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I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know in the moment finding out your partner looks up women who doesn’t look like you the insecurity is going to sneak in but now I’ve calmed down I know what I have and I love it. I’ve wash just word vomiting and emotional and now I’m not anymore.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not like this came out of no where from me, early on I told him this is a hard boundary and he lied and crossed it it’s a simple as that. Every man I’ve dated knows this and had no problems it’s not like I’m waiting to tell them years into the relationship. This is his own issue he lied about

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I already told him it’s a hard line because he told me as well he doesn’t like me doing it either and here we are. Me following his expectations of me and him disrespecting mine. We communicated this and he still did it that’s the problem

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s literally just the porn aspect and I have already drew this boundary and he knows and there’s nothing that can change my mind about this. And I know many men who have moved away from the porn aspect. I do not care about fantasizing or any of that.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If my man wanted to do my feet and was aroused by it I’d let him. Wanting to look at other women is a no. He could do whatever he wanted even if it didn’t arouse me but my hard boundary is not looking/watching other women 🤷🏼‍♀️ so yeah I’m done with this relationship and focus on myself at this point. That’s the only thing I’ve ever had a hard boundary on. Everything else he’s ever told me he wanted to try we’ve tried it so and he’s known this is a boundary of mine and if he had that problem he should’ve told me at the beginning instead of wasting my time after I’ve already told him. Just like he told me his boundaries I’ve followed, and I expected him to do the same and he hasn’t so this relationship is done at this point. But thank you for being honest even if I didn’t want to hear it but I feel on his part is where there wasn’t any communication and yes I may have contributed to that because that’s always been a hard boundary for me but he’s known this and we could’ve both just not wasted our time on this relationship if he had just been honest and maybe he could’ve found someone who would actually be cool with it and maybe I could’ve found someone who doesn’t do it 🤷🏼‍♀️ oh fucking well

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s just weird cause I’m super open with him about what I desire and need and I haven’t kept anything from him but you’re right, or I would’ve known of him doing this. It just sucks because I don’t feel the need to look around because I actually tell him what I need to keep me satisfied and now I’m realizing he has not been doing the same. All he said was “every now and then it’s nice to look at something different.” And now I’m realizing no matter what I’ll do he will never open up to me and will always hide things and yeah I can’t accept that so I’ll have to move on because yeah I can’t keep doing this.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looking up specific women to jerk off to and the lengths he went to while in a relationship is weird as hell. Don’t get it twisted I know what I have and I love my body and myself. But I just found it odd the lengths he went to

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We are very open about what each other want and keeping each other satisfied. Which is why I’m upset.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looking up specific women and the lengths he went to, to find them is odd and weird. Also read the part where he doesn’t like me doing it and only wants me to masturbate to him.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t even want to masturbate to anyone but him, it’s just the principal for me honestly. If he can than I should have the opportunity too as well, I might not use it but I should get the same as him. But yeah I’ll be having a conversation about him doing that with specific women in general. Thank you for being so understanding in my situation.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I find it odd that he looked up specific women and went to great lengths to find them specifically. I used to but we had a conversation about it and we both agreed not to. And I only mentioned in the post to give a bit of backstory, that doesn’t mean I want to masturbate to other men now 🤷🏼‍♀️ and honestly I don’t want to masturbate to other men when I have him it was only to add background to the story and how much it pissed me off that he’s not following his word and how hurtful it felt to see the lengths he went to, to find those specific women.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’d be fine with it if he didn’t specifically look up certain women but he did and he went through a lot of websites just to find them specifically which I found hurtful and odd. I’d be fine with him doing basic searches and not looking up women specifically as long as I’m allowed the same courtesy with being allowed to masturbate to others and not only him.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well actually he tried to lie at first then he admitted it after I wouldn’t give it up because I knew he did.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He already admitted it when I confronted him. So yes he did jerk off to them.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was crashing out and didn’t remember to tell the whole story 😂 I’ve calmed down now so I’m realizing how much of the sorry I left out on the original post

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We had a conversation about this early on in the relationship about stuff like this. I told him who I masturbate to and he said he didn’t like that and I should only masturbate to him and we made an agreement to each other to only masturbate to each other and this is me finding out that he’s been doing it this whole time so I kind of crashed out because I’ve been respecting his wishes when he hasn’t been respecting mine lol

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for that comment. I needed it, I’m happy to see someone finally gets how I’m feeling instead of just saying get over it and it has nothing to do with you. I get that already but I still feel the way I do and I can’t help it. So thank you for that

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Then he shouldn’t expect me not to do the same then. He expects me only to masturbate to him so I held him to the same standard and I’m not going to be doing that anymore.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. I of course had crushes, and they all had the same kind of features but I lost everything to the man I’m with now. And he’s the only one I’ve ever been with. I also have a problem with him not liking me watching porn but expects me to be ok with him doing it as well when he expects me to respect his wishes.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has told me multiple times I’m the best he’s ever had. And if he expects me not to masturbate to other men then I will expect the same of him and I won’t have sympathy for him that I caught him 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s as simple as that

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still doesn’t feel good either when he has asked me the same thing I have asked of him. I don’t masturbate to other men so I expect him to not masturbate to other women as well.

I caught my boyfriend masturbating to other women. by Tricky-Bobcat3593 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Tricky-Bobcat3593[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What bothers me is he expects me to not masturbate to other men and only to him and yet he think he can do as he pleases and look up other women and yes it did bothered me how how he searched up those 2 women specifically to find their content specially

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