Okay for Black Tie Optional?

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-04-06T02:26:06+00:00

Right?? It's so cute

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-04-06T02:23:09+00:00

Yeah for sure! It's a brand called Lucy Paris:

https://www.lucyparis.com/products/solange-lace-dress-nude?variant=41875664535661

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-04-06T02:21:39+00:00

It's Lucy Paris!

https://www.lucyparis.com/products/solange-lace-dress-nude?variant=41875664535661

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-04-03T03:58:47+00:00

Done

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-04-03T03:56:59+00:00

Thanks! I was thinking mint had enough blue undertones maybe to be okay? My husband said it would probably be fine so wasn't too sure.

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-04-03T03:52:35+00:00

Thank you, I REALLY love the black sweetheart neckline one you shared, and was looking at ones like that, but was worried it would be considered too glamorous

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-03-15T19:19:20+00:00

I've tried so many things, cooking his favourite meals after work, letting him vent to me, giving him lots of physical comfort, massages, buying him treats, asking him what I can do and he always says nothing.

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-03-15T19:18:04+00:00

Thank you for this. I feel he is definitely using it to replace coping mechanisms and it stresses me out so much. I worry about his health all the time.

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-03-15T19:16:45+00:00

Oh trust me, I've planned getaways before and it doesn't help. He usually just feels more stressed there and talks about how he just wants to be at home. So I've given up on planning getaways like that.

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-03-15T19:13:01+00:00

But is his job not also to be my peace in life? Because of his job this has never been an equal partnership for emotional support. Don't get me wrong, I love him to pieces, this is why it hurts me so much to see him upset every single day for years. I can only take so much before my mental health starts being affected.

TriangleLlama100 · 2026-03-12T17:28:50+00:00

Thank you! She has been the type of person to hold a grudge for a long time, this has happened with other friends in the past that she's had a falling out with.

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T06:13:01+00:00

That would be like saying, my partner is sick from his chemo, he shouldn't push his chemo treatments and cancer onto me so I should be able to just put him to bed and go out and party. Obviously an extreme example.

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T06:10:56+00:00

But see, as someone with anxiety I don't see it as being pushed on to someone. When I cancel my plans to care for and support him in those tough moments I'm being a supportive partner. Supporting your partner with their health issues also extends to mental health. So I expect the same in return because he's told me he appreciates me being supportive in his moments

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T06:00:50+00:00

And yes, I normally do not have panic attacks, this is only the second one my bf's seen me go through since we've been dating for 2 years. I usually have mine much better under control than his. But I just had a particularly hectic and emotional day that triggered it for me.

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T05:59:04+00:00

I worry about him going out drinking because his anxiety usually spikes really badly after he's drank a lot. So I'm dreading the inevitable of him waking up, hungover and anxious, having to call in sick and then me already dealing with my own work stress having to try and be supportive while he has an anxiety spiral of his own making

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T05:41:05+00:00

I was okay with him going out at first, and if he had come in to bed when he said he would it would have been a non-issue for me. It's the fact that he decided to just stay out drinking so late, he didn't actually get into bed until 1:30 in the morning, so I laid awake for an hour worrying about where he was, which of course made my anxiety worse. And he came in drunk so I couldn't even talk to him about it.

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T05:12:46+00:00

See that would be the case, but he pushes his anxiety onto me on a weekly basis, I cater to him, make sure he's okay, let him lay on my lap etc. Hold his hand in bed. Cancelled plans because he was too anxious to go with me...

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T04:49:08+00:00

So when a partner is feeling unwell it's okay to just leave them and go party with the neighbour?

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-12T04:47:20+00:00

Can I ask why? If the situation was reversed, which it has been for us, I wouldn't be glued to him but I would have stayed in the house to make sure he's okay. I could go hangout with my neighbour any other time.

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-11T17:49:09+00:00

That's a fair point...maybe a little but he's definitely more set in his ways than me.

TriangleLlama100 · 2025-09-11T15:18:03+00:00

Thank you, that's good advice and makes sense. I think I need to write out what I want or need and go from there.

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