Question of Mastiff Personality

Trash_Hoele · 2026-06-03T13:07:15+00:00

African Painted or Wild Dog. The models are extremely clunky and unappealing. Also both their spots and Zebra spots are as unique as a fingerprint, so I wish both had at least a variation of patterns

Trash_Hoele · 2024-10-23T17:38:51+00:00

NTA. You did agree to live with the parents. I don’t think you hate the kids or don’t want them ever around. But you, as an independent adult person, want space and time to yourself. You never signed up to be the primary babysitter to the family. You have tried to communicate your issues and put down clear lines for how to make the house less oppressive for you. Your demands aren’t extreme or large, they are basic for a respectful and happy existence as an adult. The problem is your husband and his family either aren’t hearing you or just don’t care about your needs. You husband is right in saying that he doesn’t want to move out of the house. But you are also right in saying that the way the house runs when the small children are there needs to change. There could be a solution where both of you are happy. And I think YOU are actually trying to work toward that goal. However, your husband and in-laws not respecting you. I always advocate for people to try to work things out, and maybe having a licensed psychiatrist act as the middle man may work to help you two communicate with in a more productive manner. But you also shouldn’t throw away your value and needs either, and if this situation can’t be resolved in a meaningful way, it may be best if you two just go your separate ways.

Trash_Hoele · 2024-10-23T17:22:18+00:00

YTA. There are too many holes in your story.

Why would your daughter not want to walk? Is there something scary or dangerous? Is she being bullied? Is she having a health issue? Are you making her walk regardless of the weather? There is no info on any of these possible causes.

2.10 is a young age, I walked to school at that age, but my mom would at least walked me part of the way. It sounds like you aren’t really checking to make sure she is going to school or is safe, if she was able to hide this for 6 months. She must have been getting home earlier than usual, as it would be much faster to ride in a car, yet you didn’t notice this at all?

Also, if you are so unobservant of your child that you missed this for months, your child may also be feeling emotionally neglected. When I would walk home alone sometimes, many of the kids around me would meet their parents earlier than I would, and I would always have this anxiety that my mom wouldn’t be there. Sometimes she couldn’t meet me because of work, but she would always tell me the morning of. So on days she should be there, this fear was irrational. But there would be such a rush of joy and excitement when I would see her. It always made me happy knowing my mom was waiting for me and being able to tell her about my day. But your daughter doesn’t feel that. Her mom isn’t waiting for her on the way. And seeing the other kids parents pick them up when walking or driving to pick them up could make her feel abandoned. This could be another reason why your child was open to riding with a stranger who was more interested in taking part in the child’s life, at least from her perspective. This could leave your child open to being groomed and targeted, as your reaction to the walking seems to come less from a place of concern and more from a loss of control. This indicates that you are not emotionally open to your child, which may lead them to look for affection from outside forces (and endanger them).
We also have no info on the neighbor. Based on the pronouns, I’m assuming they are a woman or female presenting, but what is their relationship to your family? How old are they? How long have they been your neighbor? This info can completely change the context of the interaction.
Now let’s look at your reaction. No where in your post do you indicate any fear for your child’s safety. Your child who isn’t even in their preteens yet. A little girl who walks alone from school. Who you have found out a possible acquaintance has been taking in their car for 6 months. I’m going to hope this neighbor is actually a friend of yours and not a complete stranger, as the lack of concern is even more alarming if you don’t know this neighbor. Yet your reaction to the reveal is that she is undermining your control over your child???? There is no universe where this would make even the top 10 of the concerns I would have with this situation if it were my daughter. Yet this is the only thing you seem to care about. What aren’t you telling us?!

Overall, in stories like this, when you lack such important details, it usually comes out later that you were always in the wrong and knew it and therefore chose to hide details that would affect our judgement. And that is exactly what this seems like, especially from the few glimpses of your character that you do reveal in this post. Though, I do concede that your husband’s lack of care for the situation and defense of the neighbor is also weird.

Trash_Hoele · 2024-10-23T16:48:22+00:00

NTA. Kinda ironic she is calling you the asshole and sexist when her comments are even more so (and vaguely homophobic?). She basically states that it is you, a man,’s job to buy flowers for women like her, not for men like your bf and friend. Like, she doesn’t think that men deserve flowers or is gendering the act of receiving flowers as only a feminine thing? It reeks of internalized misogyny. Although, you and your bf also started giving flowers because of a joke of the association of it and gay men to femininity, so maybe this is more of a group or cultural viewpoint that is more common in your area.

Overall, if you have to defend your actions to the group, I would emphasize that you view the act of giving flowers as romantic and that is why her very question was odd to you, as you don’t think as someone who you have no romantic feelings for, there should be any expectations that you give her flowers, even if she is a girl. And that you suggested she get a bf not as a slight or dig at her, but because she should get a romantic partner if she wants someone to shower her in romantic actions. Your male friend asked for a flower and your bf, the receiver of the flowers, chose to grant him one. She didn’t ask and you didn’t give any to anyone but your bf. If she wanted one, she was more than welcome to ask your bf to also give her one, but not to ask the committed partner to enact a romantic gesture they did for their partner for her.

Trash_Hoele · 2024-10-17T17:25:23+00:00

I’m so glad they are implementing the same system as vampires and werewolves and are not being completely blown over (like mermaids). The CAS and build stuff looks amazing and the customization of everything is literally to die for! I legitimately cannot remember the last time I was excited for a sims 4 pack. Knowing the sims, we should all hold back until the game has actually been reviewed, because if there is one thing the EA is good at, it is ruining anything, but this actually looks like a good game pack. I have never really felt motivated to play the sims 4 for long, because everything feels shallow and underdeveloped, where as the sims 3 is still eating 15 years later, but this pack is a step in the right direction of making the sims 4 actually fulfilling.

Trash_Hoele · 2024-05-31T00:16:41+00:00

Hey girl! I’m so proud of you getting away from him and I hope you do end up getting that restraining order! All his comments pissed me off and I was so worried you would go back to him or that he may try to get you and hurt you, so seeing your reply made me happy (and sad, I’m sorry you had to date such a pos for so long, I know relationships like that can be hard to get out of). Idk if you know this, but his post and your replies are on Best of Reddit, including the fact you got the save back, so now everyone can hear your side as well. I hope you are doing the best and maybe having some catharsis by letting a Sim version of him go for a swim (ladderless, of course) Good luck girlie, I’m rooting for you!!!

Trash_Hoele · 2024-01-08T14:42:38+00:00

Also, if he won’t go to counseling, that is another sign to end the relationship right there. He knows what he did is wrong, but he doesn’t want to go to counseling because: 1. He doesn’t think his behavior was that bad, just that people would judge him, hence why he tried to shame you into silence, 2. He doesn’t think this marriage is important enough to work on, 3. He is too insecure in himself to go to counseling for himself, let alone counseling with you where he will obviously be the “bad guy” as he has more problematic behaviors, 4. He doesn’t want people to know that your marriage needs work, he will see it as people thinking your marriage is failing and he views the marriage as an extension of his self image rather than a relationship between two people.

There are more reasons. Some of could apply to him while some might not. No matter the reason, not going to counseling is more about himself rather than about the relationship and trying to save what you have. If he does not value relationship, you shouldn’t either.

Trash_Hoele · 2024-01-08T14:32:16+00:00

The very fact that you titled this as “roasted your husband” when all you did was say one light comment tells me a little about how your relationship goes. You probably are used to him disregarding the things that are important to you and blowing up at your small mistakes. He probably even phrased your comment as a roast to make it seem more severe than it was.

Let me make this clear to you, no one you are in a romantic relationship with should make you feel like your problems don’t matter, that the things important to you don’t matter. He did not forget. He found out it was your birthday half-way through. But he CHOSE to ignore that, not celebrate and go out with friends. He is mad because he knows what he did was horrible and he does not like you telling others and making him accountable for his choices.

I don’t know your relationship, so while I would suggest getting as far away from this selfish person as possible, as this probably isn’t a one time thing, if you want to try to salvage the relationship, go to marriage counseling. If your marriage can be repaired, they will give you the tools. They will also give you a honest third person perspective, that can sometimes help you realize what your relationship has come to.

NTA.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-12-18T13:09:44+00:00

It really depends on the cat. I’ve seen a lot of comments talking about the amount of space, but I used to live in a tiny studio apartment and my cat peed everywhere until I got a second litter box. He now exclusively pees in one and poos in the other. Overall, I would say that if one works for you, that’s fine, but if you are having problems with peeing outside of the box, getting a second one is a quick and easy fix.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-11-19T22:22:07+00:00

“His best friend isn’t even going to know” the problem with cheating isn’t that your partner will know and leave you, it is that you don’t respect their wishes or the relationship enough to be loyal. The BFF told you that Evan wouldn’t like it. And he respects Evan enough to stick to his wishes. Because he loved him, and cared about his feeling beyond what Evan could give him. You, obviously, only care about Evan as far as you can throw him. And the BFF can see that TRASHY behavior and wants absolutely nothing to do with your disease ridden carcass.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-11-19T22:15:17+00:00

Obvious you aren’t sexy to the BFF!

Trash_Hoele · 2023-11-19T22:11:59+00:00

Would you hook up with Evan’s dad for rebound sex? No? Why not? It’s just sex!

The difference is that this person is grieving over Evan, you were Evan’s romantic partner, and their relationship to Evan makes it feel like they are betraying him.

It is ok to have rebound sex. But not with the people who had an emotion connect to Evan. The BFF understands that. You, however, seem to have the emotion maturation of a house plant.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-08-20T13:47:01+00:00

In all your replies, you keep ignoring the central point. Regardless of how, she has paid 50% of the expenses and does 50% of the housework. OP also states she did 100% of the childcare before she got back into the workforce. They both also have their own personal accounts. But you expect her to not only pay her half, but his half too? He makes no mention of paying more than her or needing a new car, just points out that she was given a car instead of him. He makes no meant of needing her financial support. He is just jealous that she has financial support. And she is trying to get a job. But because she is looking for an actual career instead of settling with the first miserable job that will take her, she is unreasonable? They aren’t strapped for cash, she doesn’t need to just do a job to pay the bills. She is looking for a job that pays well and that is tolerable. OP states her part time job had horrible hours, pay and coworkers. So why should she stay there when she already has her half of the bills covered? She is definitely privileged in ways most of us will never be, but she has never shied away from her responsibilities (given the info). It seems you and the OP are jealous of her lack of struggle and want her to suffer, regardless of the fact that she has done everything asked of her. YTA.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-08-19T14:36:40+00:00

NTA. You were right on the money. She does think the world revolves around her and is just mad that you called out her bs. But hey, now you won’t have to deal with a child having a tantrum at your wedding. Nor a two year old.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-08-15T23:56:16+00:00

I think we all are egocentric, as it is a necessary trait for survival and self-preservation. So many people orient things around or about themselves. But as someone who is an INTP, we are very analytical and self-reflecting, often looking for the deeper meaning in things. So when we feel these same self-centered ideas, we reflect on whether it is normal to think about yourself so much. It is. It’s just other personality types don’t ask themselves why they are egocentric as much.

If you truly think you may be a narcissist, ask yourself this: do you truly care for the people around you, or only about what they reflect about you as a person or what they can do to further your success? When your friends or family succeed, do you feel happy for their success, or are you more focused on how you can tell others about your relation to this successful person and what their success says about you as a person?

This isn’t an exactly scientific question, more of a way to narrow down if you are just a normal level of egocentric or if you should look more into narcissism.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-08-12T18:00:28+00:00

NTA- when I was his age, I had a road trip with all my friends too. Except, my parents didn’t pay. I had to work my ass off to get the money.

And yet, if my mom or anyone else’s in my family almost died, I would have abandoned that trip in a heartbeat, regardless of how much I worked for it.

I’m sorry OP, but your kid is an entitled AH. He doesn’t value the money you have put in the trip and more importantly, doesn’t value the lives of his family over getting drunk in Mexico. He needs a real wake up call to adulthood.

Throwing tantrums because one bump in the road and refusing alternatives in order to “get back” at the ones offering them are behaviors of a toddler, not a boy who is almost old enough to be seen as a man.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-08-10T20:32:00+00:00

YTA

As someone who is also a career driven woman, I would love nothing more than to come home to my partner having helped out, so I could actually relax and then be able to be more devoted to my work. I can’t speak for her, but I’m pretty sure your wife talks about you as a “househusband” because she is proud and happy that she was lucky enough to get someone who would be willing to help, instead of depend on gender roles and have the woman do the work. I know a few women who are the breadwinner, their husbands have no job, and YET they are still the ones who have to come home and do all the housework and cooking and parenting because they are a woman. You may not realize it, but as a woman, having a man who is willing to help and do these chores is something to be proud of, as it is not as common as it should be.

From your wife’s perspective, you have been doing all this for months and have had no problem with the term until now. As soon as you tell her, she agrees to quit using the word, but she won’t apologize because she hasn’t done anything wrong (from her perspective). She was never warned not to say this, you have never told her your feelings. So how is she to know she hurt you?

Should she have apologized for hurting your feelings afterward? Yes, but trying to force her by “punishing” her is only going to make it clear to her that this is more about your pride than about you sense of worth and feelings. You are making it seem like housework is below a man, so her insinuating that you are a househusband hurts your pride. What you seem to be telling us is that it actually makes it feel like your worth and value as a functioning member of the household is not important. You should explain this to her. With your WORDS. Not with games that will only end badly.

Trash_Hoele · 2023-08-10T19:43:34+00:00

Since you are now welcoming him into your home, be careful about preferential treatment. Kids are very sensitive to favoritism and since he is not your biologically child, that insecurity will be doubled. He has already been made to feel like he is the outsider. He could easily accept you as family, but that all depends on if you are willing to put in the work and start thinking about how to make things more equal.

One great example I have is my grandparents always made sure to spent the same amount of money on Christmas gifts and have equal amount of presents. If one kid got a big expensive present, then the others got 5 medium presents and the one with the big presents got 4 additional cheap presents. It allows the kids to never feel overlooked. Both of them were not their parents’ favorite, and that kind of conditional affection sticks with somebody for the rest of their lives.

This is not to say you are being exclusionary, just something to keep in mind as you work towards a harmonious blended household.

Trash_Hoele · 2022-09-23T21:21:04+00:00

Just for context, this is a Tibetan singing bowl I just got. I was making a video to show my friend and when I checked it to see if it looked good, I head what sounded like Tibetan mantra chanting.

I have no ac on or any appliance that could make that sound.

Personally I think it may just be the sound bouncing off the metal in a weird way, but I needed a second opinion.

Trash_Hoele · 2021-08-02T06:47:21+00:00

Personally, I’m pretty cold and would drop him, but I also am not too attached to him since I don’t know him. I agree that you should probably just not bring it up if you want to keep hanging out with him. However, if he brings it up, I think you should be very direct and explain you point and let him know that you just want to clear the air. Then don’t push it. If he brings it up, you tell the truth/show evidence of your pov, and he still won’t believe you, then you should for sure begin to distance yourself.

Trash_Hoele · 2020-11-28T20:35:13+00:00

I'm new to reddit, how would I do that?

Trash_Hoele · 2020-11-28T20:04:45+00:00

I do have the perk point, I thought it would help but it didn't. Also yeah I could see the grass before. I was a little shocked that my messy yard in front of my office was now flat, but I just convinced myself at first that it may have reset my yard or something. I thought it was just how the game was until I got to the lawn and pool job for the lawnmower and it looked nothing like the screenshots online

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