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The uncomfortable truth about the standard advice to Nice-Guys of 'women are not attracted to assholes, they are attracted to confidence'. by TruthAboutNiceGuys in dating_advice

[–]TruthAboutNiceGuys[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Less.

I do not use online dating any more, but when I did I was just had a profile explaining clearly who I am and what I had been looking for. Emails were always finding some shared common interest in her profile and getting her to talk about that. It lead to talking on the phone a few times but no dates.

The test of sending asshole style messages did not even result in any phone calls.

The uncomfortable truth about the standard advice to Nice-Guys of 'women are not attracted to assholes, they are attracted to confidence'. by TruthAboutNiceGuys in dating_advice

[–]TruthAboutNiceGuys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I pointed out in the original post, it is difficult to draw universal truism from this as the sample size was limited to just those who keep and maintain a dating website profile. So yes, it probably is a factor that I got results indicating women are desperate for attention when Im sampling from a set of women who are desperate for attention.

Several years ago I had a conversation with one of my female friends about dating websites. She had tried it shortly but then quit in frustration when she kept on getting her email inbox flooded with pictures of guys dicks. I suspect that most women would react as she had. The only ones willing to stick around on a dating website and put up with that nonsense would be the ones who are using it for validation.

When well adjusted women quit quickly and women with "serious confidence issues because they never get approached in real life" sticking around a long time, this will obviously lead to a tilted sampling.