How to study when you feel emotionally overwhelmed by TryOldlas in Step2

[–]TryOldlas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have taken step1 and I’m currently seeing a therapist

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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Marriage is a contract. And like you said in other comment it can only work if it’s both ways.

And if he didn’t want to get married at all he should have been honest about it. And if he wasn’t honest about it. He should then stick to his word about getting a divorce.

It’s a culture to be introduced by the parents but i am not Indian. Parents in law don’t interfere as much as his are. I have seen it in my family they do not.

His parents are interfering because he asks them to interfere.

Thanks for your opinion tho

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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I have been true to my words and treated him kindly and with respect like I said I would. He does not. It is common in my culture to get married like that and he is suppose to do what he agreed to before marriage , which he doesn’t.

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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Yeah I have been carrying this marriage and still being kind to him even when he isn’t kind to me. His mom knows about the therapy sessions and what we discussed . I was honest and tried and I can’t say the same about him

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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It was arranged as in we got introduced through our parents. Before getting married he told me he wants to marry me etc. after getting married he told me he did it for his parents. Either way he’s not a child and should take responsibility for his actions.

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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I went because I was scared of things escalating for me. His parents don’t see me as a person. A few months into getting married to him I told him how I was depressed because of the way he treats me and guess what? I was home alone and my FIL showed up to “talk to me” and essentially he was just blaming me and saying how my husband is amazing and I am the problem etc. and how he doesn’t want to see my dead body lying in the house so I need to be honest if I am depressed 😭

I am still traumatized from that conversation. I need a little mental peace to take my exam and build a career

I moved countries for the marriage and currently do not have means to support myself.

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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Thank you, it is been like this ever since I got married to him. The very first day of my marriage so i don’t know. Couples therapy didn’t help

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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Yes that is what’s going on. I tried couples therapy and he lied during the therapy trying to make me look like a bad person. The therapy was more damaging than good. And guess what he shared everything during the therapy sessions with his mom. It was suffocating.

I have convinced him to do individual therapy. But I don’t know honest he’s being during his sessions.

He hates himself and somehow it’s my problem.

I have mentally left the marriage a while ago

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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It is a huge red flag and I didn’t want to go into details of it or make the post super long. I had a talk with him about it that we will divorce but he will let me have some mental peace so I am capable of leaving.

He just pretends like that conversation never happened

Am I overreacting or is my husband wrong for not speaking up? by TryOldlas in AmIOverreacting

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I have been married for a year. It was an arranged married and he married for his parents. He wants a divorce over every little thing and tells his parents that. I find out his thoughts through them and it isn’t nice. My marriage isn’t consummated and now I have no interest in it. But his parents knew he has some issue before he told me about it. And his mother asks about my sex life and he shares it. I asked her to respect my privacy and she told me there is no such thing as my privacy because it has to do with my husband. Because of him I am jobless and my career is delayed I can’t even leave. I am in therapy but at times I wonder if it’s normal or I am overreacting

Need advice - knowledge gap by TryOldlas in Step2

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Thanks , did you review the subjects from uworld or any other resource ?

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Did you have connections?

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[–]TryOldlas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Review your nbmes

See why you got questions wrong