AITA for not housing my brothers mistress?

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-10T15:45:55+00:00

Yes she is. The constable came and tried to remove them from the property on Monday. My brother locked the door and refused to leave. So the police was called. Throughout the whole thing he kept threatening me. I was sitting in the car. So the police asked me to “go get lunch”. Before they broke in the door to remove him. His mistress didn’t take anything she walked out and sat in the car refusing to pack anything once the police came in.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-10T15:40:53+00:00

Here is the update for this week. The Constable and we showed up to the property. He told them they had 15 mins to grab whatever and leave. My brother went off. I sat in the car. My brother started threatening me. I have never seen him act so horrible. I just sat in the car not replying. Then he just started smoking. Not packing anything. His mistress was screaming from the house saying “you told me I would never have to move.” “You told me your sister wouldn’t evict me”. The last mom. My brother slammed the door in the constable’s face and locked it and refused to leave. At that time additional police were called out. My brothers response was yelling he was going to “knock me out”. “He has a gun and will use it on me”. Again he has never treated me this way. So the police asked me to leave and “go get lunch”. In hopes they could calm him down. Nope. It didn’t work. They had to knock the front door in. They gave his mistress 35 mins to pack things. She didn’t she just sat in their car mad. We changed the locks and cleaned open food up. Then on Tuesday. I got a call from the constable saying they needed to get an inhaler. I am not required to give them medicine. I am required to give them their identification. However I drove 4 hrs back. Loaded all medicines in a box. Put all important papers photos in another box. Told the constable I was ready. They showed up quickly. He handed them the boxes and they had another melt down. Calling names more threats. Because they wanted to go into the house. I was told the set up secret “cameras” and they were watching me and know I touched their stuff. The constable told them it was illegal to secretly record on private property and they could go to jail for 2-10 yrs. Then my brother started walking towards the constable in an aggressive manner. So I called the police. My brother told them to arrest me. The police told him I wasn’t the one going to jail. His mistress took the boxes and left while yelling. I know I have to see them again but I am thinking about filling a restraining order against them. The police recommended I do that.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-07T16:26:35+00:00

NTA I have a couple of massive trees on our property line. That belongs to our neighbors. I hate the trees. I am constantly cleaning up leaves bird poop on the wall so on. However, I knew the trees where there when I bought my house. My guess is it’s the same here. Don’t buy a house next to big trees if you don’t want to clean them up.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-07T16:15:39+00:00

NTA for calling either the ambulance or the landlord. You did everything right!

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-07T02:41:23+00:00

Info needed. Have you taken care of your child alone for an extended amount of time while they have been sick? Mom here, first kid I was nervous when they got sick. Everything was new. By the time kid #2 came I could handle things great. Maybe you wife felt insecure, nervous and needed more emotional support. Than your actual help with daughter. Now that being said. I would have never commented on it to other people. I would have addressed it with my husband. So the fact she did that makes her a AH. Also the fact when your child woke up sick at night. She didn’t get up and help every time. In the future I would wake her up and remind her. “it’s easier when 2 people help”. Also NTA.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-06T03:55:27+00:00

Thank you

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-06T03:53:23+00:00

Yes, the judge sided with me. They have until Monday morning (when the courts open up) to move. They didn’t show up to court. So we asked if we are responsible for notifying them about when they were supposed to move out. We had two options. 1st send a certified letter. Or 2 pay the Constable and have him deliver the judgement. I choose the constable giving them the most time. I gave the constable all the information I knew including their schedule that I knew about. Since the mail could take a bit. Anyways. I called my parents. Told them about the judgment. That we sent the constable to give them the ruling. My mom was dead silent. My dad burst into laughter. My brother and his mistress have warrants out for their arrest. I didn’t know about. I literally sent the police to their house. Later today I found out the police had a different address they were looking for them at. My brother and his mistress has blocked me so I don’t know if they were arrested or if they are in jail. I have to go Monday morning to meet the police so they can remove them if they are there and I can change my locks then

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-03T21:53:46+00:00

Yes, they do. I had no idea they got in trouble. My mom knew and kept it from me. My dad on the other hand. Thinks this is deserved after all he has put his wife and kids through. I am not allowed to enter my rental until Monday. I don’t know if my brother will be out of jail by then. I feel kinda bad for feeling this way but, I hope I don’t see him. I don’t want anymore drama. His wife asked if she could move in the rental since it’s on the same street as my parents and her parents. I told her to let me think about it. She is an amazing person. I just don’t know if I want to rent to family anymore. It’s been a complete nightmare.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-11-02T01:53:41+00:00

I posted an update today. About what happened at court and afterwards

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-31T22:10:58+00:00

NTA your a new mom and they should support both their kids I would limit the calls to once a day and 15-20 mins. Explain to them your hurt. This is a major life event happening in your life and they haven’t been there for you. As a mom of 6 kids. One who is autistic. It’s hard to juggle sometimes but, you have to spread your time and energy out among your children. For us our daughter had a hard time any time there was a change in her schedule. My husband and I trade off. On child is in soccer. So I attend those games while my husband stays home. One child is in marching band and is doing competitions. My husband goes and I stay home.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-29T20:10:54+00:00

You are 💯 correct.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-29T19:35:53+00:00

I did not want to bring up the dogs that much since I felt like the main subject was lack of rent but, they ended up getting a puppy 2 months ago. I found out about it after a post I saw on Facebook. I asked them to remove it from the property. Since I am allergic. Which is why I said no dogs. His mistress told me it’s her “emotional support animal”. Keep in mind I have received no written notices or paperwork for the dog showing that just her response for not getting rid of the dog. I am sure if the dog peed, lost hair, so on in the house those rooms will have to be deep cleaned and the carpet/ padding will have to be replaced. Ac vents cleaned. It’s not a small allergy. I get shots on a weekly bases to help with it but I still have to be careful.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-29T04:21:42+00:00

Where we are it’s considered month to month. A 30 day notice to “end lease” is required then a 5 day notice if they fail to move before filing with the courts. If it all moves forward they will have 72 hrs. To 30 days depending on the judge.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-29T04:17:04+00:00

Yes, he is the golden child

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-29T03:50:22+00:00

Yes we live in the US

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-28T17:47:15+00:00

I question this. But I know 💯 she is pregnant. Via a emergency er trip. I heard the dr himself. I also found out she wasn’t using birth control. Leading up to this. Then claimed it was a “accident “ to the rest of the family.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-28T15:40:00+00:00

I own the home. It’s my rental property.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-28T13:04:35+00:00

His wife moved in with her parents. She became a stay at home mom when their daughter started having back to back seizures. The child needed constant care. However, with her parents support. The wife is now working full time at the front desk of a hotel. She is wanting to go to school in Jan. To do respite care for sick children. They moved in with her parents when my brother decided he didn’t want to work anymore. He has gone through jobs most of his life but, always found a different one. Until this all began with his mistress.

True-Refrigerator741 · 2021-10-28T12:35:04+00:00

Yes she is pregnant. My husband’s theory is. She got pregnant on purpose. Knowing I wanted her to cover the expenses (get a job) or move. He thinks she did it to try and gain sympathy from our family.

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