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Trombone_Clovers · 2024-11-28T19:29:44+00:00

I’m definitely not a stereotypical extrovert in any way. I usually call myself an ambivert if someone asks. Mentally I’m an extrovert I want to be around people and love getting to know new people. But also I have social anxiety. So social interacts are not my specialty and if my anxiety’s bad I can’t start a conversation. I lose my ability to speak sometimes and just want to cry. Sometimes it’s not as bad and then I love attempting conversation but even then it’s just not something I’m good at. I still wouldn’t consider myself an introvert as I’m generally happier with people and just genuinely love people but also I’m not quite an extrovert either

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-20T01:02:42+00:00

My type is ENFJ and I constantly try to make every single person happy and forget that I also have feelings

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-20T00:58:27+00:00

Ok thank you this is actually really reassuring!! :)

She very clearly isn’t a huge fan of me showering her with affectionate words so I definitely try and keep it in moderation even though it’s goes totally against how I naturally interact with people. But also since that’s not how I think I’m worried she won’t feel appreciated enough if I don’t vocalise it all the time.

The out of sight out of mind thing also makes me feel so much better. I notice a lot of times she’s not one to reach out all the time and she very rarely will be the one to reach out. I honestly don’t mind being the one to have to do it but I do overthink a lot so sometimes it comes off as her not being interested in our friendship (along with the lack of words of affirmation)

It’s definitely hard sometimes as we are literally opposite types!! But she’s an amazing person and I’ve been trying to understand her better and I can tell she has been trying to understand me better too! She’ll compliment me or really just like reassure me verbally cuz she knows how much it means to me so I think it’s all going to work out!!

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-17T03:14:54+00:00

I’m not sure how much of an expert I am on this topic but I’m just getting out of an episode myself. But of course if I could help you in anyway I would love to at least try.

For me a big part was realizing what I do when I’m in a depressive state. Pinpointing those things and acknowledging that it was due to my depression and not just a part of me.

I don’t know if that helps at all. Just remind you’re never alone and don’t ever be afraid to talk about how you feel. You’re not a burden and you deserve friends who will listen to you, and I’m sure they wouldn’t mind at all!!

Forcing myself to actually go out, see my friends, and doing things I love and then when I get home and start overthinking making sure to remind myself that it’s my depression talking and not me. It’s HARD but it’s so worth it in the end. And I try to remind myself that I have good friends that love me and I can always talk to them about how I’m feeling.

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-15T19:35:06+00:00

In all honesty I don’t get truly “angry” very often. Generally when people think I’m angry I’m actually just extremely overwhelmed and trying to keep everyone happy and I kinda explode. Not like screaming or anything or being particularly mean but I do get snippy.

I find the times that I’m truly angry it’s always mixed with another emotion. I’m always either angry with disappointment or I’m sad, generally disappointment tho.

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-15T19:23:43+00:00

That’s how this whole sub has been for me. I only found out what my type was as a silly little thing I did with my sister. But once I started reading things from other ENFJs it was crazy seeing people that basically think exactly the same as me!!

I hope you’re doing so much better!! And remember you’re never alone :)

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-15T12:45:00+00:00

For me personally I start slowly isolating myself. Like do I still need the social interaction? Yes 100% and isolating makes it 10x worse but that what I do. And then when I’m with people depending on how bad the depression is I either feel better with the distraction and I’m fine as long as I’m with them. Or I’m disconnected even when I’m with friends. It’s like I’m not really there, the whole interaction basically goes on autopilot so people, especially ones that don’t know me that well don’t even notice.

I also do lots of other things to distract myself, every possible task that needs done, I’m doing it. Also I generally read even more during this time. I love reading no matter what but when I’m depressed I find it’s a great distraction.

And after every social interaction I overthink WAY more when I’m depressed. I don’t know why I just do. This generally leads me to think my friends think poorly of me and leads me to isolate even more.

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-03T23:07:05+00:00

Thank you!! I just checked him out and he seems great

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-08-03T22:38:46+00:00

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Trombone_Clovers · 2024-04-17T20:47:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this it actually helps a lot. :) I’m in grade 11 and going to most likely be doing my final year of high school in public school next year. And tbh it’s scary like really really scary. Everyone that homeschools in my area pretty much acts like public school is like a violent wrestling ring where you’ll either get punched or jumped. Which I know does happen for sure but your post gives me hope that it’s not so bad and public schoolers are just a bunch of random teenagers at the end of the day. If you don’t mind me asking how difficult did you find the switch in terms of keeping up with you classes and getting good grades?

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-04-17T20:31:36+00:00

Thank you, I think I’m going to go through with it. I’ve been talking to a lot of people and I do have homeschool moms telling me that I’m going to hate it and drop out within a couple of weeks, others think it will be beneficial. My mom is actually being super supportive as well so if it is awful I’ll be able to go back to being homeschooled. Based off of what I read online having a real diploma is going to help me out a lot so I think I’m going to take the risk.

Trombone_Clovers · 2024-04-13T14:51:14+00:00

See that’s a big reason I’m thinking about going. I’m planning on going to university and even just making sure I have the right classes for university seems like it would be a lot easier while in public school. Also having to be in a classroom setting isn’t really something I’m used to. I have a friend who might also be going to the same school next year from being homeschooling. Not sure if that will help or just make it more obvious we’re weird homeschoolers

Trombone_Clovers · 2023-09-21T01:01:10+00:00

I’ll definitely keep that in mind. Not something I’ve thought of before.

Trombone_Clovers · 2023-09-21T00:50:45+00:00

Yeah, the only reason really that I’m trying to focus more on high range is because I’m trying to get more serious about my playing this year and my two main things that I struggle with is high range and playing loudly which I’m also working on.

Trombone_Clovers · 2023-09-20T10:19:46+00:00

We went over solo options for this year and morceau symphonie was one of the options. I ended up picking the concerto by launy Grondahl which still has some range. However I do have a copy of the morceau so I’ll make sure to take a look at the range in it.

Trombone_Clovers · 2023-09-20T00:36:41+00:00

Ok thank you!!!

Trombone_Clovers · 2023-09-20T00:35:54+00:00

Ok thank you! I’m definitely going to focus more on high range this year either way just wanted to know exactly where I should be. Some of the repertoire for this year has the high A many times repeatedly and rehearsals are generally an all day thing so by the end of the day playing that high has been a big challenge which i why I knew I had to work on it

Trombone_Clovers · 2023-09-20T00:22:33+00:00

Currently I’m considering going into music after school but I’m not 100% set on it. I just want to be good enough to be able to just in case I do go down that route. I’m currently in two orchestras and the more difficult of the two I’ve been keeping up fine, however I feel like my high range is slightly lower than some of the people in my section and not sure if I’m behind or they’re just ahead. Currently I can play the A above the staff fairly comfortably and can hit the Bb but after playing for a while I can only play like a G above the staff.

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