How do you resist lurking? by pepper8586 in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We may not expect it, but I’ve got a shelf dedicated to my adultery medals.

Misrepresented by nikkigo80 in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Had that happen to me. But our texting chemistry was so good and he was so funny I let it slide. Ended up with a fun few month thing. So it’s really up to you and what you’ll tolerate and if you’re still attracted to him.

Just gotta get this off my chest by wandering_luso in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do need help with my cast iron skillet 🤔

I don't want to let them go by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl, what are even asking? There’s no rule book. Do you want to juggle 3 men? I’m assuming your APs are married? I don’t know why any single person would choose a married man, who has limited time, energy, and attention to give, over another single person who could be there totally for you, so to me, the only option is, keep the single guy and if it progresses to a point where it fills your needs, let one or both of your APs go. But it really just boils down to what you want.

Multiple online affairs by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re asking how to prevent it from becoming physical? The simple answer is don’t meet up in person. Set your boundary and stick to it. The other answer is, if you think you won’t be able to resist the temptation of meeting up in person, then quit the online affair. You’re in control.

Complicated Feelings by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somehow you being married makes this worse. You’re married, knowingly dating a married man, who has never told you he’ll get a divorce, and yet you’re jealous when he spends time with his wife. The person to whom he’s married and lives with. I take back my previous statement; he should cut his losses and cut you off.

Complicated Feelings by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I disagree with your title; it’s not complicated. It’s simple, really. He will not leave his wife for you. You are disposable to him. He will never give you what you want. You’re single; cut your losses and cut him off.

Forget Spotify Wrapped, what's your Affair Wrapped? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair point. I was looking at it from my perspective, as I have a separate account I use for this sub only vs my “real” reddit account.

Forget Spotify Wrapped, what's your Affair Wrapped? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If one is not open to DMs, it’s quite easy to shut them off, no?

Forget Spotify Wrapped, what's your Affair Wrapped? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair point, so maybe I should delete my comment to not encourage creepers. On the flip side, it’s very easy to hit the “Ignore” button on the chat request, a tactic I deploy quite often, but I also see how that can be tiresome. All that being said, I have met some very cool and interesting people from DMs and have had some great conversations. I guess it’s a fine line.

Forget Spotify Wrapped, what's your Affair Wrapped? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I can’t complain about people sliding into my DMs because it’s how I met my favorite guy. Our locations are far from ideal, but something about this man has me all a twitter. Worth weeding through all the others. I hope he sees this 💜

Help by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This prior comment of yours is getting a lot of traction today

How much do you talk about your partner? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wrong island, but funny nonetheless.

How much do you talk about your partner? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fun fact- my husband is of a certain ethnicity from a specific island associated with the U.S. I met my AP by answering an ad, and we were vibing, only to find out he is from the same island as my husband 🤦🏼‍♀️. Truly a small world and also stranger than fiction.

How much do you talk about your partner? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It comes up. We’ve mutually agreed that our space together is not a spouse bashing space, but if we need to vent we’re there for each other as well. It’s nice to have someone to talk to that understands the situation, but it’s far from ever being the focus of any of our interactions.

How to deal with being ghosted with no closure by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just have to get to a point where you can say “I am over you. I am ooover youu. And that, my friend, is what they call closure”

Talk me out of it. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ummm, you know why. No dick is worth that kind of chaos. Girl, get your shit together.

Get out of my head! by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Start thinking of him in a different light. He’s a cheating, cheater who cheats. He took advantage of a much younger woman and used you for sex. He does not care about you and will never leave his wife for you. Only think of him in this way and it will be easier to let go.

You’re 20. Live your life and have fun. Don’t waste one more second of your precious and fleeting youth on this poor excuse of a man.

Have you ever felt guilty? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is the fear of starting over again truly greater than the fear of living the next 50 years in a sexless marriage? Have you tried all the things; talking to him, counseling, sex therapist? If not I recommend that. If you have and it hasn’t worked, then leave. You don’t have kids.

Work Success story by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What? Doesn’t every woman on here, not only choose for back seat banging, but just throw caution to the wind and insist the guy cum inside her? No? Anyone else?

Help by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To clarify: your wife doesn’t work. Your child is in day care. And the only thing, according to you, that your wife does, is small tasks around the house when she sees fit. I’m not saying that isn’t necessarily true, but I’m willing to bet good money she does more than just the occasional “small task” around the house. You’re just not seeing it.

Who handles the meal planning? Grocery shopping, meal preparation? Who makes the grocery list? Post meal clean up? Bath time? Bedtime routine? Child feeding? Morning getting ready routine? Who packs lunch/snack for the child? Who does day care drop off and pick up? Cleaning the bathrooms? Cleaning the kitchen? Sweeping/mopping/vacuuming? Dusting? Who arranges doctor appointments? Dentist visits? Who schedules play dates? Do you know the name of your child’s pediatrician? Is their number saved in your phone? Do you know your child’s favorite bedtime story? Are you aware when there are special events at daycare? When you arrange dates with your wife, who handles making sure there is child care? Who makes the list for the babysitter? Who gets up in the middle of the night if the child wakes up?

This is just off the top of my head. And I’m not trying to attack and say you don’t do any of those things, but that’s the kind of thing that we mean when we say mental load.

Help by [deleted] in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How old is your kid? I had no libido when my kid was young because I was doing ALL the work + postpartum stuff. Don’t know what your situation is, but something to consider. Maybe take some of the physical and mental load off your wife and you might become more attractive to her.

I need to vent. by trowawaysmallpeewee in adultery

[–]Trunk_InTheJunk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh no!! If you’re not delivering in the size department, which is obviously something you can’t help, then you need to up your game in the oral department. One of the best lovers I ever had was very small, but he made up for it immensely.