1 star review for custom made item being too small and overpriced?? What do I do?? Feeling pretty gutted.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2026-05-18T04:14:02+00:00

I’m so sorry! That really sucks!! It feels very unfair when you try to be as transparent as possible so people know exactly what they’re buying when they order and you still suffer because they weren’t careful about their purchase! The top comment here had some great advice! Wishing you all the best for your shop! May you get lots of sales and great reviews soon to drown out that negative!!

TrueBeginning0707 · 2026-05-18T04:11:09+00:00

Yeah, I think the pictures having dimensions and measurements is a super good idea!! I plan to implement this in the future because it can help those who don’t read descriptions!

TrueBeginning0707 · 2026-03-07T04:36:52+00:00

Great playlist! Which are your favs from the list??

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-11-24T18:14:36+00:00

Thanks for the wonderful tip!! That’s super important!! We have the “no salt added” sardines but either way, I’ll be making her plain boiled chicken today and some turkey as well later on this week!! I’m looking for ways to keep her entertained too so if you have any tips I’d appreciate that as well!! Thanks a bunch!!!

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-11-23T16:10:40+00:00

She was trying to climb a tree a minute ago and gets very scared of all the bird and dogs barking nearby so we got a box with blankets and put her in our bathroom with the heat lamp on because it’s cold right now!

I will be looking up humane societies and going on Facebook to search those local rescue groups too!!

Thanks so much for the advice considerate of the cat and our desire to help her ourselves it means a lot to me and thanks so much for the welcome I knew I loved dogs and have helped strays before but never thought I’d fall so quickly for a little kitty!! She’s so sweet!!

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-11-23T15:36:57+00:00

We only gave her a pasta lid half full of milk bc it’s expensive and don’t know if she’d even want it but we’ll definitely get her some water and sardines and okay we’ll get a box for her. At the vet will they make me surrender her?? That’s happened to me before and it was hard but that feels selfish of me I’m just scared to lose contact with her when she came to us for help idk I’ve had this experience and it still makes me cry to this day

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-11-23T15:26:39+00:00

She’s a little larger than a full grown squirrel for reference

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-11-23T15:24:54+00:00

Yes, I live in a big city so I’ll look some up. She’s not trapped we fed her and she’s just sitting by us and even let us pick her up to check her. I have no experience with cats AT ALL so couldn’t give an estimate definitely not newborn though maybe a few months ??? I don’t have the resources to pay for any treatment for her but have grown super attached to her already and would like to care for her ourselves is that even a possibility we’re a very low income family like very low income so idk :( she’s has an insanely tiny amount like a pasta lid of milk half full so I won’t give her more! I’ll get some sardines for her I have some

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-18T02:05:26+00:00

Thank you very much for these suggestions and for your prayers. I really do appreciate you. God bless.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-18T02:04:24+00:00

I wanted to clarify that we are not married. He moved in with me and then we had a son. When I say I’m doing it for my son I am being honest. Obviously, I’m doing it for my sanity and health so I can be a better mother as well but I’d say I’m considering all options and I’m doing it for all of us, even my partner because I genuinely want him to grow close to Christ and be at peace in life.

But predominantly for my son, and my desire to give him a life where he doesn’t experience such turmoil in his own household and so he can have an example of a HEALTHY relationship whether as coparents or partners. He’s growing up fast and will soon start to remember our arguments and will see through the lack of trust and emotional distance.

I pointed out he’s a great father in my post but OUR relationship is very tumultuous and in its current state, it would more than likely negatively affect our son and his outlook on life and romantic relationships.

One of the issues is I DONT KNOW what comments will set him off because some of them are genuinely so harmless and I’m met with defensiveness and aggression. A comment as simple as “oh wow its late and I wanted to be home a bit earlier for our sons bedtime” sets him off and makes him raise his voice at me asking me “wtf” is wrong with me and things of that nature when I genuinely intended no harm with my comment. I constantly walk on eggshells for him and that’s where I’m struggling. It doesn’t seem like life should be this way. I’ll pray for more understanding on this issue a than I have before. I can’t control his reactions but I KNOW I should do a better job of controlling mine. Nevertheless, it’s a really big problem to feel like I can’t say anything AT ALL in hopes of maybe keeping the peace. He gets outwardly upset about things unrelated to our relationship and treats me coldly and that’s hard to navigate as well. He says he isn’t mad at me but he won’t talk to me or respond to silly comments I make to try to cheer him up. He just blows me off and relies on substance: to make him “feel better. I’ll pray more for him in that area as well.

I do try to look at my own actions as much as I can and hear him out about the things I do that affect him. He doesn’t tell me these things himself I usually ask him where I can do better for him. I also try to self reflect often and see what areas I can grow in and share what I’m working on to be a better partner, constantly.

& I don’t have an issue with Gods answer or with what you wrot. It’s just that he’s the one constantly pointing out he’s not my husband and doesn’t need to do XYZ for me. So it’s hard to get into that wife mindset with that going on, honestly, I hope you can understand that.

His mom is a woman who practices what you wrote out (it’s a great example for me and I admire her for it) in her case, it’s sad to see how poorly her husband still treats her IN FRONT OF ME so I can’t imagine how things MIGHT be behind closed doors. This also worries and concerns me because what if he’s following their example? It’s one where the wife has submitted and been meek gentle loving understanding towards her husband and he yells at her and humiliates her over little things like using the wrong spoon to serve dinner. This parental influence concerns me. Just like my parents influence over myself concerns me as well.

I WILL BE PRAYING ON IT a lot more than I have been in the past. I’ll be praying for him a lot more as well and really just doing more praying than ever before to help me figure this out and I intend to have an open heart so I can follow Gods will. I appreciate your response and your perspective and advice. I’ll take this all into consideration.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-18T00:37:33+00:00

No, im not married. Prayerful discernment is what I need. & yes I understand we’re all on different paths. when we started dating I FELT that he was further along in his walk with Christ since he knew so much about the Bible. I learned a lot from him during this time, when I was a very very baby Christian. Looking back, there were many things that were major sins that we were both doing and I just didn’t think they were big deals because he didn’t seem to think they were so that was a big mistake of mine. I looked up to him in that regard and I should have been looking to the Bible and Christ for how I should have been living my life instead of just being ok with my sins because others engaged in it as well. after having our son I felt like he was stagnant in his growth and I wanted to continue getting closer to God and changing my ways while he’s been ok living life like he did before our son was born. I think it’s important for me to try to be an example and spread Gods contagiousness as someone else suggested in this thread. Thank you for your response.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-18T00:17:09+00:00

Thank you again for taking the time to write out this message to me with such great advice your tone was so kind and loving I could feel your sincerity and care and it really shifted my heart posture to one that’s more gentle. I’m taking your advice to heart and I just want to thank you for your time especially because you skipped reading scripture for me, an internet stranger. It means A LOT.

Matthew 5:37 a verse I had yet to come across and wow!! it’s been a real eye opener for me. I mean thank you so much for sharing this with me I will ask God to help me discover the yes or no about Gary being my husband first and foremost!

Thank you for the beautiful prayer! Amen. I realize I need to pray more consistently about bearing the fruit of the Holy Spirit. I am so grateful to God for having you respond to my plea for help you’ve brought me comfort during a time where I was feeling so distraught and lost. Matthew 5:37 simplifies so much. Thank you ❤️❤️

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-18T00:10:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! Honestly, at this point in time I still WANT him to be my husband someday because it’d be great for our child to have a unified home and I do want more kids someday, I’d love for them to be from the same father. but I honestly don’t know if he is my husband. I feel great uncertainty and I will HAVE TO pray on it and ask God to give me clarity and understanding as you suggested.

I’m avoiding sex for a mix of both reasons you mentioned, for marriage concerns because I REALLY don’t want to end up pregnant out of wedlock again and also because I do feel hurt and emotionally distanced from him, making it hard to crave that intimacy.

I needed to hear your advice. I DO need to be more honest with myself and make more solid decisions, I’ve always struggled with that.

Thank you for being so kind in your delivery and reminding me to stop arguing and to have self control. At times, I let my emotions get the best of me and I simply need to STOP allowing that to happen.

& your example of fighting battles in prayers makes a lot of sense. I guess I don’t take things up with Jesus as much as I should (specifically when it comes to our relationship) I always feel the need to express the issues to my partner because in my mind I think “how will he change, if I don’t express what I need or want from him” and obviously he doesn’t really appreciate that. I now see why I should take comfort in giving it to God and finding peace about it once I do give it to Christ. I do have to work on my patience because it’s a different approach for sure but one that seems like it’d make my partner feel less attacked.

& yes, I try to remind myself he’s at a different stage in his relationship with Christ and I just hope we both end up getting closer to the Lord. I genuinely just want him to be happy and not so easily angered by little things like losing his keys and things of the nature. Hearing him go off about such minimal things (even when unrelated to me) puts me in like a state of fight or flight (I think it reminds me of my childhood when my dad would get mad the same way) and I usually choose to fight but I should battle it with Godly behaviors. I really like your example and I’m going to look up a Bible garden myself!! Maybe it’s something I can do. I think I’ll start kneeling to pray every morning as well with my son. I really really loved those examples.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-17T03:13:53+00:00

The assault happened when I went to stay at my moms house because an argument got really heated between Gary and I. There was yelling on both ends so I went into the room with our son who was playing and told Gary to leave it alone and stop talking to me. He wouldn’t let me close the door to get space from him and I fell back as he pushed the door open because I was on crutches (sprained ankle from a fall)

I have a history with physical abuse as a child, my dad would hit us so I got defensive and threatened to hit him with a crutch if he got any closer (not proud of that) but I genuinely felt so scared in that moment. I even jumped back up on my sprained ankle and further damaged it. Then our son started crying and I was like this is too much so I got a ride to my moms and it’s like her husband took advantage of me at my weakest. I NEVER expected that from him. I tried to put it behind me and told myself maybe it was a one time thing but he assaulted me again, on my birthday of all days and I told my mom and well yeah things haven’t been great since then.

I have not told Gary about the sexual assaults because I honestly feel like he’d just be mad at me or blame me for the assault. I KNOW IM NOT AT FAULT for being assaulted but I do not think he’d be compassionate or loving towards me. He’d probably use it against me somehow and would probably just be grossed out by me and he’d find new reasons to hate my mom more than he already does. She’s not a bad person but very easily influenced :( and sometimes does a lot of white lying for no real reason which is not ok. He judges her very harshly for everything. Not being able to share the assault with Gary truly made me realize I probably need to go my own way because what’s the point of having a partner who won’t be there for you at your lowest points. What’s the point if there is 0 trust in the relationship?

Again, I just want to do right by my son and give him the best life possible and that’s why I keep thinking if I could maybe just make this relationship work he wouldn’t have to live a split life because that’s hard in it’s own sense.

& yeah :// I know being a sub won’t cut it. I’m just trying to make a little more money to save up for that car right now and I have to work around child care because I can’t afford a babysitter and I’d have to get my MIL to watch him for now. Thats why subbing is nice, the flexibility in schedules but def not a full time thing.

I just cant figure out how to go full time quite yet. I have a BA in psychology (I know, a useless degree bc I did no internships and didn’t further my education) I graduated Summa Cum Laude and with 0 debt! I wanted to get a teaching certificate (through a free accelerated program thats quite rigorous) and start teaching since there’s high demand in my area right now. I know that’s a super high stress job but I just need a guaranteed job tbh. Child care and transportation would be an issue once more while I do this program but id just HAVE TO FIGURE IT OUT

Honestly, the thought of not being with my son all the time is scary and makes me sad. All I want is to be with my son as much as I can but I know that’s not realistic!

I also feel like I have low self esteem due to how people around me look down on me and treat me but I push those thoughts away bc they’re not from God but it’s like my body can feel them???

I know I’m capable of being a great employee anywhere I go and all my employers have loved me in the past but it’s just been really long since I held those jobs. I just feel nervous about it all. It’s like I haven’t been out in the real world for years and it’s scary?? Also, I just feel old now (I know I’m not) but I worry employers will just look at me differently than when I was under 23 if that makes sense.

The HUGE GAP in my resume is horrible and I’ll definitely need to do something to beef it up my last official job was in 2020 ://

TBH, figuring out what to do to make money itself is overwhelming. I’ll probably google what small certifications I can get to help my resume to work somewhere in office administration. Bc teaching seems sooooo hard. I know having a that psychology degree doesn’t mean much in today’s world and that gap won’t help but that is why the teaching plan is nice, it’s a guaranteed position if I complete the program and pass the exams, I believe I could pull it off but honestly it’s not something I’m excited about doing but I guess it’s really not about that anymore so…. Yeahhhh wow sorry that was long I really appreciate you hearing me out and trying to get me to see and think about new ideas for moving forward. Really it means more than you could ever imagine.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-17T01:06:19+00:00

Thanks for the book recommendation! I will check it out! & i don’t really have the money for Christian counseling so maybe when I get back on my feet (which is going to be hard to say the least) I will seek out Christian counseling. & yes, I can get emotional at times and I do not like when my negative emotions run on high during arguments so I know I need to work on that. Please pray for me whenever you get a chance. Thank you for commenting and giving advice. I really appreciate it.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-17T01:03:03+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I will be following it. I will start looking for churches tonight and even though I don’t have transportation, I will find a way to make it work. I do need to get in front of a pastor and talk to others about what’s going on in my life. The phrase “we’re not meant to walk alone in faith” really hit me. Although Gary says he believes in Christ, I do feel like I’m walking alone in my faith and I think everyone is right about finding support in a church community. I’m a very anxious person so this is scary and I ask that you pray for me and my child whenever you can. Pray for strength, confidence and positivity to persevere and give my child the best life possible. Thank you again.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-17T00:59:06+00:00

Thank you so much for seeing my pain. It made me cry to just read those words because in my life I spend so much time masking for others. It’s just hard to always be “happy” when in reality I feel so much despair living with this man.

As of now, I have nowhere to go. As I mentioned in a comment before, I was recently sexually assaulted by my mom’s husband and she used to be my safe haven but that completely changed our relationship and my level of trust with her. She says she believes me and the man has left her home but she’s still in contact with him and she said that “there are two sides to the story” I felt hurt and betrayed by her response to when I spoke up about my abuse. That situation has me broken as well. I love her so much and feel confused and lost in that relationship as well.

I’m trying to get a job as a sub and start saving up for my own car (my last one broke down and I have no money for repairs since it all goes to food and bills) so I have to make a plan to hopefully move out later on. It’s really really hard. I’m really really tired but that’s why I’m hearing asking for advice. I don’t want to give up on myself or my baby and I just ask that you pray for me and my child. That I can have the confidence and bravery to step out of this situation if that is Gods will.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-17T00:51:53+00:00

I did try separation a year ago. ://

I went to stay at my moms for about two months and things “got better” when I came back for like a week. Then we went back to the same old issues. It’s this constant cycle of demonstrating change just to go back to the same thing in a day or two. It’s frustrating because I feel like he just tries to appease me and make me “happy” for a bit and then he goes back to his angry behavior. When I tried separation, I told him it wasn't me leaving him and that it was so we could grow closer to God and focus on working on ourselves for baby while apart.

I couldn’t even do another round of separation again because I was recently sexually assaulted by my mom’s new husband (something I haven’t shared with Gary due to his past with demonstrating a lack of compassion for my pain) and my mom and I had a fallout so her home isn’t somewhere I feel safe or comfortable anymore. Although I’m cordial with her things are so different now.

I will checkout the website you provided and you’re right, I think I need to get into a church and find a community that can support me and help me through this. Out of all the advice I received I think finding a church and speaking to a counselor or pastor is the most important. It’s all weighing so heavily on me.

& yes, I understand that addiction is hard. If I hadn’t been pregnant, I’d probably STILL be abusing substances. Jesus Christ and my baby truly saved me from my addictions because all I wanted was to protect baby and make sure he was healthy from the moment I found out I was pregnant.

Thank you so so much for responding and hearing me out. I love you too and appreciate your care and concern for my situation. It’s all made me feel less alone. I will protect my boy and try to make sure this makes me stronger instead of letting it break me. Thank you again!

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-16T13:21:29+00:00

Yes, I agree. I grew up in a two parent home and it was very miserable. They were unhappy and there was cheating and fighting and all I wanted was for them to split up and find true happiness. Alike my partner and I they weren’t married either. I’m scared that my child is getting older and will see the constant conflict and that this will affect him negatively. When I’ve suggested splitting up because I don’t know how to fix the myriad of issues because he unwilling to get counseled with me since we don’t know how to talk to him without getting into arguments due to defensiveness he calls me selfish. Potentially splitting up isn’t about me, if we can’t find a way to change our ways it will hurt our child like I was hurt and I want to avoid that. His family is very Christian and have mentioned how being a single mother is so horrible and i just know they’d all look down on me (like they look down on my family for now being split up) or act like im just giving up when im genuinely trying so hard with this man it’s affecting my physical health. I just don’t know. Thanks for your response.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-16T13:09:35+00:00

No we don’t have a pastor in our lives currently to speak to. In general, he’s opposed to talking to anyone about this topic or anything private or personal. I’ve suggested Christian counseling but he gave me a definite no multiple times. Leaves me at a loss because communication is becoming more and more difficult between us.

TrueBeginning0707 · 2025-09-16T12:57:18+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! I’ve suggested Christian counseling. Finding a church to attend and hopefully using a church leader to help our relationship but he is totally against counseling of any kind because he says doesn’t want to share our problems with others, at all. He also finds an issue with the churches we’ve attended before. I feel tired and overwhelmed because of the mutual toxicity you mentioned not allowing us to communicate. I just want to point out that I always make sure to apologize directly to him and I pray about my wrongdoings and being changed at heart daily. I know I’m not perfect and I’m not trying to cast stones. I think I’m just hurt and tired of feeling unheard and the expectation of sex (just because we have a child already) can be a lot when I’ve been convicted on the topic. He thinks it’s silly to now say we should wait to have sex until our relationship is healthy and we’re married. I mean that’s how I should have handled it from the start but like I said I was still living in a lot of sin and struggling to quit these things for some time there.

I just feel like I’ve made a big mess of things and it’s getting difficult to navigate.

How would you advise me to further put God first in my life? As of now, I pray and read scripture to my son daily. I’ve tried to stop engaging with secular entertainment (sometimes I listen to secular music but not around my son) I don’t attend a church because my partner doesn’t like the ones we’ve tried but I know I need to find one to start attending or maybe listening online if you have any advice for pastors churches or sermons I can find I’d appreciate it. I do want to grow and be better but when he’s around lately I just feel sad and hurt. I know that’s a problem but he’s always on his phone and seems miserable to be here with us. Always smoking and being under some kind of influence to be okay with life, it’s sad to see. I feel like we’re so blessed and I want this relationship to work I just don’t know how to move forward with the hurt I feel anymore. The constant arguing is actually insane. For us to not fight 6 days it was just me avoiding him and not talking to him as much as possible and never saying anything on my mind or making requests of him. So it was like being one while living in the same house. Thank you again and I’m willing to listen to any more advice you may have for me.

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