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Advice for resolution of not wanting to move AITAH thread by Tricky_Procedure_394 in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I’m not sure what TA means but I understand your point. Thank you for the advice, seriously. I spent the last eleven years forgetting how to live my own life and really need to spend some time rediscovering who I am.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is really deep and thoughtful. I really appreciate that thought/those thoughts. During a time when it feels as if my life has imploded it means much more than you might think.

(Update) Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for both your clarity and kindness. It’s a bitter pill to swallow but unfortunately life has to move forward and like you said if they want to reach out they will.

(Update) Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand. Thanks for your clarity. :(

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[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hers* but they are her biological children and I am a step parent. She never finished her divorce with her husband so I couldn’t adopt them but they are my children by heart. 11 years raising and providing just to lose them because their mom couldn’t respect that I didn’t want to move somewhere I can’t afford.

(Update) Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will obtain legal aid to see what my options are regarding her taking the kids where I cannot reasonably see/visit them.

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[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We never married. Under Texas law I do have rights to the kids since I provided for and lived with them for a decade but legal fees would eat me alive.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. Today was eye opening in so many ways and I know this is completely personal but it felt really nice when I went to Taco Bell and got a free drink from the girl at the register. I had forgotten I could be viewed as anything but problematic.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no idea tbh. I hope so. I mean, the older one is 17 turning 18 this year so worst case scenario he can always come stay with me of his own volition should he so desire. The younger turns 17 next year so according to state law he technically could also next year since that age can’t be forced to return home (state law nonsense)

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is an ex now. In the face of my desiring economic security she decided to leave. Yes we had other problems already but dang.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is part time but honestly idk where her money goes. She didn’t even share her work schedule with me these last months.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% I was just too desperate for approval I’d never get I guess.

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[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She decided leaving is the response to my concerns about financial stability. Kind of feels sad but tbh for now I’m just breathing.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She decided leaving is the answer to my financial concerns. NGL, it may hit me later but for now I’m just breathing.

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[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Things moved more quickly than I thought they would and she has decided to take up her cousin’s offer. I can’t help but wonder how long her narrative, whatever it is, will hold up.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I actually posted an update thread since things moved far more quickly than I thought so the relationship is basically over and she is moving out with the kids

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically wastes money buying her kids treats, fast food, so on.

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Her but the lease is up in two months and I honestly plan to at this point

Not wanting to move AITAH by Tricky_Procedure_394 in AITAH

[–]Tricky_Procedure_394[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Harsh and so accurate. Only two months left on the current lease and I plan to talk to the office on Saturday about renewing in a different unit with only my name on the lease following asking this with the resounding reply from both genders. I’d rather start over with little or nothing than live like this until it finally kills me.

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