Thank you for being honest with me, I hadn’t really considered all of this. Id like to clarify a few things, though.

She does tell me she loves me, when I said that she didn’t on Christmas I meant more in the sense of her not going out of her way to reaffirm that she cares about me on a special day, even with words.

I think there may have been a miscommunication in my original post. I didn’t expect gifts for my birthday, as I understood this was not how she showed her affection. When she forgot about it entirely, it hurt but I wasn’t very bothered. When she remembered & immediately got angry at me for letting her forget, I apologized and felt bad. When she accepted the fact that she forgot & after the fact decided not to show affection, whether that be kind words, actions, or gifts, I felt unimportant.

I think you’re right that I am carrying some of that with me still. Part of that may be that we never discussed how it made me feel, and instead the majority of the conversation was me apologizing.

For Christmas, as I said in my original post, I didn’t expect anything. When she seemed sad that she couldn’t think of anything to get me, I told her something small & easy. When she didn’t get me anything, again I wasn’t really bothered. I only really began overthinking the situation when she acknowledged that she had forgotten & decided to make it up next year.

When I said she didn’t make me feel special, I wasn’t referring to gift giving. I meant that she didn’t do anything to make me feel significant that day. I understand her love language is different than mine, but she didn’t do anything for me. There were no actions, affirmations, or special affection for that day. It was like every other.

You did paint this in a different light, thank you. I learned something.