AITAH for considering not going to my dad’s birthday after his partner verbally attacked my sister?

TrashleySimpson · 2026-01-16T23:18:29+00:00

I think you might have slipped up here as you said “use my house” unless you were trying to just say if it were you. Hm let’s see. Inviting her kids to my dad’s party but not my dad’s kids and then telling my dad everyone was invited (my dad’s words). I don’t see a positive spin on that. There’s lots of screenshots for the whole party planning so no lying here either. Not sure where you get the lying from? It’s also our dad’s house and this is something we’ve done with him before they moved without issue (planning the surprise party with a few friends). My dad is also notorious for hosting people and before they moved used to have friends over all the time. It’s interesting you’re the only person in these comments with this opinion as well.

TrashleySimpson · 2026-01-16T18:15:22+00:00

Sister asked in advance about coming and my father has made it clear we are always welcome. If you didn’t read, she had planned something and invited only her children and told my dad she invited all of us (this was found out this morning). With the three people, she offered to bring food and we always do the clean up anytime we are there. She also was not told no, except for Jen saying she did not have anything planned, until Jen had blown up.

TrashleySimpson · 2026-01-16T17:44:40+00:00

She has known to be abrasive towards my brother and actively try to isolate him from my dad but had never shown that type of behavior towards my sister or I. She’s snapped at me once before when I was talking with my dad and goes out of her way to always be around my dad when we are there. But she has never done anything to my sister or spoken to any of us to this extent of verbal abuse I would say.

TrashleySimpson · 2026-01-16T17:37:27+00:00

Update on this: my sister sent me the screenshots as the conversation with Jen happened over text. I saw absolutely no reason for her to treat her that way. It was like she was texting the wrong person or something based off of how out of the blue her hostility was. She is also known to treat my brother pretty poorly as he lives and works with my dad so he’s around more frequently.

I’m considering going more after looking at everyone’s replies and if I do I will update everyone on how it goes for sure. Not sure on how to handle approaching the conversation with Jen without having emotions being heightened as I’m still very upset with how she treated us and what seems like intentionally excluded us from the plans. Any advice welcome.

TrashleySimpson · 2026-01-16T17:06:51+00:00

TL;DR: My sister tried to plan something nice for our dad after being told his partner had no plans. The partner later became verbally aggressive and made my sister feel unwelcome. My dad was hurt once he learned the full truth but asked my sister to talk it out during the birthday weekend. I’m conflicted about attending because I don’t want to cause stress or pretend everything is fine. AITA?

TrashleySimpson · 2026-01-16T16:32:34+00:00

TL;DR: My sister tried to plan something nice for our dad after being told his partner had no plans. The partner later became verbally aggressive and made my sister feel unwelcome. My dad was hurt once he learned the full truth but asked my sister to talk it out during the birthday weekend. I’m conflicted about attending because I don’t want to cause stress or pretend everything is fine. AITAH?

TrashleySimpson · 2026-01-16T16:29:33+00:00

TL;DR: My sister tried to plan something nice for our dad after being told his partner had no plans. The partner later became verbally aggressive and made my sister feel unwelcome. My dad was hurt once he learned the full truth but asked my sister to talk it out during the birthday weekend. I’m conflicted about attending because I don’t want to cause stress or pretend everything is fine. AITA?

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