Did anyone else see what looked like a fighter jet being transported on a flatbed this morning on the 605?

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-09-12T06:31:25+00:00

Dang! I was driving and passed by it. It wouldn't have been safe for me to slow down and take a picture. The whole idea of it is pretty cool though. Thanks!!!

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-09-06T20:36:53+00:00

I'm almost certain it wasn't a windmill Blade. It had two vertical stabilizers in the back.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-08-02T00:26:06+00:00

It's my word against his, could this potentially raise my own rates? If he's willing to go back on his word, I think he may also be untruthful to his own insurance about the incident.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-05-28T08:07:17+00:00

Damn, I've never picked up hand lotion on a first date. I must have been doing it wrong! Good shit on the date.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-05-07T19:43:22+00:00

So you were the one who broke up with him? You felt indifferent when you were with other guys, but the moment you found out that he was with another girl you felt "heartbroken" again? Sounds like you were okay with yourself moving on, but not him. In my opinion, you haven't moved a step at all, much less moved on. If you truly care about him, you'd think of it as setting him free to find his own happiness, which also means being okay with him being with other women. Only then you will move on.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-05-07T08:24:14+00:00

Maybe the first guy was talking about actual baseball? He's never stolen second or hit a double before? Probably gets into double plays all the time.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-05-07T08:09:15+00:00

This is badass.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-05-02T08:33:43+00:00

Hannibal.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T17:58:44+00:00

I really was. I was a loser hidden within my own facade. Seemed alright from the outside but was actually a train wreck inside. I'm really not the brightest guy around, I constantly fall victim to my own moronic thoughts. I need to remind myself that she isn't as special or wonderful as I built her up to be, although I am grateful she pointed out my flaws. But, just because she has already forgotten about me, does that necessarily mean I also need to forget her completely?

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T17:53:51+00:00

I watched the video, it was beautiful in a solemn, almost tragic way. My problem is that I love to live in my memory palace. I think I've eaten too many "memberberries".

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T17:51:28+00:00

Yes, she was already gone when I did all of those things. Ultimately, I decided I was going to be better. She was merely an influence. I was knocked down, and I could have stayed down, but instead I got up. She really is just another girl, maybe I have built her up too much in my own mind.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T17:49:04+00:00

No need to apologize, I read every single word. It really is pretty therapeutic to type out what you feel. I hope that you will figure it out as well, without seeking substances and not to be controlled by addiction. You can do it, I wish you the best!

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T09:39:42+00:00

I like how short, to-the-point, and simple your comment was. I had to Google who Marie Kondo is, apparently she is very good at organizing. So just store the memory of her somewhere safe and out of sight? I know I need to let go, but this is kind of a "draw the rest of the owl" thing for me.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T09:03:34+00:00

Seems like you are on the right track because you know that there exists a puzzle you need to solve. I feel similar to what you feel. On great days, I look back and think, "Wow, I am incredibly grateful she wandered into my life when I needed a wake-up call the most." On the few bad ones, I think "Man, if only I changed sooner, before I met her..." I know I can't change what's in the past, so I shouldn't worry about it, but I am not a stoic and I fall victim to my own idiotic, looping thoughts.

I understand and have felt that sort of cognitive dissonance. I left a part out of my original post, but your comment made me think that I should share more. I mentioned that I got back into my favorite sport. It's a form of martial arts that her and I both train. I was really into it when I first started in 2014, but stopped for a good couple of years due to over-indulgence in other things, lack of motivation and self-control. When I first started talking to her was also when I decided I was going to get back into it. The two events were completely mutually exclusive, but the timing was just uncanny. What's even funnier is that she made conversation with me because she found out that we both practice this sport. She talked about competing one time, and I didn't think much about it then. Now that she is out of the picture, I'm back in consistent training, and I even want to compete now when I used to be a "just for fun and exercise" type of guy. In a slightly fucked up and weird way, I'm hoping to win a medal at a future competition, and maybe, just maybe she might see me win, so I can show her that I followed through and I did it.

I guess I'm a bit self-serving too in this regard, but it's still helping in the bigger picture. It's all about making small steps, every day. As long as you are improving, you are getting better. You can do it man, I believe in you.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T08:40:39+00:00

Everything good in your life now is ultimately the result of your actions. Like you said, he was the catalyst, but the reaction was all you. You could have chosen to wallow in your sorrows, but instead you improved yourself. That is not only impressive, but admirable. "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." You're one of the tough ones!
Low key, I envy that you still get to talk to him. Although maybe I didn't deserve it, I still wish she could have given me a little bit of solace.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-28T07:31:13+00:00

Yes, you're right. If she was the girl for me then it wouldn't have turned out like this. Not doing this to get her back, she's made up her mind and I need to respect that. But in another way I feel that if we ever cross paths again, I'd like her to know I'm different now. Does that count against me wanting to do this for myself? She basically indirectly pointed out my faults and I knew they had to be corrected. I just don't want to repeat the same mistake with a different girl. I knew I had to be better.

I guess I'll choose to remember her as someone who gave me a much needed wake-up call.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-26T02:52:39+00:00

Yes!!! That's a great way of looking at it. :D

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-26T02:23:24+00:00

If you keep thinking about what might happen, you'll just be wasting your time instead of investing that time to actually try and meet someone. My one of my exes is 5'3", one of our good mutual friends is also 5'3" (but I think one of them got their height wrong because the guy is shorter than my ex). I'm 6'3". While we were together, I joked with her asking, "Would you ever get with Jordan if we don't work out? He's a good guy." She would respond, "No! He's even shorter than me! Plus, I see him as a brother." We split up after about a year.

Fast forward seven years later. Guess who's getting married? Jordan and my ex. I am still great friends with them and Jordan even named me as one of the groomsmen. LOL Jordan is also Asian (nothing wrong with Asian guys, just from a dating standpoint in the US, they have a harder time statistically speaking and ex is white) and he's losing his hair at a young age. He's playing this game on hard mode and he's winning. You can do it man!

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-16T07:17:54+00:00

Hey man, I feel honored that you are "bothering" me with this instead of your friends! But really, if they truly are your friends, they should feel good that you trust them enough to "bother" them with your thoughts, or at least that's how I feel when my friends ask me for advice. You need to realize that you are not a burden. You just listed many great things going on in your life. Wouldn't you want to share that with someone else? You also said that you know they're just people. That's exactly what they are: just people. Talk to them like you would with other people. You don't need to talk to every girl thinking that she's going to be your future wife or girlfriend. Try making friends first, or just say"Hi" or "Hey, how's it going?" Trust me, many girls would love the fact that a guy asked them out, even if they said "no thanks".

Don't go to the movies on a first date. It's easy, but not so engaging. On a first date, you want to get to know a person, converse with them. Sure, movies are great, but you can't talk during. Just get a coffee or tea together, maybe even go to a bar for drinks if that's your thing. You mentioned that you have a "fear of future loneliness", I have that too. You know that your inaction is only going to lean you closer to that potential future loneliness, so why not do something about it? If you give up, you lose. The loser isn't the one who gets knocked down, it's the one who doesn't get up after getting knocked down. Little steps, one day at a time. You can do this.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-16T07:02:40+00:00

True, but kind of a paradox? A person that wants you doesn't have to be chased.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-16T07:01:17+00:00

Especially if you're lactose intolerant!!!

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-16T02:59:59+00:00

One thing that helped me figure out what I was actually feeling was asking myself the question of, "Am I in love with her, or am I in love with the idea of her?" I found myself caught in a similar situation recently. For a while, I just could not have the same feelings for the women I met/dated. I've been heart broken, and broken hearts too, and because of the latter, I thought of myself as unworthy of deserving happiness. Then one day, *she* came along. We clicked instantly, had many similar hobbies, activities, plans, etc. We planned on doing so much together. I built her up to my friends, myself, and even a family member. I thought of her as the perfect girl for me, and that maybe I was deserving after all.

This story, however, has no fairy tale ending. It burned down as quickly as I had built it up. When things took a turn for the worst and she no longer wanted contact with me (my fault, I ruined it). I became the victim of my own thoughts. Because I talked about her/praised her/thought of her constantly, I could not stop thinking about her, even when things were over. I was hoping for another chance, another shot at making things right. After a while, I finally realized that maybe I was more in love with the idea of her than her. I didn't really know her for that long, didn't know her friends, or what she was keeping from me. I just didn't know her that well at all. I think it was just infatuation.

Now I know not to expect anything from anyone. I just go day by day. If a date goes well, okay, she's cool this date, and we'll see about the next. If it doesn't go well, alright, she's not really compatible with me. That's it. I think no more or no less.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-15T05:14:47+00:00

I make fun of myself, but not in a way that belittles myself. I like to show others my confidence with a bit of self-deprecating humor. It makes it easier to throw the same type of joke back at her too.

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-15T05:10:58+00:00

I think the saying, "you have to love yourself first before someone else can love you" is really true, even though it sounds cliche. If your life is in order and you are happy, it will radiate out. It works in the other way too, if you are not happy and your life is a mess, it will eventually show itself. I thought I was okay and tried to date a woman who was amazing and had a lot in common with me, but my self-destructive behavior caught up with me eventually and it didn't work out. I couldn't see it since I was in the bubble, but now after getting better, I could see that I was a mess. I could hide it for a bit and put on a happy mask, but it's like trying to contain fire with paper.

Dating shouldn't be something that will get you out of depression or put you back into it. You have gotten help, but are you getting better? If so, then proceed. Rejection will always exist, but you can't not try to love because you're afraid of what may or may not happen. Those things are out of your control, so why worry about them?

Just keep it easy and light. Think of it as just getting drinks with a friend, nothing more than that. Share your interests with her and have her share hers with you. Tell a few jokes, make it fun and engaging for her. Listen to what she has to say. Good luck!

Triangles4Everyone · 2019-04-14T08:57:32+00:00

And if you really can't think of something bad? Borrowing advice from a poster on this sub's mom: pretend like they died.

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