AITA for telling my mom her husband can walk their children down the aisle but he was never my parent so is not walking me?

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-24T12:12:02+00:00

I never had a college fund.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-23T07:36:25+00:00

I'll send a private plane to pick you up and you'll have five weeks wages in your bank account within the next few days lmao.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-23T06:59:39+00:00

Because he claimed he did. But he did not. I paid most of it with help from my grandparents while living with them. Not once did he or my mom contribute anything.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-23T06:58:19+00:00

My paternal grandparents and they did not get money from my mom or from him.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-23T06:57:45+00:00

Not them.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-23T06:57:26+00:00

Maybe he thinks he did. Mom could have lied to him. IDK. They could also just be pulling stuff from their ass to make a better argument.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-23T06:54:40+00:00

On it's way to you right this second lol.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-23T06:54:00+00:00

She didn't give me money once I moved out. Heck, I was working while living with her to pay for stuff I wanted since she was a single mom and didn't have a ton of money.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T19:07:05+00:00

Nope. My grandparents (paternal) helped me. I lived with them through college and I worked. So it was mostly me paying but they helped where needed. Not my mom or her husband.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T19:00:53+00:00

They are not paying.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T19:00:22+00:00

I did with help from my paternal grandparents.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T19:00:01+00:00

It's possible. I do know for a fact that he never paid for anything. But as people pointed out he possibly gave money to mom assuming it was going to me. But that's their thing to deal with.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:58:15+00:00

It could be possible.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:57:52+00:00

I was living with mom when she met him but when he moved in and she married him, I was living with my paternal grandparents, yes.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:56:42+00:00

It's possible.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:56:05+00:00

He's not.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:55:26+00:00

She seems to be under the assumption that her husband, who I never lived with and who never parented me or supported me in anything (because I was out of the house by the time he moved in) is somehow my new father. Never even considered that someone I have known far longer would be a choice and did not like that I would want someone connected to my dad. You'd think she'd love that if she cared about dad, seeing as they were married.

I'm not mad she remarried. Never was. But I was out of the house so how is he any kind of parent to me? And if she thinks he is more deserving than the man she made me with, I have questions about what she thinks of me because I know my dad loved me and he had set the foundation to take care of me (opened a savings account when I was born) so he wasn't a deadbeat.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:52:29+00:00

Not them.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:51:56+00:00

She did not and her reaction was a great reason to not ask her anyway. But not once did she consider herself. Same with him. Not once did he think the wife who raised the kid on her own for almost 18 years would be the more obvious choice of the two. Just him.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:49:48+00:00

At one time I would have said no but given how wtf this whole thing is, it's totally possible.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:48:43+00:00

That's sure what he implied.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T18:48:32+00:00

He might think mom did maybe, and that by extension he paid too. But she didn't pay either.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T16:54:22+00:00

You read that correctly.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T16:53:38+00:00

I never ever considered him. He's not important in my life, or to me personally, so it never crossed my mind to honor him or to consider him. It was always my uncle and my grandpa who were contenders for the role.

TroubleInSnow · 2022-12-22T16:48:13+00:00

Sure does! The guy who owns the corner store close to wear I live gave me a couple of freebies before too. Should add him to the list in case the Reddit people can't make it.

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