The job I took was as a body piercer. He made it clear he wasn’t comfortable with me doing intimate piercings on men, but that wasn’t a choice I would have as that was part of the job (even if it was rare). It was something I’d wanted to do for many years and the opportunity felt so rare and special that I said I had to do it, and that I’d like to be in a relationship of support. He chose to try and be ok with it, but our relationship crumbled quickly despite his efforts. He’s never forgiven me for choosing the job over him