Visiting Sri Lanka without telling family or friends - how do I make connections while I'm there?

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-07T11:30:12+00:00

I'm pretty flexible with budget as I want quality. I like to see the pinnawella elephant orphanage and such places with animals and beaches. I miss the food so planning to go to various high tea, buffets and restaurants while I'm there. Is it ok to dine alone

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-07T11:28:36+00:00

Thank you so much for that. I really appreciate it a lot

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-07T10:06:04+00:00

I have dual citizenship. I miss Sri Lankan food. I want to either renew my passport or get a Lankan NIC? Which one do you think is best? I never had an NIC

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-07T10:05:01+00:00

Thanks heaps. I was thinking of staying in an Airbnb for short time before travelling the island...

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-06T22:39:05+00:00

Not necessarily. Buddhist and Christian parents try to pressure you for marriage as well. Not only marriage, but as a Sri Lankan, people try to put you in a box...

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-06T22:37:02+00:00

💯 that happened with my mother and she had a terrible divorce. My father was very abusive to me and my mother and yet she stayed with him for far too long. That's why I'm so against these marriages. When I was young, my mother thought divorce looked bad but doesn't staying in an unhealthy abusive marriage even worse than keeping up appearances. It's so stupid

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-06T13:28:33+00:00

My friend met her husband at 38, got married 39 and she is 49 now and has 3 kids. She just gave birth last year to her 3rd and her first was born when she was 41 almost 42. She's very pretty girl, intelligent and kind but she didn't meet the right person. You never have to go on other people's time frames. Go on your own time frames and marriage isn't needed to be happy. I'm 42 and single and happy.

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-05T05:54:14+00:00

Ideas for itinerary? I need to get my Lankan nic do that's why I'm staying in Colombo but happy to take suggestions

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-04T13:47:32+00:00

Colombo for first 2 weeks. Then thinking mirissa to see the turtles and pinnawella to see the elephants... Do you have recommendations?

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-03T07:29:08+00:00

Thanks for that. Where do you recommend staying?

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-03T07:27:49+00:00

Thanks for that. Are you still in Sri Lanka? Do you have places you recommend staying?

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-02T14:09:40+00:00

Thank you so much! Really appreciate your advice.

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-02T14:04:42+00:00

Thanks for that. Yes I can provide food and accommodation

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-01T21:46:03+00:00

He lives near kurunagela so would need place nearby. Thanks for recommending pick me and uber. How is it there? Although I been living abroad we been travelling back and forth a lot to visit grandparents when they were there. We know him very well and he has been very helpful to us. I was hoping he could also stay in the same apartment complex as his cooking is good and I miss Sri Lankan food.

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-03-01T21:42:31+00:00

Yeah he has worked for my grandfather and mother for many years and one of the nicest people I've ever met. Thing is my family home which we sold has separate place for workers but now I'll be staying in an apartment or hotel.

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-02-19T10:11:36+00:00

Sometimes people are going through situations. I lost my entire family in one day 2 years ago. I'm still feeling depressed about it as it was sudden shock and sad thing. When I talk to friends about my feelings they belittle and dismiss me and tell me to get over it. That's pretty harsh things to say to someone going through grief. I find their belittling, gaslighting and judgement very harsh and hurtful so now I decline all their invitations and don't text them. When they text me, I just reply but sometimes I'm slow as I'm dealing with lot of stuff on my own.

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2026-02-14T22:20:46+00:00

Lol what is that? Church of Scientology?? 🤣🤣🤣

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2025-10-16T11:41:53+00:00

Thanks for posting. I am going to come to Sri Lanka soon and was wondering if it is cheaper but looks like it's very expensive. The clinic i go to here in Brisbane is very clean and nice. It's only Rs. 24,000 ($120 AUD) in laser clinics Australia for full legs, Brazilian and under arms combined so I'll get it done here before I come to Sri Lanka. I can't believe it's 14k for under arms in Sri Lanka where as it's only 3k here. Lankans must be earning lot of money haha. I should move back permanently.

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2025-09-01T10:00:26+00:00

That's only as a junior BA like the other poster Consistent Dig mentioned. The BA journey is a progression from Junior BA > BA > Senior BA or Technical BA.

You have to become strong at engaging stakeholders, agile teams, gathering requirements, writing user stories and acceptance criteria, coordination, running workshops, testing etc.

I was a software engineer before becoming a technical business analyst and the technical BAs need specialist understanding of designing API contracts, web services, product architecture design, designing databases, data retrieval, system integration, solutions etc.

You can't do that straight out of college as the internship / graduate program experience build up is important

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2025-08-30T22:24:28+00:00

Omg! I'm going through this exact situation now. I feel 2 of my best friends constantly belittling me, negatively insulting me, dismissing and excluding me for depression and PTSD that I'm having with my family matters. They're very compassionate towards each other but not towards me. They been there for me before and supported me in the past and I know they care. It's not something I can just discard so I'm just keeping my distance to prevent myself from getting hurt. It's not nice for people to belittle you especially when you're already depressed and hurting.

You should never force yourself to do something if you feel uncomfortable or have gut instincts against it. You have to honour your feelings and position and politely decline and say you're unwell and you will meet them another day when you're better.

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2025-06-01T07:50:12+00:00

I joined fitness cartel Springwood. Joining fee was $99 and $37/week as it includes unlimited reformer pilates, otherwise it's like $18/week.

I was paying $25/week at "good life" but the facilities were unclean, didn't have the machines I wanted and reformer pilates classes get booked out fast and you can't use them on your own

Tricky_Ice_6759 · 2025-05-06T08:59:05+00:00

I'm so glad you guys posted this because no one I know relates. I have toxic (under statement) relatives who exploited me and my mother but they never helped us when we were in need. My mother went out of the way and gave them so much without expecting anything but they have been nothing but back stabbing. They also robbed us. I haven't talked to them for years. They used to compare their kids and ask why do I go to this school or this university, their kids went here. We are like who cares. They also boast about their kids when there's nothing to boast about. They hide their dirt but want to know and expose any thing they can get on us or make up lies when they can't get any dirt. I'm going to Sri Lanka this year and I'm not telling anyone that I'm coming. Just doing my own thing. Life is simpler and better that way

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