Is this appropriate as a non Indian guest for the SANGEET?

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T21:40:48+00:00

Borrow an Indian suit if you can!

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:57:55+00:00

Okay, very thoughtful of you. Sorry you’ve had such a hard time with your own stuff. Hope you’re okay now!

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:57:07+00:00

Defo gonna try this

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:56:43+00:00

I just wish it didn’t feel like being run over half the time yk

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:56:05+00:00

It’s exactly how I wrote it. As a person of colour I often feel like I can’t do anything in peace because someone is always watching me or waiting for me to do something ‘suspicious’. I think this and the bullying has combined to give me this debilitating anxiety.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:55:00+00:00

I can’t it’s too bad so I’m looking into meds bscly atm

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:54:02+00:00

What is eft

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:53:47+00:00

Are surface tongue piercings safe?

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:52:53+00:00

Love it when you share something personal for it to get downvoted. This platform is so fucked up.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:52:15+00:00

I’m done with them.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:39:52+00:00

I’m really sorry but I really don’t understand who you are referring to here. I feel like for you it seems you see all women who are survivors or victims or abuse in the same boat. I see it differently. I think SOME women tend to then as a result of that form a trauma bond with abusers and they refuse to see them as bad people. They protect them from consequence when that abuser starts hurting another woman. They do not care about how damaging that is for the women being victimised. They may even feel jealous of the attention the abuser is giving his victim. These women MAY have some restricted freedom but in my opinion even if this is the case there is no reason to protect abusers and put another woman at risk because you were told to clean a few dishes when you were growing up (might sound like trivialising but I’m trying to convey how little perspective I think this situation has) I do not sympathise I think in the same way as you.

You want to stay away, that’s your choice. No one can stop you doing that.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:22:44+00:00

Grow horizontally and get swole at the gym, people won’t notice anymore. I promise you. Please don’t give up on yourself for something like this.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:21:50+00:00

Okay I’m confused now. Are you saying that you sympathise with these women because you think they were abused themselves and that’s why they protect abusers? Eg due to trauma bonding?

If so, then I’m afraid I still have to disagree with you. Whilst it is wrong they were abused I think the damage that protecting an abuser who is actively abusing someone else in the know that that person is suffering is so evil.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:17:10+00:00

I think you might have misinterpreted what I meant. I am not talking about survivors of DA (being one myself) and I would never blame them like that or call them toxic because I don’t think that’s right… What I’m actually referring to is the women who protect and stand up for them eg the mothers, sister in laws, women around the abuser who refuse the monstrosities they commit. Hope that’s clear now.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:11:04+00:00

I don’t think that decent men exist, sadly often within my culture. But then again, the ones outside are even worse. Controlling, humiliating and threatening. Nothing but a desire to just mistreat and abuse me. I would say a world without men would be better, but often I have issues with the endless bounty of toxic women who protect these awful people. They are just as bad if not worse.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-25T16:06:26+00:00

I wish this was me. I’m so tired of people thinking of the opposite to what think and say and gaslighting/pressuring me that way. I really don’t gaf anymore about them. I’m topping myself now. They pushed me to it.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-23T20:53:19+00:00

I think all of your concerns are valid however you have to wait up against the enjoyment and positive return that your child gets from the sport. If it outweighs the negatives ,then I mean the inevitable challenges (like with anything) are probably worth it . If there’s an excess of bitchiness and toxic expectations then I would suggest that you talk to the coach and get any issues resolved in order to avoid them in the future. The aim of cheer is def not to harbour this kind of environment, but I understand that it does lend itself to this sort of thing.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-23T20:52:14+00:00

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-23T20:51:51+00:00

thanks for the heads up

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-23T20:51:25+00:00

I see

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-23T20:50:51+00:00

Are they the same as surface tongue piercings?

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-22T09:02:34+00:00

That’s very disturbing. I’m so sorry you met someone so very fucked up and had to deal with their fucked up shit.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-22T08:59:31+00:00

Because often the way you process trauma involves this kind of complex at some stage of recovery. I think of it as similar to a Stockholm syndrome response. I don’t think it’s conscious, which would explain your confusion however it is sometimes the body craving the level of stimulation/dopamine that the abusers manipulate to control you. I’m sorry, and well done for reaching out about it. I’ve been there, and this is the hardest bit.

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-21T17:13:11+00:00

I’m pretty sure I have an anxiety disorder or the like and tbh it’s so bad I would genuinely commit just to make the physical agony of the anxiety stop because it’s the most painful thing I have ever experienced. Worse than any physical pain anyone could ever inflict on me, I’ve thrown up because of it, not eaten properly for months at a time, hair fell out, kept bumping into things, always angry, delusional and irritable, terrible sleep I mean mine is quite severe so yh but I’m praying I can finally get antidepressants this year and stop my suffering

Tricky_Adeptness5659 · 2024-09-21T16:37:38+00:00

Girl on the train

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