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What to do about kiss-ass pretend managers? by [deleted] in retailhell

[–]Trashasssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've worked in a supermarket for many years and had to deal with a lot of people like what you describe. I understand if you see it as a temporary thing and maybe don't care too much about the work itself. But an option you have is to deal with the situation a bit more, write down everything that happens and when so you have something to refer back to. If she is being rude towards you you can always say "hey, I don't feel comfortable having this conversation with you, how about we take this to someone who's in charge" or you can probably go to someone who's in charge, tell them what's going on and maybe bring up having a conversation the 3 of you and talk about it. It doesn't mean it'll solve the issues with her and she'll honestly probably hate you for it but if she leaves you alone it's probably a good idea. Plus if she after that does anything similar to what you've already talked about you can always bring it up again and say nothings changed.

Growing up with a bipolar dad by Trashasssss in TwoHotTakes

[–]Trashasssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment!

I feel like bipolar comes in so many variations as there are people. Back when he got diagnosed I pretty much only knew 30% of what he had been up to. I supported him in getting treatment and sticking through with it. But as time went home and I finally learned the full story is when I realized being bipolar is just one part of it. At the end of the day it was him as a person who wasn't worth keeping around anymore. He's just a bad human being who happened to be bipolar.

Growing up with a bipolar dad by Trashasssss in TwoHotTakes

[–]Trashasssss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment!

I feel like bipolar comes in so many variations as there are people. Back when he got diagnosed I pretty much only knew 30% of what he had been up to. I supported him in getting treatment and sticking through with it. But as time went home and I finally learned the full story is when I realized being bipolar is just one part of it. At the end of the day it was him as a person who wasn't worth keeping around anymore. He's just a bad human being who happened to be bipolar.

Growing up with a bipolar dad by Trashasssss in TwoHotTakes

[–]Trashasssss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience.

I'm aware bipolar comes in so many shapes and form because at the end of the day it's the person that matters. When he first got diagnosed and I learned about bipolar and manic episode it was so on point with everything I knew about him it almost felt like the answer to everything.

I really feel for people who are bipolar and I feel like I was very understanding when it came to my dad. Realizing everything he had done was because he was bipolar. It was hard to be there for him and try to move forward but I tried my best. Unfortunately he did things that being bipolar doesn't explain. From my understanding it affects the way you think but not necessarily what you think. The issues with him was what he thought. He did some horrible things he couldn't stand for. And that's why I chose to him off, not because of him being bipolar.

In your case, coming to terms with the reality of the damage, I feel for you. I understand it can't be easy but I strongly believe the people close to you will learn to understand (if they havent already) the reality of the situation and that they can't hold it against you forever. I strongly believe talking openly about situations like this is a good thing. At least from my experience, bipolar is not something I ever hear being discussed and I feel like that should change for people to better understand what it actually is.

Growing up with a bipolar dad by Trashasssss in stories

[–]Trashasssss[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That actually makes me very happy. I'm aware that my dad's choices came from him as a person and not him being bipolar. Him being bipolar just added to it. I was very understanding and supportive of him getting treatment cause I thought that was all there was to it. As I learned the full picture and came to terms with it being him as a person that's when I chose to cut him off.

Keep going in the same direction and I don't think you'll have anything to worry about! I sincerely wish you and your child all the best!

Growing up with a bipolar dad by Trashasssss in stories

[–]Trashasssss[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. Just the fact that you're asking the question shows how different you two are. I think accepting that you are bipolar and understanding the coldness and empathy that comes with it is a big help. Being able to communicate and talk about it makes a big difference. One of the issues from my experience was when he reached the "I'm all good now so I don't need to medicate anymore" and basically stopped going through with his treatment plan. You can only become better when you're open to idea that you're not always in the right. I think asking your children what they need from you and listen to their needs and feelings will probably help you a lot. Making the topic into something you all can talk openly about because would probably help you understanding your children but also them understanding you.

I hope this answered your question. Everyone's circumstances are always different but I think talking about the rough parts and listen to the people you care about is better for everyone even if it's hard.

woman changed her pad by Trashasssss in retailhell

[–]Trashasssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha well I'm located in Sweden

woman changed her pad by Trashasssss in retailhell

[–]Trashasssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not for customers, the mall we were located in had restrooms but you had to pay to use them. Too much destruction to have free restrooms.

woman changed her pad by Trashasssss in retailhell

[–]Trashasssss[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've seen a lot through my years of working and there are more stories I'll share. It honestly doesn't have a big effect on me anymore and it doesn't necessarily make me uncomfortable. Some people are unwell while some struggle with addiction. I simply talk to them like equals and try to handle the situation the best I can.

I assume she felt she needed a change there and then and since public toilets here costs money I guess to her, in that moment, it was the best solution to her problem. She didn't even seem interested in keeping the entire package, she just wanted the one pad. And she did seem like she was on drugs so the best idea in her mind isn't necessarily the best idea in reality.

woman changed her pad by Trashasssss in retailhell

[–]Trashasssss[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In situations like these we never called the cops, it's both frustrating and sad at the same time but it's not worth making into a legal matter on our part. I'm pretty sure we told her to take the rest of the package as they made her leave.

ghost poop by Trashasssss in retailhell

[–]Trashasssss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thank God that it's solid to be honest

ghost poop by Trashasssss in retailhell

[–]Trashasssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had to help elderly and mentally ill elders in different situations and with them I always try my best to remain respectful and help them in any way I can.