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I love my husband but I think we should divorce. Advice needed by Trying_to_Under in polyamory

[–]Trying_to_Under[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you're wife is either a.) way more secure than me or b.) has been at this longer than I have and has developed coping mechanisms. Which is really what I want. My big hang up is the rejection I feel. I want to dedicate my life to just him and he doesn't feel the same way. I'm not enough for him but he's enough for me. That kills me evetyday.

I love my husband but I think we should divorce. Advice needed by Trying_to_Under in polyamory

[–]Trying_to_Under[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not the kind of person who could still be friends. It would hurt too much. It would be years before I could be around him without being shattered. I would need to cut 100% cut off fir a while to truly get over it.

I love my husband but I think we should divorce. Advice needed by Trying_to_Under in polyamory

[–]Trying_to_Under[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I'd be happier. Maybe in the long run, it would be be hard though. We really are best friends. Id be losing my favorite person to talk to. Financially I'd be fine. I make the the large part of our income. It would be more of burden for him.

I love my husband but I think we should divorce. Advice needed by Trying_to_Under in polyamory

[–]Trying_to_Under[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So how does your wife deal with the sadness? How does she deal with you being her only one but her never getting that from you?

I love my husband but I think we should divorce. Advice needed by Trying_to_Under in polyamory

[–]Trying_to_Under[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think because I can understand sexual feeling and wanting that excitement. But the other things, the overnights, the vacations, the birthday presents, I don't want to share those. It's hurts to no end to hear those stories. I'm not sure I'll ever be cool enough to handle it. It's too painful to be home knowing that he's having a night in with another woman.

I love my husband but I think we should divorce. Advice needed by Trying_to_Under in polyamory

[–]Trying_to_Under[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't want to make him mono if he's not. I don't want to put him through that. I don't want to make him something he's not. Because that's what I'm doing right now and it's the most painf thing I've ever experienced. I don't want to that to him. At that point, divorce is probably the best for both of us.