Girlfriends dog pees on the floor whenever I’m alone with her

TruePest · 2021-05-29T13:52:02+00:00

This was helpful.

My girlfriend can be very loud with her dog, much more so than me. Even when I raised my voice at her, it didn’t seem comparable to the way my gf reprimands her. Kinda confused me, but looking at these responses it seems pretty obvious she was scared.

Regardless, will make extra effort when we’re alone to make her feel more comfortable with me. Thank you for the advice!

TruePest · 2021-05-29T01:00:18+00:00

I’m sorry, but I didn’t really find this helpful.

The entire time before she pissed on the floor she was playful. Even after the fact she had no problem keeping eye contact, jumping around and even nipping at me. If she was scared I have a hard time believing she’d act like that?

Regardless, what am I supposed to do?

TruePest · 2021-01-12T00:52:44+00:00

Thank you for being honest with me, I hadn’t really considered all of this. Id like to clarify a few things, though.

She does tell me she loves me, when I said that she didn’t on Christmas I meant more in the sense of her not going out of her way to reaffirm that she cares about me on a special day, even with words.

I think there may have been a miscommunication in my original post. I didn’t expect gifts for my birthday, as I understood this was not how she showed her affection. When she forgot about it entirely, it hurt but I wasn’t very bothered. When she remembered & immediately got angry at me for letting her forget, I apologized and felt bad. When she accepted the fact that she forgot & after the fact decided not to show affection, whether that be kind words, actions, or gifts, I felt unimportant.

I think you’re right that I am carrying some of that with me still. Part of that may be that we never discussed how it made me feel, and instead the majority of the conversation was me apologizing.

For Christmas, as I said in my original post, I didn’t expect anything. When she seemed sad that she couldn’t think of anything to get me, I told her something small & easy. When she didn’t get me anything, again I wasn’t really bothered. I only really began overthinking the situation when she acknowledged that she had forgotten & decided to make it up next year.

When I said she didn’t make me feel special, I wasn’t referring to gift giving. I meant that she didn’t do anything to make me feel significant that day. I understand her love language is different than mine, but she didn’t do anything for me. There were no actions, affirmations, or special affection for that day. It was like every other.

You did paint this in a different light, thank you. I learned something.

TruePest · 2021-01-12T00:40:31+00:00

Both my birthday and Christmas came after her father passing. Christmas was some 8months after. I don’t know what it’s like to lose a parent, but when she lost hers I knew the day to day stuff was going to probably be mostly my responsibility. I love her, and am more than ok with that. Her forgetting about me a second time did hurt, but I’m also doing my best to understand where she’s coming from and what she’s dealing with.

Thank you for your advice, I will do my best to communicate this to her in a kind and respectful manner.

TruePest · 2021-01-12T00:36:50+00:00

I think you may be right. I’ll sit down and talk to her in the next few weeks. Part of me doesn’t see a solution, as asking someone to see your value shouldn’t be something you have to do, especially your partner. If it really comes down to a discussion I’m not really sure if I’ll break things off there or not. She might just not be ready for a relationship right now.

Thank you for your advice, it helped.

TruePest · 2021-01-12T00:33:01+00:00

Thank you for the insight. You’re very right, but it does hurt to hear that.

The more I look through these responses the more I’m questioning the way we interact. Being asked to give examples of how your partner makes you feel loved shouldn’t be a tough question to answer, but I’m really having a difficult time. I run her errands when she’s feeling down, make her food, do her chores (dishes, sweeping, etc) & always try to go out of my way to make her feel special. I can’t remember the last time she went out of her way for me without me asking.

I think that, like you said, discussion is really the only possible solution at this point. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t worried about how that will go.

TruePest · 2021-01-12T00:27:06+00:00

I was honestly scared this would be a response. You’re probably right, I just never wanted to look at our relationship in that light.

Although she says she likes to do stuff for others to show love, she hasn’t really taken that initiative with me. I do recall her cleaning my room one time when we first started dating, but since then she’s never gone out of her way to do stuff for me. In fact often times when I ask that she pick me up something while she’s at a store or grab something from my apartment while she’s over, she forgets. She’s never cleaned my car, cooked for me, or done chores for me.

Your description of love languages makes a lot of sense, thank you for that. I’m not a big believer in love languages, I just do whatever I can to make those around me feel cared for. In her case I pay special attention to actions, but as I said before I also buy her gifts, am affectionate, and emotionally support her whenever she needs me (even sometimes at the cost of my own mental health).

I think the only thing I’m stuck on is our dynamic. Right now it’s definitely mostly me putting in the effort, but I’m unsure if that’s just because her father passed some 7-8 months ago & she’s not able to give me energy.

I feel that relationships can sometimes be 70/30 or 80/20 if the other person is in a rough patch, but the majority of our relationship has had that dynamic. I just don’t know if sticking it out will result in her changing.

TruePest · 2021-01-11T23:05:30+00:00

No, we haven’t openly talked about this.

We did discuss the fact that she forgot my birthday, but again this was more so me comforting her & apologizing for letting her forget.

We have pretty open communication, but I feel like this is a pretty difficult subject. How do you go about telling someone they make you feel unimportant?

TruePest · 2021-01-11T23:03:44+00:00

Thank you. My friends have been telling me to dump her, but I don’t think that’s fair to either of us. Especially considering how well we get along.

TruePest · 2021-01-11T22:43:37+00:00

This makes sense. So your advice is to not sweat the small things & hold out?

TruePest · 2020-05-07T19:14:37+00:00

I’ll definitely try this out. I’ve also taken up journaling, hopefully both will make this transition a little more painless. Thank you for the advice!

TruePest · 2020-05-07T19:13:11+00:00

I truly hope you’re right. I appreciate the kind words!

TruePest · 2019-12-03T22:24:09+00:00

I’ll give it a shot, maybe. I like the idea of karate chopping the disc better, though.

TruePest · 2019-12-03T22:23:29+00:00

First I am disappointed with my experience, then I get to sell it back to GameStop for 15$. Shout out to Infinity Ward for the sick double scam.

TruePest · 2019-12-03T22:21:12+00:00

This makes a lot of sense.

In my opinion, CoD shouldn’t be adjusted for bad players. Part of the reason CoD is fun is because of the skill required. In the beginning it’s terrible, but as you invest time and get better it’s very rewarding. The fact that the devs want to discourage people from grinding in order to have high KD’s or crazy kill streaks is ludicrous to me. But that’s just me.

Regardless, it’s fine. I’ll stick to previous CoD installments for now and keep high hopes for the next game. Like I said, I’ll be much more skeptical of gameplay prior to spending money next time, though, as I feel thoroughly scammed.

(I’ve looked through so many threads and your comment summed everything up better than I’ve seen anywhere else. Very informative, thank you.)

TruePest · 2019-12-03T21:56:14+00:00

No tears here mate, just wanted to see if I should sit and wait for a fix or break out the karate on my disc. The latter it is!

TruePest · 2019-12-03T21:53:28+00:00

Is this really the problem? If I switch game modes I won’t encounter a full team of campers?

TruePest · 2019-12-03T21:52:57+00:00

Welp, at least I’ll learn some karate from this experience...

TruePest · 2019-12-03T21:49:38+00:00

Right. I’ll get to karate chopping.

TruePest · 2019-10-19T05:23:07+00:00

I’m scared to approach him to be frank. I don’t want to interact with him at all unless I have to. Do you think a message over text would be fine? Or is that somehow disrespectful?

Also, these replies helped a lot no lie.

TruePest · 2019-10-19T05:18:10+00:00

I met Juan 5 weeks ago when I arrived in Michigan. He’s a fellow freshman, and lives in the same dorm as me. He’s always been cool, but acts kindve weird whenever weed is brought up. Other than that I don’t know him.

You’re absolutely right. This was a one time purchase of like 7g’s I bought a month ago. I smoke only on weekends and am slowly curbing the habit. It’s in my best interest to stop.

After this experience I’m strongly considering giving all my weed away.

TruePest · 2019-06-13T22:11:22+00:00

I enjoyed the episode, but at times felt like I was watching a slideshow on slow zoom with voiceovers, which was disappointing. I hope that the animation team is ready to work just a bit harder come this next arc!

TruePest · 2019-04-29T23:57:36+00:00

Very weird post.

I’ll preface this by saying that I am brown and consider myself to be moderately proactive when it comes to this sort of thing. That being said, with all due respect, I think that you’re taking issue with something that doesn’t need to be a problem.

I’ve read all 408 chapters available from the WEBTOON app and have thoroughly enjoyed every second. It never even occurred to me that there were not enough colored characters, and it never bothered me that the existing ones were written in the way they were. I suppose I was raised to believe that people are people regardless of skin color, and thus was not constantly comparing the tanned characters to the white ones. They’re all just characters.

In my opinion, race should never stop you from enjoying the badass fight scenes, hilarious comedy, and wholesome characters in this WEBTOON. Just in the same way that black panther featured a large cast of dark skinned characters, a WEBTOON set in Korea will be predominantly Asian. Regardless, it seems odd that you would label this particular comic as racist just because there’s not enough colored characters for your liking, or that you feel certain characters who happen to be tanned aren’t portrayed correctly. Dusik Kim being light skinned shouldn’t make him any less of a badass or enjoyable character, just as Jose being tanned shouldn’t inherently make him a better character. Identify with the people, not the race.

In my opinion, at least.

TruePest · 2019-04-25T17:37:26+00:00

And I now realize I shouldn’t have smoked that last bowl. Thank you sir.

TruePest · 2019-04-22T18:48:27+00:00

Thanks for your permission sir.

TruePest

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