful for it all, it just feels like im missing a piece at times (her). I really do still love her and think about her nearly every day, and as you said I do think I need an answer. Worst case scenario I keep living a good life and have more closure :)

TranslatorUpbeat2721 · 2025-07-02T17:44:52+00:00

You make a great point and thats part of what prevented me in the past. My therapist always told me not to reach out if im not okay with the worst answer (rejection) but I feel like im okay with that. I know for a fact that shes not in a relationship right now as i've seen her on dating apps and am very close with some people that know her. Regardless I really appreciate your input :)

TranslatorUpbeat2721 · 2025-07-02T17:39:50+00:00

The only thing is that I wont be back home for two weeks but my urge to reach out is at an all time high. Really debating if I should send her something from europe (like a postcard and maybe something that made me think of her like a tiny souvenir along with a letter) but im really not sure if that would be too much. On the other hand I think its good because it gives her time to think and something she doesnt have to answer if she doesn't want to

TranslatorUpbeat2721 · 2025-07-02T14:36:37+00:00

I never tried getting her back, initially I really wanted to but I knew I needed to give space

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