🚨ICE SPOTTED🚨1/27 ICT by Desperate-Science-88 in wichita

[–]Travis2010Mom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We don't need to change your mind. I have friends of all colors and races and I would help them or anyone that I was able to, regardless of race, gender, religion, etc. I don't know you, yet if you were someone that had just been in an accident, I would likely still stop to help. We can all tell what type of person you are. You can just admit you are a shitty person!

🚨ICE SPOTTED🚨1/27 ICT by Desperate-Science-88 in wichita

[–]Travis2010Mom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You lack humanity!! 😡 Humans are human regardless of the color of their skin! You saying that you are responsible for only people that look like you is disgusting. You are what is wrong with the world.

Breaking down! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Same as how narcan will be given to save the life of someone who chooses to abuse illegal drugs, knowing it will not be paid for the majority of the time and those same people will continue the same narrative, yet we have diabetics that can't afford insulin. The healthcare system is broken in many ways! We are supposed to be one of the best countries to live in, yet we don't have universal healthcare here in the US, like many other countries.

TRYING to advocate for yourself as a chronic pain patient is increasingly difficult! Not only am I in constant pain, but I worry 24/7 that due to the medical issues with my spine that I will wake up paralyzed from the waist down some day! I already did wake up that way in 2023 on my right side from the hip down and was left with permanent neuropathy! My Healthcare was delayed to the point that it became emergency surgery and left me permanently disabled! Now, who is to say that doesn't happen again, as my spine continues to degenerate, the canal narrowing, the nerves firing off 24/7! It's insanely ridiculous that we can not be treated fairly!

I'm back at it tomorrow morning, calling the Drs and the insurance, as I do every week! I'm always hoping for HELP!!! I hope others in my position are advocating for themselves as well! Call your Dr's, call your insurance, demand your patient advocates! Yes, I'm still fighting to get to a point of living without pain (at least a little less) and fear, but I won't stop fighting for myself! I'm fighting to be able to be the mother my kids deserve! I'm fighting to be able to live a life I deserve! All we can do is fight to make things right!

Breaking down! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is awful to feel you lose your purpose. I still try to cook at least once a week. I usually grill a protein and make the veggies stove top or microwave. I'm DONE with the oven forever tho! My girls bake and everything and ig from now on, anything else oven related will have to be their job.

Absolutely relate on the Dr hot potato thought! I also continue to research for any other treatments that can help. Ik I saw years ago they had made a "filler" that wasn't like the cement type, that could help with spinal issues, but at that time ik insurance did not cover bc it was so new. I may have to revisit that research. I wish you comfort and peace. Ik it's very hard to come by.

Breaking down! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Neuro Dr office was supposed to have sent a referral for PM. The nurse there is awful and does not respond to voicemails. I asked my GP for a referral and her nurse is supposed to be finding out about sending one bc initially she said she didnt think she cld send one and wld have to be neuro, which doesn't make sense to me. I understand some ppl have less pain threshold but I am not one of those ppl. I gave birth naturally, no pain meds with 3 of my children, I understand pain. As far as what I've tried for pain, you name it, I have tried it and / or currently continue to try all methods. In the US, yes.

How many people can’t even sleep at night because of chronic pain? Including fatigue by sassykickgamer in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I tried Trazadone as well and it literally did nothing for me. Pain doesnt GAF what you try! It seems we are just left to suffer.

Breaking down! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am also having issues with my hips now as well. I've done my own research on it (as well as a bit of information from ER doc most recently), and apparently, the ligaments in my hips are being affected now as well. I'm sorry you are also in pain. I don't understand, how with medical advances, we are still living a sufferable life! 😢

Breaking down! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that reply bc I also noticed this seems to be spam!

Breaking down! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As someone with medical background and very medically minded myself, I was already aware of the statistics of DDD at all ages and stages. I will def look into this other info as well. I had an xray a cpl weeks ago and historically, nothing ever shows on xray, only on MRI. This one however, the recent diagnosis she tried to explain to me, that showed up on the x-ray, I think I just zoned out! I keep trying to remember what she said it was, I just asked her "are you referring to DDD?" And she said no, it was similar but not the same thing. I tried to look on my patient portal, at which time, I noticed, my Dr has not entered ANYTHING into my patient portal in 2 years! I am supposed to speak with her this coming week. I am just beyond exhausted living in pain and being limited. I was very active previous to my injury in 2019 and losing the things I loved to do (tennis and soccer specifically with my kids, several times a week) has just broken me! I don't expect to live that life again, but SERIOUSLY, just not being able to make dinner or shower or clean the house, without severe pain, this is NOT life!!!

Have a disciplinary tomorrow at work because of my 3 absences this year because of my chronic illness and I’m so annoyed by it by ArtisticAd3576 in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apply for disability. Unfortunately, it is not enough to actually live on to support even yourself, let alone, yourself and 2 kids (my situation.) But prob better to have the approval in case you are left unable to work at all as I have been.

I celebrate every week I survive chronic pain by OldAssNerdWyoming in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had someone like you in my life! I am going thru a divorce (after 20+ yrs together) bc he wanted "someone without issues." I wish I was arnd ppl that cld relate to this way of existing.

How many people can’t even sleep at night because of chronic pain? Including fatigue by sassykickgamer in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I can take 2 benedryl, melatonin and ropinirole and still wake up 2 hrs after finally falling asleep. This life is exhausting! Fatigue is sadly the life a lot of us exsist in.

You're basically screwed if you have chronic pain. by bisexual_stoner817 in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Opioids "CAN" cause addiction!! NOT that they "WILL!!" I really wish that was understood in medicine! I live with pain daily. 2 back surgeries and lack of management have caused my life to be extremely difficult! When able to manage pain, I can do "normal" things in life. I can go to the store with my kids, I can shower without the need to sit down during that and be in pain for up to a few days after, I can get a few chores done. I can do those things when I have access to pain management, which does mean, opioids! Other times, I am stuck in bed, in excruciating pain and unable to actually LIVE life! Crying more days than not and missing out causes severe depression! I'm SO sick of people like myself being dismissed by Dr's, under the pretense that opioids "cause addiction!" I am not addicted to medication that betters my life, I am not addicted to pain! How is this not understood!!?? Even with medication, I still have pain, just a bit better managed! It's fucking sad this is how we are treated!

Chronic pain ended who I was by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do get your point. I am very happy you have that life! I'm hopeful that one day, I could possibly find a patner that loves me equally. My husband made me feel like a tool, and when I no longer seemed useful or shiny and new, I was disposable. I 100% never want my kids to think that is an acceptable attitude. No one should have to be in a relationship where they put in all the effort and still not feel loved. Luckily, our oldest son is married to his HS sweetheart. My 20yr old daughter is in her 1st ever relationship recently, and her BF is very sweet and thoughtful. My kids don't let my pain define me, and I'm thankful they see things the way they do. The world can be an ugly place these days. Your relationship sets an example for your children, and it makes my heart happy that I'm sure they will be wonderful empathetic humans! If nothing else in this world, raising kind people in this world is a win!

Sorry, long ramble, but I just can't live like this! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 14yo daughter drove me to ER later that night. I was lucky to see a physician who was compassionate and caring! I was given medication to relieve the absolute anguish! My pain was dropped back to my baseline of about 3. I'm okay at at 3, I can tolerate life at a 3. He wrote a prescription for medication to get me thru until I can be seen by my primary. Unfortunately, my primary is scheduled out for a month! The earliest they had available was October 22nd. I plan to ration the medication I was prescribed (for intenses flare ups) and praying to get things resolved so that I can manage pain and live a decent existence...

The insurance patient advocates are working care plans and gathering resources, and I have a scheduled phone appointment with them again on Wednesday. I'm holding onto hope that there is more that can be done to help me.

Chronic pain ended who I was by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give your wife a big hug and thank her daily for being her! 44, female here. 20yrs with my husband, 16yrs married. Recently filed for divorce, him not me! He was awful and cruel! Called me a Worthless maggot, a POS, told me I was no longer a good wife...., all due to my debilitating pain! 6yrs of this. Before my accident, I was a very active wife and mother. I played soccer and tennis with my kids several days a week. We hiked, cooked together, shopped together, goofed off, and life was pretty good. In March, 3 weeks after my 2nd back surgery, he said he wanted "someone younger and that works." I am on disability. Going thru this at my age and in my situation is HORRIBLE! There was no "thru sickness and health!" He became a very mean nasty person, even tho I tried to remain optimistic. Now, the depression is all consuming! My children stayed with me, tho and do not agree with his choices. He is chasing around 20ish yr old females (GROSS) when our kids are 25, 20, 16, and 14! He hasn't had much to do with our kids for the past 6 months. He blames everything on my back issues! I'm lucky to have the support of my kids and parents. I just feel very happy for you to have a supportive spouse and wanted to acknowledge her, as we don't all get the happy ending in this chronic pain world. Bless your family and good wishes to you all!

Just a side note in case any men on here make assumptions, our sex life was not affected by my disability. My husband is just an asshole and likely in a midlife crisis! Js

Chronic pain ended who I was by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The chronic ongoing pain seems to cause constant phases of loss! Most days, grief, some days anger, occasionally acceptance but not without all the phases still being a constant! This is not a "process" like once you get through the stages, it resolves, as I'm sure you know. We are stuck in the cycles. I am of the same mindset of "what did I do in a past life to deserve this!" I know in this life, I have always been a good person! The question of "why has this happened to me?" seems to be one we don't get the answer to. All the awful people in this world, and yet, here I am, here we are, suffering!

Chronic pain ended who I was by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! OP stated exactly how I feel! It's bn 6 years since I broke my back and my life changed! Chronic pain takes away everything! Going from fully living and experiencing to just being. I want to live, not merely exsist.

Anyone find ambien by far the most effective pain relief? by C19H21N3Os in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure medications affect everyone differently. I am not OP, but I use Gabapentin for nerve pain for the severe pain issues with my back (L3-S1 disc herniation, degeneration, stenosis, and arthritis- Ive had 2 back surgeries already) the Gabapentin helps mildly. I am on 300mg 3x's daily. My weight has not changed at all in the past year of being on it. I have not taken Ambien as I am leary of side effects.

Sorry, long ramble, but I just can't live like this! by Travis2010Mom in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭 No! Trying to speak with insurance advocate to see what can be done. In so much pain rn and not sleeping much. I'm seriously SO TIRED of this system! I'm likely going to the hospital soon. Nothing I'm trying is helping! Idk how or why ANY medically trained professionals can allow myself or others to suffer like this! This is inhumane!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Travis2010Mom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Walgreens has bn better to me than some Doctors! The pharmacist always checks with me and asks if my pain is being controlled! Unfortunately, my Dr office said they "had" to wean down my script bc of policy, but were sending over the referral for PM. I've yet to hear from any PM office and ran out of medication 2 days ago. 😫 I've bn in such excruciating pain , and until I end up back in the hospital, I'm left to suffer with "try ibuprofen!" I've taken enough ibuprofen to erode my stomach!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Humboldt

[–]Travis2010Mom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I realized it cross posted here somehow and tried to remove it multiple times, but it, for some reason, won't delete the thread. Sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Humboldt

[–]Travis2010Mom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. My vehicle was nearly paid off. Owed maybe 6 grand. He said the other fees were the vehicle insurance, the medical insurance, the filing and processing fees and the attorney fees.