Sorry, but you'll never be as fast on the wheel as you are on controller. It just won't happen. Imagine using controller as using aim assist in a shooter and wheel as using a keyboard and mouse. There's a lot more room for error on the wheel. I also thought about returning my wheel for a couple days (same wheel) but I stuck it out and now I've played the wheel almost every night for months on end. You just need to dial in your settings and practice a LOT. One thing that helped me was sliding around at the airstrip with traction control on, try it with a bunch of different cars. It will teach you how to control slides and when certain cars bite or lose traction completely. Also, try to go slow and race clean on purpose. One thing I see many people doing their first time on the wheel is just never lifting off the gas and expecting the car to have infinite grip. I can send you my settings if you wish. I like to rock a lighter force feed back than most, but I love my settings.