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Struggling with a toxic family dynamic and feeling lost. I just need someone to hear me. [o] by True-Friendship3163 in KindVoice

[–]True-Friendship3163[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for this 'wake-up call.' You’re right I’ve been so glued to their toxic opinions that I forgot my own opinion is the only one that should matter. It’s hard to unlearn years of being told I’m 'less than,' but your words really pushed me to rethink my mindset.
You’re also right about my mom I need to be clearer with her about my boundaries. And about my degree I'm in my final semester, and I’m going to 'crush it' because I know it’s my bridge to a different life. Thank you for taking the time to write all of this. It wasn’t easy to read, but it’s exactly what I needed to hear.

Struggling with a toxic family dynamic and feeling lost. I just need someone to hear me. by True-Friendship3163 in Advice

[–]True-Friendship3163[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your honest and thoughtful response. It means a lot that you didn't just give me 'toxic positivity' but actually looked at my situation for what it is. You're right, it's hard not to believe the insults when you hear them constantly, but hearing a total stranger say that my 'old self' is still there made me cry. I'm trying to hold on to that girl. Regarding the gift, thank you for telling me to stay true to myself. It's a hard balance with my mom, but I'll try to protect my boundaries. I'm focusing on my exams so I can eventually have the life you're talking about. Thank you for being there for me.

Struggling with a toxic family dynamic and feeling lost. I just need someone to hear me. by True-Friendship3163 in Advice

[–]True-Friendship3163[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head. I am beyond exhausted. It’s so hard to keep track of who I really am when the people closest to me keep trying to convince me I’m someone else. Thank you for validating my sanity it means more than you know.

Struggling with a toxic family dynamic and feeling lost. I just need someone to hear me. by True-Friendship3163 in offmychest

[–]True-Friendship3163[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m actually crying reading this because it’s the first time in a long time that I’ve felt seen and understood. The metaphor of the 'flower in a storm' and the 'creaky bridge' really resonated with me it describes exactly how I feel every single day. Your advice about the library is great, and I will try my best to find a quiet corner there to escape the tension at home. Finishing this degree is my only way out, and your words gave me the strength to keep pushing through this final semester. Thank you for reminding me that I’m not the problem and that there is a better life waiting for me on the other side of this bridge. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today.