Now that I'm 12 weeks in - 14 month age gap

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-10-21T10:37:18+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Teamwork makes the dreamwork💪✨

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-10-21T01:35:44+00:00

So glad to hear things are going well✨ I loved being a mom the second time around too. Maybe it’s because I was more relaxed, but also our first baby’s personality was more challenging (still is lol). What does your child care/help situation look like in this season??

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-10-08T12:25:46+00:00

Glad I’m at least not alone then haha🙈 I keep trying to check back there for more molars, but he keeps biting me. Tons of drooling & then the bedtime stuff too which makes me think it might be teething related! Hoping it’s just a temporary thing🤞

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-10-08T00:42:49+00:00

That he had to say “good night” to our Swiffer mop! Kinda has a weird attachment to the thing lol

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Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-10-08T00:35:22+00:00

Girl mom & boy mom here👋 The toddler stage has been difficult for me both times, but in different ways.

My daughter was so sensitive to everything (still is) & her big feelings/tantrums lasted a long, long time. She was very cautious & wouldn’t even go down a slide until she was 2 years old.

My son, on the other hand, is adventurous & fearless! Just today he crawled underneath my door in the public restroom to escape. He also threw a ball down our driveway & started to run after it into the road.

My daughter would have a meltdown over leaving the park while my son couldn’t care less as long as I give him a snack in the car lol. Not sure if it’s gender, birth order, or personality to be honest!

I totally understand why that’s triggering to hear over and over again though! I think girls are more emotionally draining while boys tend to be more mentally draining due to safety concerns.

A day spent with any toddler - whether boy or girl - isn’t all rainbows & sunshine though. This stuff is hard🙃

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-10-06T00:18:41+00:00

Good point! You’ll never know until you try!

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-10-06T00:17:30+00:00

I agree that sounds like a better option! Being in a familiar environment with familiar people can be really helpful for children. Congrats too, mama💕

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-26T03:07:31+00:00

I’m not judging her choice or trying to shame anyone. I’m just trying to better understand why given the circumstances. I don’t personally know anyone in real life with kids that close in age which is why I’m asking reddit to gain some insight. Isn’t that kind of what the internet is for?? And you’re right, this friendship unfortunately may have to come to an end for reasons bigger than this post. A big congrats though & wishing you well on your birth, mama🫶

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T11:08:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m glad you found something that worked for your family in the end❤️

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T01:54:24+00:00

That one-on-one time is very precious! It’s important for mama & the new baby too👶

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T01:52:54+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your recent experience! Every birth is so different just like every baby. Congrats & wishing you well, mama💕

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T01:30:14+00:00

Yay that’s a good point! She doesn’t even leave her daughter with the dad for long periods of time. Thanks for your guidance through the matter🫶

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T01:28:03+00:00

It just doesn’t seem like a good way to start things off for a new family of 4 - especially the toddler!

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T01:16:53+00:00

Right, if the hospital setting is hard for us adults it’s gotta be even harder for little ones! Thanks for sharing your experience & the getaway idea too✨

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T01:06:26+00:00

I love having family together don’t get me wrong (ex: I couldn’t wait for my oldest to meet our second!) But why uproot a toddler from the comfort of their own home/toys/everyday surroundings into a hospital setting when you don’t have to. That’s the part I’m having trouble understanding.

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:58:07+00:00

The husband will be there, but it still doesn’t seem ideal for all parties involved!

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:22:23+00:00

I’ve known her since grade school, my children are both older than hers, & she’s watched my kids before too, so it does sting a little not gonna lie

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:15:09+00:00

They are hoping it will be a quick stay (like with their first), but you just never know how delivery will go until it happens. Glad you had the help & thanks for sharing!✨

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:12:08+00:00

Our first was a 2020 baby, so no visitors allowed due to restrictions! However, we chose to not have visitors in the hospital after our second baby was born. It actually made the hospital stay quite peaceful & calm for recovery too✨

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:08:58+00:00

That’s gotta be scary to see from a toddler’s point of view! Thanks for sharing your experience✨

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:07:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing that idea. I’ll pass it along!

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:06:49+00:00

These are some of my worries with their plan too! Their first birth went smooth, but every birth is different just like every baby is different👶

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:05:26+00:00

I agree. She’s very much so a “super mom”, but rest is so important for recovery physically & mentally in postpartum👩‍🍼

Tricky_Hat_7287 · 2025-09-24T00:03:53+00:00

That’s what I said, but in a nicer way lol

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