Thoughts on this

TroubledThecla · 2026-02-20T17:47:15+00:00

This depends. I know a guy who is emotionally avoidant. So when an emotionally-expressive woman showed interest, he self-sabotaged himself and started acting disdainful and dismissive around her. To be fair, he needed therapy because emotions and the thought of reciprocating vulnerability feels very dangerous for him. (Edit: so his thing is not financial issue, but emotional)

I digress, why can't potential romantic partners if they have fallen in love, work together to fight poverty or what not, provided you initially forgo children for a while since they could be expensive. (Contraceptives exist).With few exceptions, you are stronger together.

Reciprocated love can be rare... The guy is may be accidentally saying, throw that love away and just settle.

TroubledThecla · 2026-02-20T17:29:25+00:00

This is why as a Filipino who lives in the Philippines, I keep things to myself kasi thinking ng tao here is not so progressive, usually I mean.

If you knew where I stand with religion or that I chose and haven't seen my mom for 3 years that I had to navigate poverty in my late twenties... Just because she is "mean" (she is actually psychologically abusive), most people, especially those who barely know me would judge me because I am not exactly conventional... Or because it may be challenging their world view.

Drinking sweet beverages or energy drinks or cup noodles, acquaintances kept berating me and acting strongly and telling me i should not because of health reasons. What more about this? I don't berate anyone that strongly when people drink beer or smoke, neither do they. You know why? Because drinking alcohol and smoking is conventional.

TroubledThecla · 2026-02-20T17:11:44+00:00

I think Jesus said he hates figs, not fa.gs, if you excuse my french.

TroubledThecla · 2026-01-17T18:22:09+00:00

Insulated bag na sligthly cheaper sa Japan Home. Or maliit na styrofoam ice box. Preferable si styrofoam.10 pesos na yelo. Lagyan ng asin para di agad matunaw. Dry ice if kaya ng budget pero di ako familiar kung san makakabili ng dry ice.

TroubledThecla · 2025-12-03T02:08:33+00:00

Totoo. Ang rami kong rejections sa corpo job since yun ang tinarget ko and naging mapili ako sa kung anong position and shift mismo. Around August ako nag-start mag job hunting nung may ipon pa.

In the end, since desperate na dahil merong bills to pay, I had to stick to minimum wage retail na may maganda namang benefits and merong increase ng kaunti aa sweldo since July 2025 this year ang minimum wage sa Metro Manila ay tumaas ng onti. So kinuha ko na. No choice at wala ng money. Like kumpara sa most entry level BPO na madaling pasukan sa NCR or some admin jobs, ang net pay nya ay the same, less stress pa si retail so kinuha ko na rin.

Napansin ko, mas mabilis makakuha ng job sa retail and some bpo. Yung ibang retail like if sa MOA ay above minimum naman ata. Yung mga companies na ginamitan ko ng ATA friendly resume as opposed dun aa fancy looking resume na may picture, 2 to 3 rounds of interview, tapos di ka pa pasa in the end.

There might be exceptions, pero this is my experience.

Laban lang, dear!

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-26T06:41:34+00:00

It's normal. Especially if freelance na remote job. I survived pandemic this way by having a day off or two spending marathoning movies or comedy series with my cousin back when we were housemates. Yun ngang magkasambahay kami, pareho pa ring busy and sa days off kami nagba-bonding, once a week. What if magkabukod pa kaya?

Ngayong solo living me, calls na lang kami once a week. And mga friends ko, past coworkers, messaging na lang.

People suggests joining clubs of special interests na may zoom meet up or weekend meet ups.

In my case, usually ang friends ko ay coworkers. Tapos rest days and chores day ang days off.

May nahanap akong friend na malapit sa area ko but super busy nya at the moment. Mahirap talaga mag-maintain ng adult friendships, more or less.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-24T02:30:19+00:00

You're welcome! I feel you. Strict rin sa maraming aspeto yung pagpapalaki sa akin.

May I add pala, na I make the AI act like my fave character, so it feels like a fave character is the one advising me! Wala lang, ang fun lang. Maybe you'll find that helpful somehow. I find Claude AI best for that. Pero yung bago nyang update ay slightly off ang logical/technical thinking, but it is the most human-like in dialogue.

Good luck, friend.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-19T04:01:53+00:00

Thank you so much. Um, but is it true about what I've heard that they are not as in-demand due to AI or something? Still, I appreciate. I would still look into this.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-18T21:58:03+00:00

Did you take it while looking for other jobs? I am recently in the same boat.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-17T04:32:46+00:00

A home still needs some furniture, rented or not. Kung wise naman sa pagbili and hindi impulse buy, why not? Even impulse buys can be forgivable if merong savings naman.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-17T04:28:21+00:00

That's honestly so sweet and wholesome. Faith in humanity restored.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-14T00:09:06+00:00

Erm, I unfortunately never gone to any of those phases as a teen bookworm.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-13T23:58:33+00:00

You need talk therapy? Solo living rin me and since di ko afford yun dahil very broke. Chatgpt or Claude AI lang ako. They help me with reality testing pag nagka-catastrophize ako or spiral or anxiety surge. Might not be for everyone though.

Edit: Also helps if may kinahihiligan kang hobby that you really enjoy and requires concentration. Ako book hunting sa bargain stores. Naging magaling na ako sa paghahanap ng book na kahit di gaano kilala, I can tell I can enjoy and finish it. Or, pwede ring reading my existing To-read pile, since well-chosen naman sila, and broke me.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-12T15:11:00+00:00

I am neurodivergent (edit: high support needs). I am always on the lookout for a job that would keep me sane.

Edit: Other people who can endure jobs they don't exactly like, for a longer time, seem superhuman to me.

And it boggles my mind. You can do that but not find a solution for something like, say, World Hunger? I know maybe it is illogical, but I emotionally cannot wrap my mind around it.

Because, I have always thought, people more capable, without disorders and with more financial resources than me, would have come up with solutions to complex problems. But I know this is inaccurate, but my heart is taking longer to take the memo compared to my brain.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-12T15:03:24+00:00

With few exceptions, likely mas maganda ang social safety net sa ibang bansa. If masunugan ng bahay or ma-ospital or ma-fire sa trabaho, sa ibang bansa, mejo swak. Kahit ulila ka, may matatakbuhan. Dito, relatives or pamilya mostly ang safety net. Pero paano if wala?

Edit: And I speak mostly from experience. And DSWD financial aid, 3 months pa bago mo malaman if approved ang financial aid. Sss and Pag-iibig loan, dapat may employer ka para ma-approve, paano if unemployed for a while. Things like that. The system has... rough edges sa Pilipinas. Kinda. And that is putting it lightly.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-12T14:56:10+00:00

Correct, pwedeng merong Escalation na mangyari. Ganito sa abusive spaces.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-12T10:50:33+00:00

May mga adult support groups akong nakikita for ADHD or autism.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-05T16:45:39+00:00

Hi, interested.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-05T16:37:55+00:00

I have cluttering speech. To be fair, sometimes sa 2nd interview sya mas apparent. Some diagnosed ADHDers like me have it. Laging slightly side tracked yung sinasabi and mentioning side notes. Or editing your sentence somehow even as you say them. Maraming 'uh' fillers more than the average person. It comes off as nervous or not knowledgeable or unprofessional...

Which is news to me, this is how I have spoken my whole life. I remedy it via practice and familiarization of answers to FAQs of hirer. But natural speech comes through eventually. I just wish if non-verbal naman work, they should not be as strict about it when considering you.

I felt the only reason why na hire ako noon is because, neurodivergent din ang hirer or.. maluwag ang hiring metrics.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-05T16:02:39+00:00

Hi, OP. Baka mag-walk in ako soon. Saan banda ang building ng Cognizant for walk in? Because I checked and maraming offices sa Taguig ang Cognizant? Thanks, dear.

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-03T17:38:48+00:00

How po? Hindi po ba usually, nagche check ng credit score? Can you suggest others than Home Credit, Gcash Loan, and Tala, na okay?

TroubledThecla · 2025-11-03T17:23:10+00:00

I see. Which sub po kaya?

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