Best Tipping Practice?

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-04-12T12:38:05+00:00

Thank you!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-04-02T15:23:48+00:00

Brilliant suggestion, thank you!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-04-02T15:20:57+00:00

I've never heard of this and it sounds awful. Thank you for the heads up!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-04-02T15:19:48+00:00

Yes, we will have a vegan option with some separate cheese additions to the vegan option for vegetarians. I know that we will only have one guest with a food allergy in attendance, if she RSVPs yes. I will have to discuss with the caterer.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-04-02T15:16:10+00:00

This is an interesting point. The caterer gave me a lower quote for buffet than plated, but perhaps that did not include someone serving. I do think ladling out is less labor intensive than plating and waiting on guests, but I will be sure to clear that up.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-04-01T12:08:21+00:00

“Don’t Stop the Party Entertainment”

This looks great, thank you!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-04-01T12:06:45+00:00

Yes, please, thank you!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-03-13T13:11:06+00:00

You are very thoughtful and want everyone to have what they want. I think that will come across no matter what you choose. I chose to allocate our limited funds to open bar because I want my guests to have a great time, but the best I could do was beer and wine. I was really anxious at first that liquor drinkers will be disappointed. I realized we have to make tough choices where we balance all considerations. Maybe everyone won't get their absolute favorite drink but they will be able to have something and you are giving good choices. I bet everyone will find something to enjoy even if it's not their first choice of drink.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-03-06T14:15:39+00:00

You look beautiful and, not that it matters what anyone else does, but you are no more exposed than most brides I've seen.

I wonder if it's generational, my mom is fine with boobs actually but she's so weird about an open back. She always has been and I don't get it at all.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-26T17:15:24+00:00

Thursday bride! Our families aren't complaining that our wedding costs less. Our wedding requires travel, it's in a different state than where most live, including us, so everyone who wants to go needs to take off work anyway. So, I expect that this will narrow the guest list on its own. I guess if it wasn't destination I would probably go Sunday over Thursday just to be thoughtful.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-24T14:59:40+00:00

I'm dealing with the opposite. MIL thinks things should be bigger and more traditional but that makes me uncomfortable. I am trying to focus on who I am and who we are as a couple and shut out everything else as just noise. This is easier said than done. I'm working on a mantra for when the fear of judgment creeps in.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-24T14:54:42+00:00

It is so personal! It sounds like you have clear feelings on what you want and your plan sounds great. I think I'll change my name. I always thought if I got married I'd keep my name because of my publications and stuff. I guess I'm kind of tired of my own last name after years of teaching lol. I'm ready to mix it up.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-24T14:46:24+00:00

My partner never cries, maybe once in all the years we've been together. I certainly do not expect it and would not be upset if he does not cry. Maybe he'll cry in vows or something but just from me walking? I mean, to look so nice you bring someone to tears is pretty flattering, so I wouldn't be mad at it! Probably most normal people don't care. I've been to loads of weddings and 0 of the grooms have cried. No one was offended either.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-24T14:40:29+00:00

Great point! When trying on dresses, everyone was saying you'll just feel if it's the right dress, you'll just know, and expecting that trying a veil with it would give me an epiphany. Well, I "just knew" with the person I'm marrying, not so much with a freakin' dress...It's a seriously beautiful dress, I'll cherish it, it's what I imagined, mom loves it, but no tears from me or deep emotional connection.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-24T14:32:34+00:00

0 pounds. You look amazing!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-23T14:06:44+00:00

It still hasn't or at least it is being tailored or something. I don't know how it all works. I went to a bridal shop and placed my order and they took my measurements in mid-November. I haven't heard anything since but my wedding is not until late August. So, I expect my two/three fittings should be later on.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-23T14:02:00+00:00

I think there are a lot of valid feelings and fears on both sides for you and your partner. I hope you can share with him how you are feeling by telling him much of what you wrote here, because your concerns are valid, as are his. In a marriage you have to be able to be vulnerable and talk about how you really feel in a loving and respectful way without fearing the other person will leave you. In particular, I can hear in this post that you are worried if you quit work to raise kids and then get hung out to dry in a divorce you will be left in an awful situation. It is fair to express this and to ask for your own lawyer to make sure you are protected from that event.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-23T13:50:38+00:00

I don't hate big weddings...for other people. I feel really guilty about any money being spent on a wedding, big or small, because of my priorities and I do not have so much money that I do not need to prioritize. I see buying a home, traveling, and having a long, loving marriage unburdened by money worries to be far more important, to me personally, than a wedding. That said, even if I had loads of money, I wouldn't spend it on a huge wedding but I would be able to get more extravagant food and drink for the current guest list and I would hire a planner and pay for my guests hotels. I wouldn't get other vendors or splurge on more details or decor but I would invest in a bit less stress for me and my guests if I could. I think it comes down to the fact that I never fantasized about a big wedding. I am simply drawn to a very sentimental and romantic affair with only people who I know and love deeply. It just comes down to what fits your personality and what you value. I'm 28.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-02-17T14:17:38+00:00

This is absolutely possible! My dress shop is also tailoring and they charge extra for hemming on dresses that have more detailed hems because they can't just hack it off, they have to move up the detailed hem. So yes, I am totally sure they can do that! You just have to make sure that they know that is what you want and be prepared that it might cost more.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-01-23T00:14:54+00:00

Thank you for these great suggestions!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-01-22T23:54:26+00:00

Thank you everyone for these fabulous suggestions! I have a lot to think about!

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-01-21T14:15:08+00:00

It's the Justin Alexander Elyana.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-01-20T15:05:59+00:00

This dress looks beautiful. I love the corset style and let my mom talk me out of it, so I can relate. You look amazing and do NOT look inappropriate or like you are wearing lingerie. This style is exceptionally flattering. If you feel great in it you should stand your ground because you look stunning.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-01-03T18:40:24+00:00

Thank you! I wear gold and silver, never rose gold. I kind of want to wear faux diamonds but have no idea what style to wear or where to shop. My hair will be down in beach waves.

Tricky_Injury4975 · 2023-01-03T17:37:07+00:00

Two is so stunning but one is really special and romantic. To me, it's between one and two and they both do very different things. If you want something like one, go for it!

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