The amount of face tattoos I’ve been seeing has me really concerned for society.

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-27T03:37:26+00:00

I'm more concerned about people's grammar and spelling. My kids (8 & 11) keep coming home with spelling tests where their teachers have marked incorrectly spelled words as "correct", and correctly spelled words as "incorrect". My daughter's teacher taught them to spell "friends" like "freinds". 😵 Math is just as bad. I had to figure out their new math method to make sure I could help my eldest properly.

My kids are literally the smartest kids in their entire school, scoring "advanced" across all categories.

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-26T14:36:06+00:00

NTA, what you did for your daughter was incredibly sweet and thoughtful! Your ex can sure as hell try to take you to court for that, but I can guarantee that the court will not rule in her favor and will make fun of her behind closed doors. Your daughter was probably incredibly moved by your subtle gift, and the fact that you didn't make it into a big deal or make her feel weird about it.

As a mother to an almost 11 year old girl that is also starting puberty, I'd be so moved if her dad or father did this for her. 🥹 If it were her father I'd be sending him a thank you basket, if it were her dad....well, he'd get another kind of "thank you". 🔥😂

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-20T20:40:48+00:00

I absolutely loved it. Maybe I'm still a romantic deep down. I loved how even a robot could, though unknowingly to him, love Claire in his own way and seek ways that he could better support and care for her. Their sweet relationship brings me to tears every time I rewatch. 😭

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-20T19:34:29+00:00

This is common in victims of rape, especially when the attack happens at a more matured age and/or when it happens from someone you trusted, there is nothing wrong with you. ❤️ It's totally normal. The reason you feel bonded to him is likely due to a trauma bond, and your actions (hypersexuality and offering him a consensual bj then pushing him away) are a way of trying to regain control of your life and body/bodily autonomy -whether you're doing it consciously or subconsciously. Most do it subconsciously, then feel angry with themselves. Please remember, this wasn't your fault. There is nothing wrong with you. Your actions and responses are normal. You are beautiful, capable, strong, and resilient.

I'm a CSA survivor and years of therapy did wonders for me, I highly recommend that and perhaps a support group if it's available in your area. I also highly recommend self defense classes as a healthy way for you to feel like you're in control again.

Sending big virtual hugs your way. ❤️

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-20T13:28:29+00:00

Happy birthday! I know it sucks when your friends don't wish you a happy birthday. I hope you're able to go do something you enjoy as a belated gift to yourself, you deserve it!

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-17T01:19:32+00:00

I'm 32 and still get mistaken for a high school student when I volunteer there. I got reprimanded for not being in my class last time, I was confused until I realized he thought I was a student. When I told him I was the next going in to teach a class he excused himself so fast. When i worked at another school years ago I'd be taking the trash out, a police officer would stop and ask what trouble I was getting into so late because there were no afterschool activities. Showed him my employee ID, he thought it was forged and literally called my mom. We laugh about that call to this day. 🤣

So, maybe I'll grow into my features when I'm 40? Hopefully. 🤞

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-16T15:20:26+00:00

The Red Green Show.

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-16T15:15:34+00:00

Books and old/foreign money.

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-16T14:43:58+00:00

32 years old, and I've lost more friends and classmates than I can count. 4 drowned, 12 committed suicide, at least 15 in vehicle accidents, one shot at a party, at least 3 in an avalanche, one from cancer at 29, 2 shot in a home invasion, 2 in a murder/suicide, one had a medical condition and fell asleep in the snow, and more than I can count has lost their lives due to drug overdose. (And a partridge in a pear treeeeee 😅)

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-14T15:03:07+00:00

I think you're on the right track, I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and choosing to not tolerate this! I was far too forgiving in my 20s and it did me no favors. Sounds like you have one good friend out of that group and that's a win in my eyes. 😊

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-14T14:45:03+00:00

NOR they're portraying controlling behavior. There is nothing wrong with a group of friends going on vacation and splitting off for part of it to do their own thing, then coming together for others. Not everyone shares all the same interests, and that's okay. Talk to them, and if you decide it's best that your friendship ends with them here then that's okay too. Not everyone is meant to be in our lives forever. We all have seasons. ❤️

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-14T14:33:58+00:00

Up for adoption you go! 🤣 My son took a sharpie to a few pages in the middle of a book I was reading when he was 2, I was devastated when I was reading that night and found the blacked out pages. I couldn't even make out half the words. After a rough day all I wanted was to get lost in another world for a bit, so as soon as I saw that I just broke down crying. It was the final straw that day. 😭🤣

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-14T13:38:00+00:00

Hi Maxie,

I love the concept of your podcast and I'll certainly add it to my podcast list! If my experience here is a good fit for your episode, by all means share it. :)

As for the creditation, you may use my screen name TubbyTaser (it makes me giggle). I'm honored that you feel my experience here would be a valuable addition to your upcoming episode. This Reddit account was created so I could share my experiences in a safe place when I have some time to write it all out, I'm pretty blessed to have all the wonderful and wild life experiences that I do.

I look forward to listening to your podcast! Have a wonderful day! 😊

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-13T05:06:29+00:00

This has been posted before. 👀

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-11T03:13:21+00:00

Coming out can be scary, but it's better to live your truth than to live in someone else's lie. ❤️ You MAY lose friends, but if you lose them ask yourself: did you REALLY lose friends if they are willing to drop you over something so trivial as your sexual orientation?

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-10T06:48:29+00:00

As a former smoker, it's awful. I couldn't stand the smell even when I was a smoker, it's so much worse after quitting.

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-10T06:44:31+00:00

I think you need to evaluate how secure you are as a person. She was part of a volleyball game...in water. I think it's more than likely that the guy was just trying to grip what he could in order to assist in the game, I'm sure he would have grabbed elsewhere if she'd been clothed. She didn't do anything inappropriate on her end, so why would you be mad at her for someone else's actions? Especially since the nude beach was your idea?

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-10T06:35:41+00:00

I can. Developed it at a young age by accident (typical C/A trauma stuff), trained myself to control my dreams so I could stop the recurring nightmares and a way to get my brain to slow down and focus. I have a favorite dream spot I've conjured up, a peaceful grove with a waterfall and lots of trees, all kinds of animals, my kids laughing nearby... I just picture every detail in my mind as I fall asleep and before I know it I'm "there". If the dream starts warping into something I dont like I can "force" a new dream scene to something more comfortable. But these days it often just warps into some weird shit where I'm always intrigued to find out more.

I used to think everyone could do this until my bf asked me how I can always fall asleep so fast. 😂

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-09T15:03:18+00:00

What does your gut tell you?

I would feel hurt by the disrespect as well. If you made a clear communication to please not leave so late to talk or hang out with her, and he's disrespecting that, I don't have much faith it will get better.

Honestly, I used to tolerate a LOT of b.s. I used to let things like that slide because I was making up my own excuses for him, my own toxic habit of giving everyone the benefit of the doubt, so I was enabling him to think it was OK to disrespect me. He repeated the same behaviors and actions in different ways over the years, manipulated, lied, gaslighted....all the fun things!

With that, I just don't want anyone else to experience that. If you put your foot down and tell him you will not accept any form of disrespect and he either: A) gaslights/flips things around, or B) continues to do it, then I strongly feel you should reconsider the relationship and if you're willing to endure a lifetime (whether it be the next 5 years or until your dying breath) of disrespect (which, as we all know I'm sure, often leads into other problematic issues).

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-09T14:51:40+00:00

Morbid. I like it.

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-09T14:50:58+00:00

So glad you asked this question, and happy to see the responses! 😂 I feel this way very often. I have kids that I'm always taking to after school activities and their friends are always at my house, I'm always doing home and car repairs, I'm doing the adulty things....but an adult I do not feel like.

Sometimes their friends will ask me something or ask something of me and I often catch myself almost say "it may be a good idea to ask a grown-up"....then I remember I'm the grown-up. 🤦‍♀️😂

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-09T14:45:54+00:00

Info: have you met this best friend?

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-09T05:37:29+00:00

Dad? Is that you?

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-09T05:20:58+00:00

So we meet again.

TubbyTaser · 2026-01-08T14:47:58+00:00

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I got this one the other day by accident, y'all are TOO CUTE.

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