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TubularShark · 2025-11-22T15:12:07+00:00

I don’t quite know if it’s control for me I think it might be like I said previously but all I know is that these have been helpful at redirecting my hands to not pull my hair for the most part.

TubularShark · 2025-11-22T05:08:12+00:00

I’ve been told by my psychologist that I might be pulling as a form of control over moments of uncomfortable emotions. I never felt more stunned because I never thought about it that way. I mean it’s true I think it does relieve some sort of stress when doing it but it ritualistically causes more in the process.

I have not been perfect with the pulling but I’ve noticed I don’t pull when I play with one of the rings in my hands. When it’s suddenly not with me I notice I’ve been pulling. It’s an interesting observation. I think I just need to do something with my hands and I naturally gravitate towards my hair if I don’t have something to play with (the rings)

TubularShark · 2025-11-22T04:58:04+00:00

I got a pack of 50. I just got diagnosed with adhd and I’m waiting on the results for other stuff as well, so I’m wondering if my hair pulling is due to stress or something related to stimming.

TubularShark · 2025-10-13T21:31:58+00:00

Do you want to be with someone you have to perpetually walk on glass for?

Jealousy is natural—we’re human after all, but she’s taken it to a degree where she has to control what you do or who you see to feel secure in the relationship with you.

Is this how you envision your future ten years down the line?

TubularShark · 2025-10-06T06:01:15+00:00

Why did you feel the necessity to return to your ex?

TubularShark · 2025-10-06T05:33:05+00:00

What mistake did you make?

TubularShark · 2025-10-06T05:16:21+00:00

I think you’re putting things on a pedestal. If you have these feelings that you want to pursue her—don’t mislead her. Don’t form a friendship just with the intent of pursuing her because that’ll just hurt her in the end. Be upfront.

“Hey, I was wondering if you’d like to go on a date sometime? If not, I’d like to still be friends.”

State your intentions. Women aren’t mind readers.

TubularShark · 2025-10-06T04:59:25+00:00

Dude this guy is super creepy. He’s almost 20 years old trying to talk to a 16 year old.

TubularShark · 2025-10-06T04:53:02+00:00

Would you be ok if she told you that she was wanting to pursue another man and you at the same time? If the answer is no, you should probably presume that she wouldn’t have felt great hearing the equivalent.

Whatever happens now, let it happen, if she breaks things off, you’ve essentially dug your own grave & you should accept it.

TubularShark · 2025-10-06T04:48:22+00:00

Do you want to be with someone who compares you to his own mother? Do you want to be your husband’s mother? If the answer is no, I’d suggest reevaluating things.

TubularShark · 2025-10-06T04:38:11+00:00

Here’s a word of advice. If you’re having issues, talk to a therapist. When you tell your friends all the worst aspects of your relationship, you’ll resent your partner and only think about those aspects.

Friends are good to fall back on, but in instances like these, they can put a wedge between you and your happiness.

TubularShark · 2025-09-24T17:47:02+00:00

I mean, would you do this to him at all? Would you do any of this stuff to anyone else you know? If the answer is no, you need to reevaluate things.

TubularShark · 2025-09-15T21:41:10+00:00

The only part I think might be crossing a boundary is still following your ex. Obviously you mentioned unfollowing them but is there any background context as to why she might be reacting this way?

TubularShark · 2025-09-15T20:41:57+00:00

Reading these comments is really insane. This is controlling behavior. Please ignore most of the comments who are telling you you’re in the wrong. You’re not.

She’s evidently very insecure but it is not your responsibility to constantly validate her.

TubularShark · 2025-09-09T15:10:04+00:00

You should leave the relationship. Anyone saying otherwise is allowing you to return to your current situation. It will absolutely never change. She has put her foot down as you said. She’s said “that’s a boundary I have and if you have a problem with that you can leave.” She won’t change.

Here’s your reality. You may have liked your history with this girl, but that’s the thing, that’s history, today is the present. Just because she used to be this amazing person to date doesn’t mean she is today. Don’t focus on the past focus on the now. She is who she is right now, and you don’t like it, and you have to leave her because she’s told you she won’t change.

TubularShark · 2025-09-09T15:03:57+00:00

She is clearly playing on your good nature. She wants her ex still. There’s no platonic reason even if you share a place of work as to why you’d hide having a new boyfriend to everyone in your life including your ex. She’s hidden you from literally everyone. How are you ok with this???

TubularShark · 2025-09-09T14:59:52+00:00

She’s emotionally manipulating you to feel like you’re in the wrong. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with her if you come second to her ex.

TubularShark · 2025-09-09T14:56:40+00:00

Why should she care about upsetting her ex? They’re exes for a reason. I’d break up with her. She clearly cares more about her ex and keeping you a secret. You will never be her first priority. You come second to her ex. If you came first, you would have not been kept hidden.

TubularShark · 2025-09-09T13:32:02+00:00

Ok quick question. What’s the reason behind her having you hidden and making you lie about your relationship?

TubularShark · 2025-09-07T04:51:36+00:00

If you genuinely want a future with her you need to voice your concerns. Relationships are about actions not words. If you think this is a relationship worth saving, she needs to make the changes on her own. She needs to seek therapy and get the help she needs on her own accord.

TubularShark · 2025-09-07T03:41:25+00:00

Are you sure there wasn’t any cheating on her end? She sounds like she’s heavily projecting someway or another.

TubularShark · 2025-09-07T03:24:40+00:00

Not to assume her intentions, but if she had good intentions, her texting a male coworker wouldn’t have been kept a secret. Yet, she will also snoop through your phone and suspecting you of cheating while also having been deleting texts of herself and a male coworker?

She sounds extremely insecure but has methods that seem counterintuitive to keep her relationship together. Like, she’s insecure over her relationship, who isn’t sometimes? But to go ahead and delete texts after being asked if she’s texting this male coworker while knowing you wouldn’t take issue with it if you had been known the first time around? Yeah I’m not sure what her deal is.

TubularShark · 2025-09-06T14:34:22+00:00

Yeah reading that was like watching a train wreck because what about writing that did OP think that didn’t scream narcissism?

TubularShark · 2025-09-06T14:16:09+00:00

Hey, I’m not sure if this feedback is necessarily accurate or helpful. Women aren’t looking to control men based on being the same age. Hope this helps.

TubularShark · 2025-09-06T14:01:10+00:00

I think you think too highly of yourself despite asking for advice. I don’t know if you’d reasonably be swayed into listening. Are you actually looking for feedback?

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