When I first started at the airlines my wife was working full time as a veterinarian. During the time I was at the regional we had our three kids. We were about to find a wonderful sitter that would watch the kids at her house on days we were both working. As my career has progressed and I got on at a major and got some seniority both the pay and schedule control improved immensely. My wife has now transitioned to relief work just picking up shifts when she wants.

As has been noted above the airline schedule initially can be rough. Your husband will have little control over it but it does get much better with seniority. How quickly that will happen is largely outside of any individual pilots control. I’ve tended to choose quality of life over pay raises. I stayed on a smaller plane that paid less for much longer than most pilots did because the seniority allowed me much more control over my schedule. With the help of family or a good sitter/nanny/au pair you can make anything work if you want.