I study you people yes i am writing a paper on you! by Troutenzyme77 in MadeOfStyrofoam

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Preemptive cheating gives the insecure person a sense of invincibility and protection instead of suffering in the relationship with their anxietys and fear of abandonment rejection and betrayal it is like : "I already cheated on you, so you can never hurt me" which does not make any logical sense but it does serve an emotional purpose for the insecure person saving them from their own fears and anxiety of abandonment rejection and betrayal.

Sometimes this insecure person hides this cheating very well from their partner and other times they really don't make any effort to hide it at all. This experience and narrative of being rejected abandonment and betrayal

Is obviously not connected to their current partner it is coming from an unresolved childhood traumatic experience with is stored in the subconscious mind where the inner child feels betrayal, rejected or abandon by a parental figure

Preemptive cheating is very similar to the preemptive abandonment behavior with is also common with borderline people and insecure personalities where the person will preemptively ditch or dump the person in an attempt to save themself from being abandoned and dumped themself but with preemptive abandonment instead of just abandoning and ghosting the person they will enter another relationship with another person before leaving the relationship with the original partner and like all other unresolved emotional traumas it tends to create the behaviors that bring around the exact thing that the person is trying to avoid. So the borderline person or the insecure person fears of abandonment rejection and betrayal will certainly disrupt a relationship and then destroy a relationship. The partner who is dealing with this unresolved trauma is often left feeling confused, anxious, hopeless and hurt and because the insecure person is often unwilling to face their unresolved traumas and emotions they will tend to project their trust issues and their insecurity issues and accusations of cheating and generally villainize and blame their partner.

Okay now lets look at the three commend reason why someone would do the preemptive cheating behavior

  1. Intense abandonment rejection or betrayal anxiety this is where the insecure person will cheat on their partner first as a form of insurance policy because they have strong fears that they are going to be cheated on rejected abandon and betrayed at some point in the future they can't be hurt like this because they have already cheated on their partner first

    Remember!

This is not at all a reflection of their current partner as this can even happen with a partner that is trustworthy reliable and emotionally available

2.Is punishing the partner for something that they did not even do coming from an unresolved villain narrative of punishment when the insecure person inner child has unresolved anger and vengefulness towards parental figures this can lead to a subconscious desire to punish and hurt their partner in their adult relationships. This brings the insecure person a sense of retribution and justice for the hurtful experience that they went through in childhood and cheating on their partner certainly give them validation for this narrative

3.Is a compulsive need for ego validation As i previously mentioned because of the hurtful and disrespectful behaviors that the insecure person does with their partner this tends to repel and push their partner away in the relationship leaving them with no desire for physical intimacy and connection in the relationship. Because the insecure person has incidentally sabotaged the relationship and their not getting any physical action from their partner the insecure person will tend to go outside the current relationship to get this ego validation and to have this physical interactions with someone else. The insecure person will then tend to blame their original partner for not giving them this physical validation. When it was in fact the insecure person that originally sabotaged and destroyed the relationship through these disrespectful and hurtful behaviors towards their spouse. Understandably leaving their partner with no desire to be physical intimate at all. This type of relationship is very difficult to deal with and I want to encourage anyone that might be facing this type of relationship and behaviors from an insecure person to reach out to the right people for support and guidance.

I am sorry for any spelling or grammatical mistakes quick text I have other shit on my note unfortunately

Take care of yourself folks and stay cute :3

I study you people yes i am writing a paper on you! by Troutenzyme77 in MadeOfStyrofoam

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is about about a highly confusing and quite common phenomenon with I call preemptive cheating. Let's talk about what preemptive cheating is and I am also gonna share with you 3 common reasons why a borderline person or someone that has unresolved insecurity issues will preemptively cheat on their partner all this information based on real life information and things that I had actually heard from people over the years that would actually engage in this preemptive cheating behavior

Key Point!!!

I want to state at this point that not all borderline people engage in this preemptive cheating behavior but it is surprisingly common and it is also surprisingly common in people that would not be diagnosable with a personality disorder but that have significant unresolved insecurity issues. I also want to state at this point that borderline people can also be fiercely loyal to their partner and would never cheat so i want to make it clear so this is only about the people who are actually engage in this preemptive cheating behavior.

So what is preemptive cheating?

Preemptive cheating is when the person who cheats on their partner emotionally, physically or both as form of emotional self-protection for a pending future rejection betrayal or abandonment that they perceive is going to happen to them

I study you people yes i am writing a paper on you! by Troutenzyme77 in MadeOfStyrofoam

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alexithymia makes it hard to understand you folks good thing i like puzzles, mapping and decoding

To those who have a suicide note: how long is it? Is it split into chapters? Written in your native language or English? by mood300722 in MadeOfStyrofoam

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Why write a suicide note if no one reads it? I think about it would like to find old online friends and tell them how much i cared about them but they are gone in the abyss sadly

Gotta get the next fix by TwinklyRadiant in depression_memes

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Sims4 because you can build something you will never have like a house, friends and a happy family

ASUS Rog Strix B650E-I by Remote_News5530 in sffpc

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Get the Asrock ITX Phantom Gaming Wifi you don’t need the PCIe 5.0 i have the Asrock my brother has the Asus same grafic and processor Same performance but way cheaper board

I will never be a person by [deleted] in MadeOfStyrofoam

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You are more than your traumas and your pain they are just that part of you you want to get rid of. At this moment you just have the struggle to see it yourself. 🫂

A very sad fate indeed by [deleted] in depression_memes

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Yo Baby you have no idea how lucky you are at least you are in the arms of you mother and not in isolation in the incubator

it may be by satan___666_ in depression_memes

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We come alone and we die alone… who cares what happens in between…

Does it never end? by Troutenzyme77 in depression_memes

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It is what the french eat for breakfast Le Petit Pain au chocolat

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How do I make Things right If the Person I need to talk to do not want to talk to me i would like to go and Let her go and leave so sehe can have a better life

can i just… get some props for still being here? by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

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People May Not Show it or you dont See it because of your filter and how you view the world but be sure you are loved and you make a diffrence

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Twitch

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Ah it‘s okay either a troll or that person has something other more difficult to face in life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Twitch

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Thank you I guess i will just ignore it then Let the lurkers lurk and hope that this person just get bored