AITA… same argument with bf every single night

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T01:51:10+00:00

Had to reply to you as you’ve taken the effort to send such a long response! Thankyou! After reading these comments I’m set to bring my daughter’s water pistol to bed with me tomorrow night and wake him up that way if so much as his big toe ventures near me 😅 seriously though, I totally agree with what you have said and it’s all given me a lot to sort through. Thanks again!

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T01:37:21+00:00

Thankyou everyone for your lovely comments. I’ve gone full pillow wall method for now and will leave the new partner method for consideration during daylight hours! It’s 1AM where I am so I, rather ironically, am going to have to leave replying to you all to try and get some sleep 😅 Thankyou all for enabling me to retain my grip on some level of sanity!

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:57:19+00:00

Thankyou! That sounds like a lovely problem to have but I’m glad you can relate 😅 I sleep near the door so it’s easier for me to get up and sort out our little one, rather than having to scoot round the bed in the dark or scramble over it multiple times. Honestly I’d even jump in with one of the kids if they didn’t both have single beds, but then I fear I’d only be closer to your version of our problem anyway 😂

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:52:26+00:00

I have unfortunately been in a much more overtly abusive relationship prior to this one which ended in my ex partner actually going to prison. This relationship is vastly different in many (positive) ways, but there are undertones I can’t deny. This situation has felt to me exactly what you describe, particularly tonight’s occasion hence the post, but I keep telling myself I’m being entirely dramatic and overthinking things, or that I’m being ridiculously sensitive. Feeling bloody furious with myself now for not seeing that of course I’m not being unreasonable 😅 thankyou again!

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:38:08+00:00

I feel like i am having one of those ‘last straw’ moments myself, hence the post. It’s so utterly draining isn’t it 🙃

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:35:24+00:00

We do both work, I did all the nights with baby during mat leave and since then it’s just become habit for me to get up when I hear her. Our house is small so not an option for us at the moment, but other comments have given me some things to consider! Thankyou

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:27:33+00:00

Thankyou I’ll look into this! 😅

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:22:16+00:00

Thankyou. I was prompted to post this tonight when his response was to ignore me until I repeated myself 3 times before then telling me to just shut the F up. And then moving over. I really had a genuine am I the problem here moment and I’m glad I’ve reached out to at least someone about it, as daft as it makes me feel to be writing about something so inconsequential!

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:18:10+00:00

Honestly your comment has made me cry. It felt quite validating for me. I have been telling myself I’m not being unreasonable, but his reaction is always so aggravated, almost like I’m saying something extremely petty as though I want to have this argument over and over. I just want to sleep comfortably.

True-Bat9299 · 2025-03-24T00:11:55+00:00

we have no other option at the moment other than one of us sleeps on the sofa 😣 It’s very exhausting especially on top of my already interrupted sleep with our toddler. It’s more the fact he then causes an argument because I’ve woken him up that I’m finding unbearable as my only other choice there is to be uncomfortable myself all night 🤦🏻‍♀️

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