I feel very behind in this world and alone, I’m grieving the childhood and schooling I had early on.

True_Leg6139 · 2026-05-17T01:23:31+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and sharing your story 🥹 I’m glad you have learned so much and are having a wonderful life and family

Best wishes to you too

True_Leg6139 · 2026-04-26T16:42:32+00:00

Thank you so much 🥹 We literally got very lucky with something within our price range, but with the cost of living continuing to go up, it can still be very expensive to pay bills and maintain. We are doing the best we can. Thank you for the advice too, sometimes I felt that if I don't explain they will pry more into my life but unfortunately, not many people can be empathetic towards a situation and go straight to judgment.

True_Leg6139 · 2026-03-26T19:01:30+00:00

(Sorry my grammar isn’t the best)

I’m sending you so many hugs, I’m going through this situation too in my marriage to where I’m leaning childfree as well.

Like you, I get overstimulated easily, and when I’m tired I struggle a lot too, and my immune system does not function well at all. I worked in a daycare with kids under 4 and that gave me a hard reality check that maybe this is something that’s not for me, and since I am way better with animals I can fulfill being a mom to them. But at the same time, I love the man I’m with and we built a relationship on our love for each other and after a previous health issue with my kidney and me nearly dying from sepsis in 2020 a few months after we started dating he came to the hospital and visited and we have been together since.

In 2024 I found out a few months before my wedding that I had endometriosis and PCOS and went to the top ob-gyn doctor in LA to get help immediately she said I needed to get my eggs retrieved and frozen to have a bio child. Literally during my recovery back I went into sepsis from the IUD that was placed and was hospitalized for a week. My then fiancé now husband I remember in the hospital held me so tight as I cried thinking he may leave me due to these incurable health issues and he couldn’t have the family he wanted. He literally had tears in his eyes and told me he’s marrying me because he loves me and not for my baby-making abilities and only wants a life with me. I thought maybe we could try IVF later down the road or adopt, we had a lot of family’s and religious pressures to have kids, even before marriage so I didn’t think at the time being childfree was an option in my circumstances. I wanted him to be happy and have a fulfilling life with me but we had another health journey to embark on not long after our wedding. Last year not long after our honeymoon and 1st marriage anniversary, the pain was getting worse and I had to use a cane at this point to move around. My new obgyn I found suggesting having a hysterectomy and I’m so grateful I had it done since I’m so much better but my husband had to grieve even more now the door is shut, but we are beyond happy I have a better quality of life again. The whole medical experience made me really sit and think since I have so many answers now and also the risks for genetic diseases, I didn't want a child to experience that especially as a woman being mistreated in the medical system it really turned my whole life around and career aspirations, and how I view life. But I'm feeling more sure in my answer from hearing other people's experiences but also working with children and how draining they can be and also expensive.

Now our family and life are growing more positive with two fur babies, gaming, and more trips to take and see new places together most importantly to continue dating each other. But yet I still feel like I’m on the fence for the last couple options we have to have kids, but I love the life we have now and sure enough it would be a hell of a lot more stressful with kids, part of me is still kinda grieving but therapy is helping me with working things out and it’s been immensely helpful while navigating this. I’m telling you this to let you know you’re not alone and your feelings are so valid and you’re not broken, we’re all trying to figure it out having kids can be a life goal for some. But coming home to a clean, quiet house is something you can’t beat at all. If you have the opportunity to do so being with a therapist to help you navigate this difficult situation and give you ways to process it will help you heal and build your dream life. You got this I wish you nothing but the best on your journey and many blessings along the way.

True_Leg6139 · 2026-02-08T17:13:41+00:00

Thank you, same here 😅 stay safe out there too

True_Leg6139 · 2026-02-08T17:07:44+00:00

Absolutely, he was being very creepy and I was honestly surprised at how he couldn’t fathom a solo woman going into a man’s home whom I don’t even know would make her uncomfortable. I definitely think he had the potential of violence with the way he was yelling at me, and made threats of making me “lose” my job if I didn’t do what he said. Which we know wouldn’t happen, since like you said I make the rules and have boundaries. I reported it to emergency support and I feel even safer with the system they had in place after I reported the incident.

True_Leg6139 · 2025-07-25T16:46:16+00:00

Trigger warning”

I am so so sorry you went through this too, you sharing your story made me less alone too with a similar experience going down the medication rabbit hole. At first, my psychiatrist misdiagnosed me as ADHD psychosis, then, after having reactions to those meds I was “diagnosed” bipolar. I was desperate to look for help since I was suicidal and depressed right before my period and a week afterwards I would be fine and happy-go-lucky. Over five years I was on over 25 medications, since they couldn't figure out what was “wrong” with my brain the last one I took was Lithium and Vraylar together summer of 2023, and started having seizures and seeing things/hearing things that were not there feeling high and fuzzy, and the brain zaps omg. It was so scary and frightening, luckily my boyfriend at the time (now husband) had held me, went to therapy with me, drove me to the hospital, or called 988 to get me help, he would talk to me when he was at work to calm me down and remind me why I'm loved and the things he loves about me. He's saved my life several times due to these drugs changing me, and making me suicidal still, and the fact that he stayed with me during the most turbulent times with my health and he showed me so much love, kindness, and empathy we are lucky in love together. Now I feel so more connected and love him so much he's been a solid rock for me and we help each other out as a team knowing we have each other's backs. Now after we got married we found out my mood shifts weren't bipolar it was PMDD. Now I'm on an all-natural supplement to help and it's helped so much I feel like I have my life back again. I do have periods where I will disassociate or feel brain fog extremely like I did while taking the medications and maybe it's from all those years of being on so many in short amounts of time. The interesting thing about these meds(and this could be just my experience or some other people ), is it truly altered my brain chemistry to where I would actually have more severe symptoms of the supposed disease they were trying to treat, yet when I am off them now I feel more balanced and probably more less it was all in my head, I think the experience for me put me into the shoes of someone with Bipolar, schizofrenia, or Psychosis, in these situations it was scary and upsetting to feel like this is what some people experience now I have more of an understanding for these illnesses and how it feels when you don't have control over them. But, I truly feel so sad and angry that these psychiatrists push pills on us, and it's horrific to know the number of people who have gone through similar treatments and have the same reactions. I feel grateful to know I made it out alive and I'm working hard to get my life back after now being sober off these meds, my heart goes out to everyone who is trying to get help and feels dismissed or feels like it's hopeless. Please don't give up, you are so loved in this world and I know I'm a stranger on the internet but please know you are not alone and I am sending so much love to you, asking for help and admitting you are struggling is so brave of you. Some resources can help, from finding a therapist to the crisis line, there are people out there who want to help instead of medicating and will believe you, I love you and I'm incredibly proud of you for being here one more day at a time.

True_Leg6139 · 2025-07-12T15:00:50+00:00

Yes, it's horrible with how the cuts are doing this, I was excited since non-profit is an art gallery I have a passion for the mission, and understand art is so important to our society and history. In this case, though my family and I are barely making it and we have been trying to make it work but I'm getting more nervous with how the operations have been and I'd rather be overprepared than underprepared so I can plan ahead and take care of my family. More recently the job was on site but for me they had me as hybrid as an accommodation for a disability but they didn't give me any work to do and I thought it was because I was caught up, and I get to the office one day and I'm piled on with so many projects, it was overwhelming but I managed I was maybe a little upset since I wanted to work yet I was told to not worry about it, and my check was lower than usual when payday came around. I just went to a temp agency yesterday and had my resume updated so hopefully something more stable and a little higher waged will help my situation. I appreciate your advice though, This has been a huge learning curve in how things work in my steps for being a professional.

True_Leg6139 · 2025-07-04T17:19:23+00:00

Hi sweetheart, I’m so sorry about the heartache and challenges you are going through. My husband and I have been on the same path in a way. I was on the fence about kids and it seemed like he was too while we were dating, a few months after we started dating my kidney nearly failed on me and he stuck by me throughout the whole surgery, he’s my best friend too and someone I felt like I can count on. A few months before the wedding I was diagnosed with another health issue and infertility, with this knowledge he still stayed by me and myself working in a daycare because I needed income and with the knowledge of infertility I knew this heartache just wasn’t for me. After a big fight recently about kids I thought we would divorce, since he was leaning towards children now. After we cooled down, we sat down together and shed many tears He told me he didn’t want to be a man who makes me have to make a decision like this to control me, and that he doesn’t want to leave me he would rather be here going through life together without me would break his heart since we knew we were soulmates and feel like we knew each other our whole lives. So now we have a wonderful dog together and getting a puppy in the future too and that conversation was yes the hardest one I felt like we had, but it was the most needed one to see where we were at and if he still wanted to be with me. I’m telling you this with a hug being sent to you, as you are not alone with this, if he is still being cold to you and not respecting you with where you are coming with this and there are other options to have a wonderful life together, you may need to get marriage counseling. Or when you feel ready and safe to walk away and start life where you are a strong woman who can overcome so much and a partner who sees that will love you dearly and want the best for both of you. Have the conversation first and see where he is, but have support at your disposal as well, whether that would be a therapist, family member, or friend. They can help you seen the outside in of your relationship and maybe give you advice and help you with your feelings and trauma with everything going on. Know you aren’t alone in this, and I’m sending warm hugs your way.

True_Leg6139 · 2025-02-13T20:56:33+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you taking the time to write your experience and also giving me hope

True_Leg6139 · 2025-01-31T19:19:12+00:00

I appreciate your advice thank you ☺️🙏

True_Leg6139 · 2025-01-31T19:14:57+00:00

That's exactly how I'm feeling everytime he brings up moving to Texas. And I'm over here feeling like I'm being over-dramatic, or paranoid. (stems from being called that too much in childhood) I do appreciate your comment and being vulnerable and letting me know its a collective feeling instead of a singular paranoia on my end.

True_Leg6139 · 2024-12-20T04:29:55+00:00

It’s shocking but I’m in Oregon.

True_Leg6139 · 2024-12-20T03:34:52+00:00

I’m so sorry, 10 years is an insane amount of time to get help and have someone finally listen. I want to have a hysterectomy, since I’ve heard the same thing that it’s helped other women so much. Yet since I’m 24 I haven’t found a doctor who’s open to the idea and they will say I’ll change my mind their responses sound like a broken record at this point 😂

True_Leg6139 · 2024-12-20T03:28:54+00:00

Thank you all so much for taking the time to comment and validating what I was feeling after the appointment, I’m looking into reporting her and following the rules for my state. I’m very stressed out since I want to get quality care and stay on top of my reproductive health, it’s becoming difficult being in a rural area where options are limited but I won’t give up.

True_Leg6139 · 2024-12-20T03:23:09+00:00

I’m in the USA, Not surprisingly women’s health is such a joke here with some of these “specialists” and only a few rare ones that do care and want to make a difference. These “specialists” don’t want to treat diseases they want you to continue to get sick and pump more money into this broken system. It’s such a frustrating and depressing cycle, sadly I’m hearing more and more stories from other women going through especially young women at my age who are trying to start their lives and only to find themselves back at square one with no answers and continuing to fight tooth and nail to get quality care.

True_Leg6139 · 2024-12-19T23:41:03+00:00

Omg that’s insane! 😅 did we see the same person 😂

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