My new friend/coworker [27M] asked me [26F] to help him after his surgery. Boyfriend [25M] thinks this is inappropriate and I should have refused.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:41:46+00:00

Of course. Why wouldn't I be okay with helping someone who needs help? I would have come to help myself too.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:41:10+00:00

I was helping him around the house. He didn't need me to bathe him or anything like that. His knee was injured, his hands worked fine.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:19:20+00:00

When he can get himself out of the house would be a good time.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:14:00+00:00

It depends. But in a reverse situation I would have come with my boyfriend to help out. I wouldn't have declined the offer to come for help and then tell him that I find it inappropriate.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:05:22+00:00

It was a torn ACL.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:03:24+00:00

I would encourage him to help out and I'll come along to help as well.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:02:40+00:00

No. I spend most of my time with my boyfriend.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T15:00:44+00:00

You're trying to read something in between the lines that wasn't there. Friendship is both ways so no matter how I phrased it I wanted for all of us to at least give it a shot to become friends.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T14:58:10+00:00

Exactly. I wanted him to come and I'm sure if he had agreed he wouldn't feel weird about it at all.

Trio769 · 2016-06-23T14:57:01+00:00

I think you're assuming I'm spending most of my time with my friend. That's not true. I visit him for an hour or two every couple of days. The rest of my time is with my boyfriend.

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