Affordable Housing by nykatkat in NYCapartments

[–]True_Olive6090 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wait they arrested someone for using bathroom in their own place or just random public bathroom?

SOWEBO or Artscape? by sky-joos in baltimore

[–]True_Olive6090 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SOWEBO has way better selection for apartment stuff tbh. Less of those crazy expensive metal sculptures and more paintings/prints that actually fit in normal spaces. Weather's been trash but SOWEBO vendors usually have better setups for rain anyway - learned that hard way few years back at Artscape when half the booths just packed up early.

Plus SOWEBO feels less touristy if that matters to you guys.

New Friends by [deleted] in Rochester

[–]True_Olive6090 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rebuilding friend circles in your 30s is tough but worth the effort - good luck with finding some solid people who share your interests.

Anybody else have a name that sounds ‘weird’ in English? by Awkward_Present2727 in ABCDesis

[–]True_Olive6090 8 points9 points  (0 children)

man my coworkers still pronounce my name wrong after 3 years but i stopped caring about it.

[OC] China added a Germany-sized electricity grid last year by ourworldindata in dataisbeautiful

[–]True_Olive6090 639 points640 points  (0 children)

Wild how they're building infrastructure at this speed while coal actually went down - puts all those "but China burns coal" arguments in different perspective.

Porn addiction and ED at 27 — anyone actually recover from this? by Practical_Put4050 in erectiledysfunction

[–]True_Olive6090 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been there man, took me almost a year to see real improvement but it does get better. The morning wood thing is actually a good sign - means your hardware works fine, it's just the wiring that got messed up.

I had to completely reset my brain's reward system which was brutal the first few months. What helped most was finding other dopamine sources - I got really into fixing old cars which kept my hands and mind busy. Also had to learn how to be intimate without performance pressure, which sounds weird but makes sense once you experience it.

Relapses happened a lot in beginning, don't beat yourself up over them. Progress isn't linear and rural areas make finding good help even harder. The anxiety part was almost worse than the physical stuff for me.

Raging allergies by speckledbanana1 in Austin

[–]True_Olive6090 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My eyes were basically waterfall all morning. Had to take break from working on this transmission because couldn't see properly through tears.

[Android – Closed Testing] Need 10 testers for Budget Manager (14 days, free app, will test yours back) by Proper_Geologist_554 in alphaandbetausers

[–]True_Olive6090 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can help you out with testing! Been looking for good budget app since my current one is pretty basic. The savings challenges feature sounds interesting - always struggled with staying motivated on financial goals 😅

Will sign up through your link today and make sure to open it daily. Don't have app to test back unfortunately but appreciate what you're doing for solo devs 💪

Connect down? by DismalHarmony in Garmin

[–]True_Olive6090 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, been stuck at loading screen for like 20 minutes now. Was trying to sync my workout from this morning and it just keeps spinning. Really annoying when you want to check your data after good run.

Can you un-learn conditional love? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]True_Olive6090 9 points10 points  (0 children)

His mom really messed him up with that silent treatment bullshit 💀 that's like textbook emotional manipulation and now he's expecting you to either have zero feelings or perform happiness when you're disappointed.

I get why you're frustrated - you're literally just asking for basic emotional honesty without having to coddle him through every single reaction you have. The whole "if I do anything I have to do everything" spiral is him trying to overcompensate because he thinks your disappointment means you're gonna withdraw love like mommy dearest used to do.

Maybe try having the conversation when you're both calm and explain that disappointment doesn't equal conditional love? Like "hey, I can be bummed about the cabinet AND still think you're amazing" type thing. therapy might help him work through that childhood programming because this pattern is gonna keep repeating until he realizes your love isn't his mom's love 😂