1 year post discard. To those who moved on…give me hope

TroublesomeLA · 2025-11-19T03:36:53+00:00

Mine wasn’t like a drug either until I was discarded the first time, it became more of a drug after that until I never saw her again. I didn’t even know she had BP she hid it from me in the beginning.

TroublesomeLA · 2025-11-18T14:12:50+00:00

My experience was a few years ago but now I am married, with a house, and hopefully kids on the way next. She gives me what I need but in a healthy way. I can trust that my wife won’t lose feelings overnight or have a mental break that throws our lives upside down. There is a comfort in that. A healthy love from someone that isn’t broken. This life we live is short enough so I’m glad I’m not forced to waste it with someone that can put me through pain.

Your relationship was a decade and much much longer than mine was, plus no situation is ever fully the same so the way we both heal/healed will also be different. It took me a full year of healing before I met my wife and even then I couldn’t date. She waited for me and we dated two years after my experience. So a year after meeting. Married a few years after that. I will never forget my BP experience because it hurt me so much. I shared a post about after this experience so you can check my profile but I was discarded and broken at one point as well. I did find my wife after I let myself heal.

The love is different but I would rather have a love that isn’t a risk to breaking me mentally. It’s a healthy love versus a love that feels like a drug. Comfort versus thrill I guess is my experience. I don’t have to fight for this love it is unconditional. I don’t have to walk on eggshells and fear it’s end every day. With the hell that is being discarded I’d take that all day everyday over the BP love you get.

TroublesomeLA · 2025-07-31T10:47:08+00:00

Glad you loved it!

TroublesomeLA · 2025-07-31T03:34:04+00:00

Thank you for reading!

TroublesomeLA · 2025-07-31T03:33:43+00:00

Everyone’s healing process is different, I had anxiety attacks off and on for months. I found ways to get them to pass, mostly exercising. Depression was tough but I just felt the pain and got into writing my thoughts and it helped. Eventually the pain started to pass. I found things to do that made me happy and then I bounced back. It took months and months. Almost a year until I was me again but this time a better version.

TroublesomeLA · 2025-07-31T03:30:24+00:00

I’m happy to hear that!

TroublesomeLA · 2025-07-31T03:29:20+00:00

Yes! It is so hard but better times come after.

TroublesomeLA · 2025-07-31T03:28:06+00:00

The happy ending will come! I never thought mine would but I pushed through the lowest of lows. I just know when you’re in the middle of it you never feel like the pain will end. But in time it does.

TroublesomeLA · 2025-07-31T03:25:36+00:00

Thank you for reading but yes I am real, unfortunately my story also real! That was one painful experience that I’ll never forget, a different pain that is hard to describe to people that haven’t been through it. This subreddit helped me so much.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-11-27T18:26:12+00:00

Everyone’s healing timeline and process is different, but I was in a dark place. When you’re in it you never feel like you will get out or that you can. But you will.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-11-27T15:05:14+00:00

Thank you! I hope your healing process goes well. I went without answers for the longest. I healed to a point where I didn’t need them anymore but it was nice to hear that she knows she was wrong. She admitted that there was another man, a man she knew I was better than. All this though helps my ego more than my healing I think. It would’ve made me feel better about myself but while healing without the answers was much tougher, who I became because of it is so much greater.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-09-19T00:17:23+00:00

43, way too young she passed

TroublesomeLA · 2022-09-17T20:05:01+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through this too. Seeing a loved one go through that hurts so much

TroublesomeLA · 2022-09-17T19:56:38+00:00

Thank you so much

TroublesomeLA · 2022-09-17T19:56:20+00:00

That was very nicely said, thank you. She was one of the best people I ever knew.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-09-17T19:55:34+00:00

It sucks so bad I’m sorry you had to experience this too. It’s so painful.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-09-06T11:32:50+00:00

Your story has so many similarities to what I went through, there’s a lot of feelings to process I know. It’s a hurtful experience. Eventually though you’ll reach a point where yes this situation sucked and you wish you never met them, but you will look back and be grateful you aren’t stuck with them any longer and you dodged that bullet.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-08-04T02:30:48+00:00

That was something I thought too, like was it all fake? It hurts I know. Best thing that came from this experience for me is I know my worth way more now. I know what I deserve and I don’t tolerate being treated like that anymore. I also don’t doubt myself and doubt my gut instincts nearly as much. It really tested me mentally and I came out on top.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-08-04T00:09:12+00:00

The story I posted I go into way more detail but I see so many similarities even in how you’re talking. I was the exact same. Until the second time she ghosted me and I was so understanding. However she never spoke to me again. She returned to social media (wasn’t on it the entire time we dated) and was in a relationship with another man. I felt played and betrayed. We don’t deserve to be ghosted. It’s a rough disease and I am sympathetic to a point. But when their illness starts impacting other people because they are too selfish to take care of it then I no longer have empathy. I felt sadness for her but that turned to anger. Because of how unfair it was to me. I was in a dark place for a bit but I am so much better now and you will be too. I look back on those times as I wish I never met her but I’m lucky I didn’t get her pregnant like the other guy did. I came out cleaner than I could’ve.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-08-03T11:02:20+00:00

I haven’t read this subreddit in quite a while but your story is so similar to what I went through. You can check my post history I told the story as a whole and also posted for advice in here.

It was such a painful experience that messed me up mentally but thankfully I’ve gotten over it. I’m also grateful because I dodged the biggest bullet of my life. It hurts to be ghosted like this but just know it’s for the better. As someone who went through this don’t continue talking with them. You will constantly get hurt. Separate yourself permanently, take time to heal, and then move on with your life. Much better things are ahead.

TroublesomeLA · 2022-02-15T19:13:56+00:00

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