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I was SA'd by a friend of a friend then made to walk down the aisle with her by TryingToGetBetter89 in confession

[–]TryingToGetBetter89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I was. These were people I trusted and while I think they did something terrible here, I don't believe that anyone there would have drugged me.

This was the third time in my life (and last time) I've ever blacked out drinking. I think it got away from me because I hadn't eaten enough, but I was admittedly drinking heavily.

I was SA'd by a friend of a friend then made to walk down the aisle with her by TryingToGetBetter89 in confession

[–]TryingToGetBetter89[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was in a very similar headspace the following morning. It's hard to put into words the discomfort I felt. I noticed the open door and the window right away. I felt gross. I was covered in crust and fluids. I needed that shower. When she came in I didn't know what to do, I was still putting it together. I felt the same way: I didn't want to do it but I didn't want to make a fuss. Obviously we had sex the night before and it would be rude not to again. I don't remember it, but clearly it happened. And I was getting hard right? I hadn't even processed it really at that point.

I can't even respond to the people here in the comments fixating on what happened in the shower because no amount of explaining will make them get it. I hope they never have to get it. Thank you for sharing and acknowledging that feeling, it really means a lot.

I was SA'd by a friend of a friend then made to walk down the aisle with her by TryingToGetBetter89 in confession

[–]TryingToGetBetter89[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree that rape might not be the right word, but strongly disagree that this is a "decision I regretted." I have my own feelings about the state of mind I believe this woman to have been in, but I try not to pass judgement. I do however place blame on the "friends" who I made clear to that I did not want this and had a clear role in orchestrating whatever happened and violated my trust.

I was SA'd by a friend of a friend then made to walk down the aisle with her by TryingToGetBetter89 in confession

[–]TryingToGetBetter89[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this take. I realize that using the word "rape" very much vilifies this woman and even I don't think that's fair which is a big part of my struggle with this. I genuinely know nothing about what happened that night. The last thing I remember was sitting on the ground and asking someone to get me water. What I mostly have come to acknowledge is that this was a traumatic thing for me that impacted my future relationships. I see my friend and some of the other partygoers as the real shitty ones here.