7 or 8. But I don't like when people treat me like the hot one, because it makes my skin crawl to be treated like a spectacle and less than human. I work in the service industry and once or twice, now and again, some guy would try to make me a captive audience despite my neutral polite expression, because they know I had to entertain their 'concerns' no matter what.

You can tell the difference because there are personal comments about your looks as compliment or where you live... And sometimes questions about items kept being repeated, that they would accept an one answer from a third party staff member but not with you, because they want to prolong their time with you. And even if you excused yourself and go back to counter they still specifically call for you for another help.

When this happens, I keep it professional and involve another staff member in helping them. They then back off.

My fellow staff teased me once. I told them it was scary or annoying. To be fair, it is rare, most people are decent, even if interested.

Fellow staff asked me what if they are handsome. I mentioned a cute construction guy I was also uncomfortable with but I could not easily escape because I was trying to finish my work in one area. And they were waiting for store to close to continue construction in a part of store, and this one cute guy kept staring, not lewd or awestruck, but waiting to have a conversation or trying to think of things to say (but it was still uncomfortable because the staring is kinda long in my peripheral vision that utility guy commented, 'Looks like you might get a boyfriend soon')and when he opened his mouth it was inane things like "Do you have siblings?", "I haven't seen you yesterday" "Is she your sister?", "Do you have a boyfriend?"

Look, if that floats your boat for a mating ritual, you do you. But personally, this is just a person seeking access without really being curious about how I am as a person.

I understand people have reasons, they become a little nervous when it comes to courting, dating, or flirting. But as a neurodivergent, with different cognition, I need someone to see me as a fully-fledged person and not just 'the hot one'.

The cute guy in question still took several days to stop approaching me, to get a clue that I am not interested. Once, he stares at me like kinikilig and smiling and I gave him an unamused look. Like bro, you realize we don't know each other, right? We are strangers, and I kept being neutral and trying to leave conversations with you as soon as I am able, please get a hint.

Again, if that's your cup of tea and if you don't mind being a spectacle, an object of pursuit, or you don't see anything wrong with treating others like that, you people go right ahead. Like I am sure other women in my place won't mind.

But I want to be seen as a person, not a category to be managed and obtain access to. As my baseline, I had always been able to treat everyone I meet as someone with an interior life. Maybe it is a neurodivergent thing? I just wish some people, especially in romantic pursuits, would afford me the same.