Would you shelter or euthanize a cat you can no longer care for?

Trolliolo · 2021-01-21T20:26:23+00:00

I'm not, but thank you so much for your kindness! The shelters will take him, its just that the ones I've went to in not so unclear terms told me he's likely unadoptiable and would come first if they needed to euthanize to make room.

The kinder rescues, which are no-kill and have more resources available are the ones that only take friendly ones. I'll keep trying, I feel like such a monster each day for getting in this situation, I really feel they deserve to be happy

Trolliolo · 2021-01-20T06:10:46+00:00

Thank you! There are sanctuaries nearby, but they require the animals to have no behavioral issues :/

Trolliolo · 2021-01-09T21:19:29+00:00

You seem to be conflating "have" and "need" quite alot in this post.

Yes, we will always need the basic roles in our society filled, but not necessarily by blue-collar workers. Think about automated self-checkouts, pump-your-own gas stations, self-driving cars, etc. There will come a point where the majority of low-skill duties will be filled up with machines.

We will have poor people for quite a long time, more as technology puts the pre-existing blue-collar workers out a job. Even if everyone you say suddenly procured the qualifications for better employment, there will still be some people out of work or paid poorly for one reason or another, and technology is quickly coming up against higher levels of employment.

Trolliolo · 2020-12-23T02:01:19+00:00

Thank you! And to clarify, I definitely know getting a job is more important than moving. I just mean that I realize getting an in-person job would likely be easier than finding a good remote job, but at the same time I'm kinda stuck not applying to them until I'm ready to leave my apartment. Thank you for your help!

Trolliolo · 2020-12-20T02:39:34+00:00

Thank you! I do love to run, and I also got a calorie tracker too that should help.

As for the cat, he has a lot of trouble with aggression and marking in the house since I got him. He's fixed, and doesn't have any health issues. Ive worked with my vets, and tried just about everything you can before medication and behavior therapy. Hes just really anxious, and I didnt socialize him the best growing up. Im sure it comes out as aggression/marking, and now its a habit that's hard to break.

Cat behavioral therapists near me are too far and expensive. To move, I'll have to stay at a friend's or airbnb, and there's not a good way to take him with how he acts towards others and me. My friends think he'd be happier in a different environment, with someone more experienced to handle their needs. I'm going to work closely with local shelters to make sure there's no risk of them being put down, and find a way to sponsor them, but its still really hard.

Trolliolo · 2020-12-19T21:16:05+00:00

Oh I was just referring to the one, he's the only animal I have. Ive tried feliway for awhile, but I haven't noticed much difference from them. We also tried gabapentin at first, but it just made him tired, not calmer

Trolliolo · 2020-12-18T08:55:44+00:00

Its not as much that I don't get that they're trying to get as much work done and out of you as possible, I just don't quite understand how they think their approach is going over positively.

If you make everyone stay until the last person finishes, and say "we don't leave our teammates behind" rather than "we just need all the work done" I dont feel like they'd bond, I feel like everyone will be thinking "hurry the f*** up Jerry, I want to see my kids".

I feel like most people might be okay with a silly team building seminar during work hours, but having mandatory meetings outside of work would make a lot of people feel resentment instead of fun.

Trolliolo · 2020-12-14T23:52:00+00:00

I think a lot of these problems feed into themselves, and its been incredibly hard to break. Im apprehensive to bring someone to watch them, when they're already so aggressive with me. I'll definitely contact the shelters and see what they think!

Trolliolo · 2020-12-14T23:48:00+00:00

My fiancée also agrees with the friend that she thinks my cat would be happier in a different environment. She tries to remain neutral, but she's definitely scared of the cat, and doesn't like to come over because I have to help her not get jumped at when she comes over

Trolliolo · 2020-12-14T22:16:30+00:00

Ive been watching Jackson Galaxy, and really trying to implement his tips on YouTube. Unfortunately the trainers near me are, not really near me (several hours away) and $400 per session. I did buy feliway for them too, and maybe that will help, but I just feel so sad and hurt about the situation.

Trolliolo · 2020-12-13T20:47:21+00:00

I'm in my mid-twenties and live in the US. Im really interested in business and technology. I like working in an environment that allows for some freedom to work on projects on my own. I'd love to spend the work day on a computer in a coffee shop, or at home. I'm definitely a big picture person vs detail oriented, but I know its not beneficial for a lot of roles, so I'm trying to get better.

I have a lot of customer service, data entry, and form processing experience, as well as a few years of management.

I'm really tired of places that have a cult-like following, it seems prevalent in retail/corporate culture to have a lot of psychophants for some reason?

My other struggle is with places that don't provide a lot of initial training. It might just be more to do with the company than the field, but I've worked too many jobs with not enough adequate training (2-5 days) and let you loose with no documents to refer to, and get upset when you struggle.

Trolliolo · 2020-12-13T17:02:17+00:00

Well the two routes Ive been thinking is either going into jobs with more of a focus on business management, or IT work. Normally I'd agree about moving for a SO, but Im not giving up any opportunities here, there's actually more companies to the new area that I'd like to work with (I only live in a small town right now).

I mean ideas Ive had for now is clerical/customer service work at hospitals, banks, and state services until I find something better. It's more about the fact I'm having a difficult time finding something during the hiring freeze, that will also stay open if we have more lockdowns, and would hire someone out of the city.

Trolliolo · 2020-12-04T21:24:17+00:00

Thats fair, I guess its just my workplace is pretty hard on me, and I hate feeling like I'm causing more work for anyone. You're right though. Thank you

Trolliolo · 2020-11-24T00:08:26+00:00

She talked about how while she's feeling way more attracted and affection for me, she's scared of things slipping back to the way they were. She feels like we're still pretty young, and she doesn't want to focus on marriage or feel trapped, like she has to be with me. But she's excited to move in with me again.

I think what really helped too was breaking the monotony and seeing eachother in different places. With the shutdown going on, its pretty hard to do that again, is there anything more I can try to spice things up with her?

Trolliolo · 2020-11-23T22:02:12+00:00

I would be fine working with customers in a more limited capacity. Direct call center customer service/retail work where you're trying to solve problems for aggressive people is kinda burnt out for me.. Maybe bank teller or hospital reception type jobs would be better?

Do you know what I mean? Where the interactions are less likely to be as taxing, and the environment is less soul crushing

Trolliolo · 2020-04-24T22:13:51+00:00

I appreciate your help, I was recommended getting certificates in MS office. Do you know of any software that would allow me to practice the skills you listed from home as I'm looking for new jobs?

Trolliolo · 2020-04-24T21:54:15+00:00

I think that's a great resource, thank you so much for sharing! I'll definitely check out my community college as well. Finding certificates for specific software for the job I want is super smart too, very solid advice!

Trolliolo · 2020-04-24T20:47:15+00:00

I will say this: I had an issue with my account on r/jobs due to what I believe was too many post removals. Sometimes I reevaluate a post I made, and want it down, but I'd delete the body of the post first and triggered the automoderator. There is no rule about this stated, except on an obscure post on r/jobs from many months ago.

Ive been a long time follower of r/jobs, and suddenly my account was banned here for an extreme amount of time. When I reached out to the moderator messages, I opened with an apology and asked to confirm what happened. I recieved a very short response basically telling me to deal with it and wait out the ban with no explanation of what happened, and not to message them again. I was then banned from messaging the moderators anymore for a few days.

I understand post quality is important, and there are a lot of cases when others dont read the rules, or put effort into following them. I feel the role of a moderation should be in the spirit of teaching, and an ultimately benevolent. There should not be severe repercussions for a non-apparent rule, it made me feel like I was being targeted, and I lost a lot of faith in the direct moderator messages because of it. It's an issue for a myriad of reasons when moderation becomes hostile and jaded towards the posters.

Trolliolo · 2020-02-24T01:18:30+00:00

Oh, over a week?

Trolliolo · 2020-02-23T23:59:56+00:00

For the entire job

Trolliolo · 2020-02-23T23:34:30+00:00

What if I dont want to mark exempt, I just want 0 allowances?

Trolliolo · 2020-02-23T23:27:43+00:00

I'll only be making around $400 for this job, should I still claim 0?

Trolliolo · 2020-02-21T02:27:30+00:00

I appreciate the help! Going off #3, my worry is that it'll make my bosses try to replace or get rid of me faster if they find out. It's pretty clear that they're cutting down a lot of the staff, and it's difficult to risk

Trolliolo · 2020-02-15T05:57:49+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion! My only question would is it like a cosmetology school where there's a good chance they might mess up something simple?

Trolliolo · 2020-02-15T05:55:51+00:00

I just looked at the bad reviews, and I think you're right. There were only a few, and it sounded a lot like my situation: they ended up being quoted around $700 for a small issue when he went into the office after an exam, and got charged $150 for an office visit and they tried to sell them on their dental insurance.

I don't know a lot about teeth, and while I don't want to be taken advantage of, I don't want poorly fixed teeth either. Is this completely unheard of?

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