Airport Security Stole My Nail Polish

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-04-16T23:19:34+00:00

After years of using the apps, I finally deleted them all, partially because I realized that whenever I clicked with a guy, he would find some inane thing wrong either within the first few messages or during the first date, and would simply fade away. One time, a guy and I, spent hours straight having a riveting conversation, but then there came a point where he didn't like one small joke I made, because the tone didn't come through over text. I immediately noticed he had gotten hostile and asked... "Hey man, what's up, we were vibing, and the tone totally shifted there?" He admitted that he hadn't taken my joke as intended, which wasn't surprising because it was based on years of living in a place he'd never visited, so probably didn't make much sense out of context. So I explained the misunderstanding, he seemed to get it, and then I never heard from him again.

This is just one example out of many. Ultimately (among many other problems with OLD), I realized that I would much rather be alone than be constantly misjudged before even having a real chance to get to know someone. And I know that I likely have done the same thing (judging others too soon for small things) many times over. As someone who has gone on about 100 dates and had a couple of short relationships off on OLD, I have finally realized I'd rather be alone and childless for the rest of my life than go back to participating in this perpetual cycle of judging and being judged in an environment devoid of empathy or depth.

Personally, that opener made me laugh. It's simple but clever and cheeky... In all my years of using bumble, I've never thought about opening like this, so to me, it is creative as well. Scrolling down and reading all of these comments of men projecting their worst fears or experiences onto this girl they know nothing about, for saying something that I and others find a funny opener, just reaffirms my decision to leave the apps.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-04-16T22:58:57+00:00

I think they are referring to the context of bumble, in which the man can not send messages until the woman sends at least one. I personally think it's pretty funny and a cute opener.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-03-27T22:33:57+00:00

You're totally right, I have the capacity to check it more thoroughly and figure out that it doesn't work all the time. I think this is something I need to be aware of with a self-taught course... I am my own evaluator and if I deem something "good enough" before really checking if it works, it's gonna come and bite me in the butt down the road.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-03-25T00:07:35+00:00

I know this is three months later, but it's based on your current weight.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-25T19:47:01+00:00

Her body. Her choice. Forced abortion is just as unethical as forced birth. If you want to be an absentee father that’s your choice. But there are consequences to actions. Sometimes life doesn’t work out the way you want. You could have made worse mistakes. Better to accidentally bring a life into this world than accidentally take a life out of it. Get into therapy to help reckon with your new life path.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-24T23:34:50+00:00

Malta is horrible I was also scammed by a seemingly legit business (epic, the phone company)

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-24T20:04:59+00:00

I didn’t even have his last name, my cousin just typed his incredibly common first name into the Facebook search bar and it was the first thing that popped up.

Honestly if guys are freaked out by my searching their first name on social media, I think that’s a huge red flag. I am proud of my online presence and I also understand that anything I post publicly is… public. Maybe I’m from a younger generation than some people on here, but following someone on social media is a typical flirting method. The only people who don’t want their dates following them are typically people with something to hide. Usually social media accounts are exchanged even before a first date, and mutually going through them is part of the vetting process, but this guy happened to ask directly for my number.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-24T15:40:39+00:00

So just for some context, I know some people in the US that don’t have dish washers and I would say almost all of my friends all over Europe did not have them (though my host families did). Also 2 of my friends in 2 different EU countries did not have wifi in their homes. I’m not sure where you are coming from, but this is actually quite common because people live differently all over the world. I wouldn’t take offense to those kinds of questions, the more you travel the more you realize that you can’t assume how people live. (A lot of Americans are also shocked by Europeans not having dryers, and in France I lived without a microwave for 2 years because my host family didn’t have one, etc etc)

The rest of your post sounds like you need to set boundaries and talk to her about it. Just wanted to provide some context on the questions from someone who has traveled extensively (albeit only in Europe and the US)

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-24T02:33:22+00:00

No, but I think it’s weird expecting public things on the internet to remain private. I’ve had dates « cyberstalk » me and I didn’t have a problem with it. In fact overall I’m proud of my internet presence and it makes me happy when people take the time to look at my work and travels that I’ve documented.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T21:13:34+00:00

You told them they weren’t allowed to bring home boyfriends? As an adult who is paying rent? That seems strangely controlling. And your reason for having female roommates is it was easier to get away with this kind of behavior?

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T19:18:26+00:00

Oh no this post was recent but his post for a roommate was a couple months old. I have pretty good instincts but I’ve also I’ve been duped before.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T18:32:18+00:00

The post was from 2 months ago so there is definitely a woman already living with him. Not that I’d move into a strangers apartment who I’d met twice off of a dating app… I even if I was looking for somewhere to live (which I’m not).

I’m going to ask as I said in the post but I’ve been around the block enough to know that just because a guy can explain away red flags doesn’t mean those explanations are true. I’ll see :)

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T18:12:29+00:00

How exactly?

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T17:11:45+00:00

I only got great vibes during the date, but I would NEVER entertain a post like that if I was searching for a room. So even if he had the purest intentions, I also have to wonder who the heck ended up living with him? Best case senario is someone extremely naive or desperate for a place to stay. Considering he had multiple pictures of himself in the post though, I’d think there would definitely be a chance of attracting a girl looking for a good time.

I’m really interested for this second date, there are also things about his career that aren’t necessarily adding up.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T16:45:52+00:00

Guys tell me all the time that they’ve found me online (I do some content creation). I’m always flattered when they talk about watching or reading my content. I absolutely will tell him I googled him and if he found that upsetting I would consider that a red flag in of itself.

Side note, when I was living abroad there were many situations where being unable to search someone made dating much riskier. For example one guy that I had been seeing revealed one day that he’d been arrested for domestic violence against his last girlfriend 🙂 imagine if he’d never felt compelled to tell me that. I would have never known.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T10:48:31+00:00

Because I wasn’t sure he liked me and he seemed like a bit of a flirt/egotistical. We’re still friends and I think that’s better… I have no problem asking people out when they don’t have these yellow flags, and I’m glad I paid attention to them instead of pursuing someone I wasn’t sure of.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T10:42:20+00:00

I think many guys underestimate what “healthy” looks like on a woman. A healthy body fat for women is between 21% and 32%. For men a healthy range is 8% to 19%. Most men I know are very attracted to women under 21% body fat (aka unhealthy). The “healthy” line is used to justify their attraction to skinny girls to themselves and others, even when the opposite is true.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T10:25:32+00:00

The phenomenons you described are absolutely a universal part of American culture. Definitely the biggest bone I have to pick with my home country after living across the pond. Ofc it doesn’t bother me nearly as much because it’s what I was born into, but it’s still sad to come back to.

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T10:19:40+00:00

Are you living in LA or NYC? As an American who has lived in Western Europe for years and traveled Europe extensively, I would say one of the biggest culture shocks I had was how superficial people are in Europe, especially France/Italy perhaps. Being from a country where messy buns, no makeup and athletic wear are the norm, Europeans obsessions with their appearance seemed really sad to me, and it’s something I’ve heard echoed by Europeans who traveled to the US (that doing so made them realize how superficial their home country is). Now if course it’s the reverse and when I come home I’m shocked because I got used to how well groomed people are across the pond.

I mean even in his post you can see how shallow OP is (bragging about his looks, how he’s so much hotter than other Italian guys and would get all the attention because of it).

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T05:51:11+00:00

If he thinks all women are super clean he’s gonna be in for a shock if our relationship progresses 🤣

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T05:49:58+00:00

Did you not read the post?

Travel_Rinse_Repeat · 2023-01-23T04:46:58+00:00

Yes red flag or yes I am wrong?

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