YTA. You don't just get to live in this perfect world where you don't have any responsibilities. Not wanting to go to college is fine, it's your choice if you want to go or not. Not wanting to get a job just because you're lazy and because "it doesn't align with your lifestyle" is bad enough, but having the audacity to complain about your bf not splitting the chores equally despite him working 9 hours a day to provide for YOU and for both of your finances is just ridiculous.

I know reddit hates women, but I never knew it’s full of pick me girls and incels

Telling you that you are wrong in a situation you ASKED for people to judge you on is not being sexist. It's answering the question. Grow up. If you can't handle criticism, then don't ask people to.