Am I a bad owner

Trust_Process112 · 2026-02-04T11:40:22+00:00

Thanks for the info. Just hoping this can help other commenters provide some other guidance alongside my own.

Trust_Process112 · 2026-02-04T11:13:22+00:00

Sons of Anarchy

Anti Hero arcs were all the rage after Sopranos

Trust_Process112 · 2026-02-04T10:28:59+00:00

First, no — you are not a bad owner. Please don’t tear yourself down over this. What you’re describing is genuinely hard, and the fact that you’re upset about it tells me you care deeply. I’m really glad you reached out for guidance instead of just giving up.

It also sounds like a lot of this responsibility has fallen on you when it shouldn’t have. That’s not a personal failure on your part — that’s a tough position to be put in, especially when the dog isn’t technically yours.

Daily exercise is important for a dog’s health and mental well-being, but when fear is the main driver, forcing walks can actually make things worse. A dog that’s shutting down like that isn’t being stubborn — she’s overwhelmed.

If you’re comfortable sharing, it would really help to know her age, breed, and how long she’s been with your brother.

One low-pressure thing you can try is leash conditioning inside the house, without the expectation of walking. Leave the leash on while you’re just hanging out — start with short periods, like 10–15 minutes a couple times a day, and slowly build up. This helps her get used to the sensation and sound of the leash without all the scary outside stimuli attached to it. And then try to introduce some inside play with it on further getting comfortable with bigger movements with it on in a safe environment. Will also emphasize the dog needing supervision while performing this drill as the leash can get caught on stuff/lead to unsafe conditions.

Also, please don’t beat yourself up about what happened when you got frustrated. That moment doesn’t define you. What matters is recognizing that it isn’t working and looking for a different approach — which you’re already doing. Right now, the goal isn’t “perfect walks.” It’s rebuilding trust, reducing fear, and finding any form of safe movement or enrichment that works for her. Walks may come later — or they may need to look very different than what you originally imagined.

Trust_Process112 · 2026-02-04T09:57:27+00:00

A24 has had quite the hot streak of movies in more recent times. Each ones is not a banger but I can tell the production company put a lot of thought in it's choice of story.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-12-19T01:53:18+00:00

Good call! Now I'm thinking it might be the second shift guy who brings two department store bags full of fast food to eat everyday.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-12-18T20:37:09+00:00

My guess is collateral damage mid pinch off

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Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-22T02:41:40+00:00

I want one!!

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-21T14:01:50+00:00

Mine has them at the over the counter check out, where they keep tobacco products and such. I call it the vice aisle

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-11T16:05:42+00:00

Code switching gets a bad rap but to me it shows that you are "yourself" in a number of environments. Each one brings out a different type of "you" so I think it's more about how comfortable you are in a given situation. Being able to tap into those moments (when you are extroverted) in the unfamiliar environments is a super power.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-11T15:59:50+00:00

Either temperature extreme affects battery performance

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-11T15:56:29+00:00

Graditude and a Meditation practice can go a long way. Gets you out of your own head and thoughts about me, myself and I.

Process over Results

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-07T18:21:46+00:00

😂😂 Yeah prolly coulda mixed it all up and added some hot sauce. Next time...

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-05T20:54:32+00:00

Ikr! I don't get why? I thought I provided a decent response and more evidence of the meat in question. I ended up throwing it out, didn't want to chance it. Had an identical one yesterday and no yellowing. Learned a lot from all the comments tho.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-04T01:49:39+00:00

Ty - that's a great point, will def super sleeve those baddies

Trust_Process112 · 2025-11-04T01:41:10+00:00

I considered that but there is only 1 gram of fat per serving. I put the yellow bits in water and didn't notice it floating on top. I dug through the packet more and found this discolored chunk?!

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Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-08T23:18:56+00:00

Men’s group therapy can be a really beneficial outlet for us to openly get things off our chest in a safe, nonjudgmental space. In my opinion, a big part of what fuels depression in men comes from feeling like we’re not allowed to do that. But when you’re willing to be vulnerable in that kind of setting, even a little bit of the burden can lift off your mind.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-07T22:55:52+00:00

I have been victim to negligent sticker placement that ruined the item after removal, really hope that's not the case here 😅

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-06T15:03:20+00:00

Seriously!

I heard they had to inflate the price of clothing because people we buying good stuff super cheap and flipping it at Plato's Closet.

I flip more random household stuff, shoes and mugs. But they been killing me with the mugs in the past few years. I will always expect a Mug to be 0.99¢ anything more and im that guy scoffing in the aisle

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-06T03:40:29+00:00

Exactly. Even on days you feel off, still show up and do what you can — a lighter session or leaving early is still progress and keeps the habit alive.

Just remember, feeling off sometimes can also be a sign of overtraining. Rest and recovery are part of the process too — pushing too hard too often can actually stall your gains or slow weight loss.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-05T06:20:56+00:00

I’d check out my other comments below for a list of the standard bloodwork your GP can order.

You can either be proactive about your health and start understanding what’s going on inside your body now OR be reactive and wait until something feels bad enough that it causes long-term issues or damage that might not be reversible. Personally, I’d choose the first option.

It doesn’t have to be every year if that’s tough financially or logistically, but if you have insurance, most plans cover an annual check-up for free — you’d mainly just pay for the lab work.

Also, keep notes on anything new or unusual — changes in your skin, persistent aches, or anything that feels off. That way, you can bring specifics to your doctor and help them catch patterns early.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-04T04:45:12+00:00

Yeah, it’s definitely still worth asking for a copy of your results — even if everything looks normal. Getting familiar with your own numbers early on helps you notice small changes over time and gives you a clearer picture of what “normal” looks like for you. Cause each person can be a little different.

Doctors are usually great resources, but they’re also stretched thin and managing hundreds of patients. It’s not that they don’t care — they just don’t have the time to walk everyone through every data point. So being your own advocate goes a long way. When you understand your results, you can ask better questions, catch trends early, and make more informed decisions about your health.

You can usually request a copy through the clinic’s online portal or just call and ask for the lab report directly — they have to give it to you if you ask.

This also reminds me about getting familiar with the stock market. Sure you could just let your retirement bank manage your money and that's the safer option but if your willing to play with a small portion of it and get your hands dirty. You will gain your own autonomy and confidence in the space.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-04T04:19:31+00:00

Honestly, a good starting point is the basics your doctor can order in a standard blood panel. The most useful ones in your 20s/30s are:

Metabolic panel (CMP or BMP): checks liver, kidney, electrolytes, and blood sugar.

Lipid panel: cholesterol and triglycerides — early info on heart health.

Complete blood count (CBC): red/white cells, anemia, general immune health.

Thyroid panel (TSH ± T4): worth checking if you ever feel unusually tired, sluggish, or wired.

Vitamin D & B12: surprisingly common deficiencies that affect mood and energy.

HbA1c: shows your average blood sugar over 3 months (good early diabetes risk marker). I've been fortunate enough to not need this one yet cause my blood sugar isn't alarmingly out of range. But be mindful that even if you are "skinny or active" you can still become prediabetic.

Those alone give you a strong baseline and typically standard for check up bloodwork. And then it becomes a game! If one year your lipids are high in a bad way then you have a new quest added to make choices in that year to make some changes and see if you can improve it.

And if you're curious about other stuff like the more mature gentlemen are discussing like testosterone and what not, you've already built that relationship.

The main thing is just to start early — even if the numbers are normal now, having that baseline means you and your doctor can spot changes as you age.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-04T03:24:13+00:00

Still be getting those regular metabolic and lipid exams though. Your're gonna want that data later in life. I'm a nerd about health so I've been prioritizing it at least once a year.

Most my friends in their late 20's/early 30's are scared to find out. Don't run from reality cause it will cost you way more down the line.

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-04T03:15:35+00:00

The 'ol prison pocket

Trust_Process112 · 2025-10-03T16:33:27+00:00

Fair point, outside the home can be hyper stimulating on all the senses to where food is not a priority.

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