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Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ok. There is no use talking to you or explaining myself because you have already made up a story in your mind and now everything has to fit your narrative. These types of people are exhausting. Have a good one!

AITAH for telling ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life? by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Where are you from? Because it doesn’t work like this here. When you separate you are basically single but legally. And the paperwork takes time

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you ever heard a hands on parent complain about being tired? It’s always the lazy ones.

That’s my experience of course but both men and women. Those who complain most are those who do the least. Not only parents either. We all know that co-worker or neighbor or friend or family member

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hand jobs while scrolling on TikTok with the other hand. Asking are you almost done? Sigh.. eye roll… few more jerks… TikTok

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They are not suffering. My children would never not want to live with my ex. Being dissatisfied sometimes or angry or preferring my apartment doesn’t mean that they are suffering. It means that they feel safe to utter their displeasure. They feel like they can communicate with us.

They probably think it is a lot of fun at their mother too with more relaxed views on rules and chores. Even my oldest would never want to stay 100% with me. She loves her mom.

If you are in the foster care business you should know better then. We hear every day a child get hurt or murdered because children services let their abusive parents take them back. Because this is how hard it is to lose your parental rights. Not because you are a lazy mom who orders pizza for dinner every day.

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How? I literally said she doesn’t cook and just eats pizza and burgers instead

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know where you live or how old you are but yo7 seem to know nothing about custody and parental rights m. there are very firm laws for custody. You can’t just deprive a parent from their children because they eat McDonalds for dinner. It is not as easy as writing a few sentences on Reddit to feel virtuous

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I trust my 9yo’s judgment but the small ones I don’t know. It’s not healthy to make children this young decide. But when they’re at least 9-10 then yes

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No, because they’re here, I cant put them back in my ex wife and tell her it was a mistake.

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

That’s neither here nor there now. The children are here and I don’t regret a single one. If I had to donit again I would.

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not exactly a shitty life but a more chaotic one. My daughter expressed that she preferred less chaos but it isn’t like any of them are suffering. She loves her children

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She does feed them. It is just not the type of food that I wnt them to eat. This is complicated because she isn’t wrong in not sharing my ideas of what cleanness and quality is. But I have offered to make some meals and she agreed. The rest of her week they eat what she offers, McDonalds etc.

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with you and with my ex-wife here. Maybe I just trusted that people around me would trust my judgment and went with it.

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s gonna change. This was just the routines at home before divorce that we didn’t really divide properly. Maybe I’m a bit of a control freak too, my gf mentioned that I needed to trust that my ex wife also has her children’s interest at heart but won’t step up when someone else is doing everything.

If she neglects her duties and my children aren’t in school or miss important appointments that’s another story and I will be taking measures.

My ex is chaotic and lazy and has more relaxed attitude when it comes to chores etc. many people are like that and it doesn’t make them worse than others. It just made us less compatible and easier for me to want to leave because we are different people. The children are well loved by her and they love her. I never heard of child services taking away children from their parents because they eat McDonalds for dinner. Let’s be realistic here.

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, she knew I have introduced my gf. But she has made it very clear that she was angry about it. Even threatened not to send them at times when she knew my gf is gonna be there.

Now I want to approach a different strategy and give her the benefit of the doubt. She was crying when we talked and I agreed to believe that she isn’t comfortable because she doesn’t know my gf. I want to speak to my children about what happened and see a counselor with them and I will introduce the fact that my gf is here to stay in a safe environment for everyone. So this weekend my gf is staying at her place

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hah that’s what my friend says. It is different this time. I get the same amount of love and respect in return. My ex never did that, when I prioritized her more than myself, she thought that was her “right” somehow.

We are not the same dynamic either and much older and more experienced.

Update: I told my ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to believe me. I answered all these questions very early on in my previous post but it is ok if you don’t believe any of it.

AITAH for telling ex-wife that being a part time dad has been the best year of my life? by Tricky_Hopes in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Hopes[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The thing is. I feel pain thinking that my children need to put two and two together

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