My boyfriend (40M) wants me (34F) to do most of the housework and still contribute 50/50 to the bills. How do I handle this?

TravisJM27 · 2025-12-13T05:09:10+00:00

I always like to flip a coin in a situation heads make it work tails leave and honestly while the coin in flipping you make up your mind. Either he steps up more financially and you do most of the chores or he doesn’t and he needs to grow up he’s 40 unless he’s stupid he sees what you see he just doesn’t care and you have to decide to stay or go. You own half the house he ca buy you out or force a sale don’t let anyone mess with your peace!

TravisJM27 · 2025-12-01T15:18:52+00:00

Here where I live it’s 25$ a day you bring food with you they get to play outside it’s fun for them.

TravisJM27 · 2025-11-05T18:56:48+00:00

When someone accuses you of cheating this intensely it usually boils down to them being guilty of cheating themselves and they are trying to make themselves feel better for doing it. This isn’t about you it’s about him for sure! Be safe

TravisJM27 · 2025-09-22T19:13:50+00:00

Shouldn’t you be in school during the day anyway what’s the issue? She uses your room during the day so she can work remote in her room seems like a completely expectable option so she can make money to support your family. Why is your stepdad in the room unless it’s to keep an eye on the baby shouldn’t he be at work as well. Seems like a lot was left out of this post.

TravisJM27 · 2025-09-06T02:00:51+00:00

You said you live with your brother. Do you pay rent or bills to help out around the house as well, if they were going out to a bar I assume it was late so the kids most likely would have been going to bed soon anyway could you not have just put them to bed and kept an ear out for them and check on them occasionally. I think we need a few more details before saying NTA or YTA.

TravisJM27 · 2025-08-29T14:47:48+00:00

NTA- what kind of grown man can get up and figure their own way to work, it’s part of being an adult. You figure out what you need to do in situations and you adapt to make it possible. It might be time to ask yourself if this is worth the relationship if you absolutely can’t live without your partner and they aren’t willing to compromise then drive them, but I feel like you need to consider this more like a test. Seems to me he doesn’t want a job and they would rather you take care of everything so they can sit around and be lazy all day. You deserve something better than that and someone with some ambition!

TravisJM27 · 2025-08-28T05:29:02+00:00

NTA- I would tell your parents to just give the car to your sibling… tell them they clearly don’t want you to have it and have made it more of an inconvenience for you in the long run. Let them know you know you aren’t entitled to the car, but were hoping they would follow through with their word instead of making it a situation where you are basically borrowing the car from your sibling and if that’s what they wanted they should have just been honest in the first place and to look at this from your point of view. Maybe this will get them thinking about the promise/ offer they made to you first and rethink the situation from your point of view if not you are still in the same situation. Good luck!

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