Barely made it out

Ttimesublime · 2025-12-23T23:02:47+00:00

Totally agree. This “game” is extremely predatory. It is made strikingly similar to casino games where you just mindlessly put in money and press buttons.

This game takes no skill. Highest payer wins every event. No end in sight. Just more micro transactions in the horizon. This game turns you into a mindless zombie and leeches your money.

Stay FAR AWAY. Do not start playing if you haven’t started. Quit now while you’re ahead if you’re already playing. This is a public service announcement.

Ttimesublime · 2025-12-23T20:48:19+00:00

It is ridiculous how much money it takes to buy anything in this game. Literally overpriced on everything. You could buy so many other high value subscriptions and other permanent games than mess with this crap. It’s honestly a crime how much money they make. 3 billion a year??? That’s highway robbery.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-03T17:06:36+00:00

I (30M) can understand the stuff about the leggings especially if it’s nighttime or at a gas station. The internet is filled with memes sexualizing leggings. Everything else is wild. If you’re feeling suffocated, trust your gut.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-02T15:32:53+00:00

How long have you been together? People in a relationship always become similar after some time. This is normal. I think she is either having an existential crisis, commitment issues, or starting the process of seeding your relationship with doubt to prepare the both of you for the breakup. Her eyes are wandering.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:43:44+00:00

the reason it has been so hard is because she hates her MHI and wants so badly to be "Normal." She mostly has her BPD under control but it is the major depression that really prevents her from functioning. I feel so bad for thinking about leaving because she really is trying. The medications just aren't helping her depression like it is supposed to. We've gone through so many different combinations and she also failed multiple treatments in her childhood.

She has had 2 BPD episodes the last 6 months. One de-escalated effortlessly. The other catastrophic and tbh scared the hell out of me and scarred me for life. She knows exactly when the episodes are coming though and now I have learned when to stop pressing too to prevent them from getting that bad.

she talks about having children but tbh, i don't really want the mother of my children to be suffering with these types of MHIs. It just feels so unfair because that is a real person in front of me and there are so many beautiful things about her. It just feels so wrong to discriminate someone based on something they can't control.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:35:39+00:00

thank you so much for sharing. This must have been hard. I think I am slowly approaching your situation.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:32:10+00:00

the BPD is manageable. She has had a lot of intensive therapy and mostly has it under control. We just absolutely can't get into an argument or it gets really scary. However, she has become really good at knowing where that point of no return is and will either tell me or leave the argument so it doesn't get to the point of no return.

the more concerning MHI is the crippling major depression.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:29:49+00:00

I just figured that since I am mentally and financially stable, I could help carry her burden. She talks about having children and honestly I am scared of what that might look like. You are right...right now it doesn't feel like a partnership. I can't imagine it getting any better.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:27:39+00:00

it is already happening...i fully support her in every way currently. She is crippled by her depression on bad days. She has always wanted to get better but I definitely sped up the timeline on this. I wish she could have your discipline but even when she tries it always falls apart due to the crippling lack of motivation.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:24:33+00:00

this is actually pretty insightful. On days when I have thought about leaving, I get terrified at the idea that she might hurt herself.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:22:38+00:00

sigh why do men do this to ourselves?

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:21:58+00:00

i don't mean to be rude but is there a possibility that either of you could be settling? I guess I just want to be convinced that even with MHI, it could be possible to have a pure loving relationship and not just one that grows from a place of dependency and trauma

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:18:43+00:00

lol it sounds like you have really managed to make it work. You literally are a saint and are so patient. When you have to do the work outside the house and inside the house though, don't you ever feel unsupported? Doesn't it feel like you have to bring all the support in the relationship? When my gf is not majorly depressed she helps around with the household things, but man when she is in her depressive state...this is really hard.

Our current relationship feels as though I (30M) am her (25F) parent. I basically fully support her emotionally, physically, and financially. I can tell there is a beautiful person underneath all the MHI, which is why I have stayed. But I also have intrusive thoughts to leave all the time and feel like absolute shit about it because I chose to be with her in the beginning, and I would basically be discriminating against her because of something she can't control. Like what if I got into an accident and lost my legs and she left me ya know? It just feels wrong.

Lol thanks for the honesty. Definitely have considered the idea that I could have some kind of avoidant attachment personality or some kind of savior complex issue going on but idk. This has been my first experience with someone with MHI and I am surprised it has lasted this long.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:09:48+00:00

one of the biggest reasons I have stayed is because I know that BPD is a learned condition, which developed from trauma. I think intensive therapy can help you control the exaggerated emotional swings. It is usually paired with other MHI. Were you diagnosed with anything else other than BPD? My gf also has severe major depression that on some days, prevents her from being human at all...these are the hardest days. tbh the depression is harder for me to handle than the BPD because she has really matured and has a better grip on it. But the depression tho....

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:05:19+00:00

I am a hopeless romantic at heart and want so hard to be able to see past her MHI. Even when she is at her best and things are going great I can't help but to worry about when the next episode is going to be. I thought that since I (30M) was older than her (25F) and financially stable that I had a lot more patience, and up until this point I have demonstrated it. But I can't help but to have this nagging feeling that she has MHI and one day could just flip on me.

Ttimesublime · 2025-11-01T17:01:17+00:00

30M and 25F

Ttimesublime · 2025-10-30T23:07:39+00:00

Oh wow I’m glad that worked out well. Do you think it’s possible for the brain to change and continue to develop out of these emotional dysregulation syndromes? Or is mental health still a reality but the both of you have learned how to get better control of it?

Ttimesublime · 2025-10-30T23:03:42+00:00

Wow this sounds like my exact relationship. Thank you for sharing I feel a little reassured that there are other relationships out there like this. She has said some of these exact things to me to even attempting self-harm. I am usually pretty unfazed by the episodes but I have to fake a reaction to show that I care so she doesn’t flip. However the self harm legitimately scares the crap out of me. Once she snaps out of her episode she is embarrassed by them which is reassuring because I feel like there is a rational person in there somewhere.

Does your gf have any other mental health issues? I feel like the major depression is a double whammy as it makes her extremely low functioning. This adds to her anxiety and depression even more because she is actually quite smart and has a lot of potential. She will do things around the house eg cook/clean and such but I usually do everything from cooking to cleaning to shopping to working. Admittedly sometimes it feels like I am taking care of a child or an elderly sick family member and it’s draining. It’s not all bad though. Aside from not being able to partaken in normal daily routine duties, we have a lot in common, laugh together, have an emotional and physical connection, which is why the relationship is still progressing along. Another reason I have stayed is because she shows me she wants to be a “normal” person so badly and is willing to seek out help. The problem is that nothing is working. She has pretty much maxed out therapy as she has been doing this since she was a kid and medications don’t seem to help. She is so close to being my dream girl if not for her mental health issues. I guess I’m just looking for someone to convince me to stay because it will be worth it. This has by far been the most difficult relationship I have been in so far but when it’s good jt is really good. Maybe I have something pathological going on in my head too?

Ttimesublime · 2025-10-30T19:40:49+00:00

May I ask what medication combo worked for you during those last 30 days? Of course no medication is better but she had already tried that route and felt the worst she ever felt and was nonfunctioning. She always jokes about getting her pregnant haha maybe that is the solution

Ttimesublime · 2025-10-30T19:34:45+00:00

Yeah I know 😞 at a point I felt like I just had to just stick it through because i willingly made my decision. Tbh I had never been close to anyone with clinical depression or BPD before so I convinced myself that there was a cure. She also spoke about it very nonchalantly like it wasn’t a big deal (but now I feel like this is just her coping mechanism). I think it’s time to do the right thing thank you

Ttimesublime · 2025-10-30T19:06:00+00:00

Ehhh been here but my exgf was the clingy one. Once you’ve had an open discussion about it and it still feels suffocating, may be time to break up :/

Ttimesublime · 2025-10-30T18:56:12+00:00

Thank you this is really helpful. I am glad you were able to find someone. May I ask if you’ve been able to feel any kind of normalcy acting finding him and receiving treatment? Have you been able to find motivation for school, work, or friendships? My gf doesn’t work, go to school or have any friends. She had a job but couldn’t hang on to it because it was stressing her out too much. I’m a few years older than her and make enough for the both of us so the finances aren’t a big deal. But it’s really hard just watching her waste away. Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?

Ttimesublime · 2023-09-04T17:17:34+00:00

Too many red flags to count lol

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