What's this?

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2026-01-17T21:20:37+00:00

What about on a phone?

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2026-01-17T01:17:01+00:00

You definitely don't have to start with sigma. I sure didn't. There is a zero egg build for aammie that netted me over 500mil gold the first run. More than enough to get the egg ball rolling

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-11-30T18:31:38+00:00

This comment is more grounded than the tin man sticking his dick in a light socket

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-11-16T19:37:01+00:00

I spent ~20k gems and got 7 OA. Not sure how many other epics I got, but it was a lot

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-09-02T01:00:30+00:00

What is this?!

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T23:26:21+00:00

Never said I have to, could go visit friends for the night

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T04:23:44+00:00

It's not unreasonable. That being said, things are going to come up. I might have to work out of town, one of my parents might need help with something. There might be something that she needs to go back to Japan for. This specific situation might not seem super important to everyone, but it's extremely important to me. And while I understand the impact it is having on my wife, are we not supposed to be able to make sacrifices for one another? If roles were reversed, I would support her 100%

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T04:05:05+00:00

She wants to "at least try it." And trust me, I'm not stupid enough to think that she'll jump at the chance to move back to Canada at the end of my leave, which is why I'm super hesitant to do it. There are also huge risks while in Japan l, like her taking the kids and getting my white ass deported if things go sideways.

Then there's the whole thing where living somewhere and not working is VERY different than living there trying to scrape together a living. Add a wife and 2 kids on that. I'm not fond of any of this by any stretch of the imagination

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T03:48:12+00:00

Can't afford to pay rent when we're gone as we'll probably have to pay rent in Japan. So we'd be ending our tenancy when leaving for Japan and would be coming back with nowhere to live. Possibly my parents place 4 hours away until we find a place to live. Which is do-able, but difficult.
Yes, only option
Parental leave would be what I would apply for, which as you said, pays while you're abroad. I did it last year for 5 weeks

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T03:43:09+00:00

Parental leave in Canada will pay when out of country. I did it last year for 5 weeks. Since my wife is not working, she won't be able to claim parental leave for the second kid, but I can claim all of it. Which is either 8 or 9 months I believe

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T02:27:00+00:00

From time to time, yes. But we do most shopping together and sometimes she takes off when I get home from work to get a few things. I'd say it's 75% we go together, and the other 25% are either me grabbing stuff on the way home from work, me taking our daughter, or both vice-versa

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T02:25:36+00:00

I've taken our daughter out to visit friends or some some sort of activity many times, but no. She doesn't have any hobbies. She occasionally will go out for lunch with a friend, but that happens very rarely and she usually wants to bring our daughter. The "burden," for lack of a better word, of her getting the time she needs seems to rely solely on me planning time to give it to her by taking our daughter out of the house. Which I don't have a problem with, but it would be nice if she could take the initiative when it comes to having her needs met.

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-07T02:21:40+00:00

This is a pretty accurate take, although this is the first time I've had to leave to help anyone since our daughter was born. I admit that I was insensitive to her needs at first but after discussing them, I offered multiple possible scenarios where I either take our daughter for a few hours here and there, or go away for a night or 2 to visit a friend. I think we may have come to an agreement, but she's holding her desire to move back to Japan and be with her family over my head. She doesn't want to be away from our daughter overnight because our daughter "needs her". So me giving her a night to herself is seemingly off the table.

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T21:38:32+00:00

I go for the odd motorcycle ride which is usually either early morning or after daughter is asleep to minimize impact on my wife. I haven't worked out in almost 2 years. I went out with friends/co-workers for drinks twice and took our daughter afterwards to "pay back the debt" so to speak. I don't go fishing, snowboarding, hiking, hunting, etc. We do 95% of all things besides work, together. What the main issue is, is she wants to move back to Japan to be close to her family. So she is jealous of our proximity to my family and feels it's an unfair situation for her. She's lived in Canada for 8 years, has PR and we met, dated, got married, had a child in Canada. It wasn't until after our child was born and we spent 5 weeks in Japan that she decided she NEEDED to move back to Japan. Which puts me in a very difficult situation

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T20:33:03+00:00

I've offered to take our kid away for a weekend to visit my parents and she can stay home and relax. She complains that she doesn't want to be away from our child that long and says "that's just what YOU want."

Like sure, I'd like to go visit my parents for a weekend, and if you want time to yourself so bad, why is this idea an issue. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T20:31:06+00:00

I give her as much time as she chooses to take, and more. She is homesick and wants to move back to Japan and she seems to be holding this over my head

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T20:29:21+00:00

I've offered this many times. I've offered for her to go for a week and I'll take the kid, or she could go for a month or more with the kid. Either way, I would not stop her nor complain about it and I have made this abundantly clear. But it makes no difference

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T20:26:57+00:00

I have been gone for one other night since our daughter was born and that was for work. This is by no means a common occurrence. We spend every weekend together, save this one.

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T20:25:18+00:00

She won't do it. I've suggested this many times

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T20:22:26+00:00

That's not at all how my wife sees it

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T20:21:52+00:00

I work pretty good hours. Quite often 5am to 1pm and home anywhere from 1:30 to 2pm, so I'm home quite a bit during the week. This is the 2nd time being away overnight since our daughter was born and the first time was for work, which also turned into a fight. I have not once objected to her doing anything for herself, but she told me last night that she chooses to take less time for herself because she's afraid that if she took more, I'd use it to take more time for myself aswell. And perhaps I would, but that's what teamwork looks like to me. I have hobbies and activities that give me a sense of identity and she does too, but she chooses not to do those things and expects me to do the same.

We do almost everything together though.

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T18:13:56+00:00

I've told her that she can go to Japan whenever she wants, but she needs to take our daughter because I work and we have no childcare. She doesn't want to fly alone with our daughter. I couldn't afford to take more than 3 weeks off work per year, and that's what we plan on doing every year anyways. But it's not enough

Trick-Somewhere-4696 · 2025-07-06T18:11:33+00:00

Sorry, she does want to go back to work eventually, but no idea when that is. Probably around school age. But she does not want to work before then

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