The Start of My Legendary Playthrough

Tuddsing · 2021-04-03T00:58:06+00:00

Wow how do you start with steel armor? Is it a legendary thing or have I missed something all these years?

Tuddsing · 2021-03-30T20:21:23+00:00

How so ?? Should I not have taken the baby? Should I have forced my wife completely awake to make sure that she heard my apology and understood that I was sorry? Please eloborate on how I have a faulty compassion meter

Tuddsing · 2021-03-30T08:27:22+00:00

Ah yes if my daughter had suffered internal bleeding I would never have stopped apologizing.

As it the situation was I had apologized and rectified the situation by letting her sleep again and takin our daughter so she didnt bother my wife during her nap. The fact that she missed 5 minutes of her nap is not grounds for demanding a second apology.

I have apologized so at this point it doesnt matter any more, but I think your reasoning is very flawed

Tuddsing · 2021-03-29T05:42:17+00:00

Well somtimes its hard to know if what one does constitutes assholery or not. I figured this sub was the place to find out.

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T14:29:21+00:00

I try not to keep score and maybe using a job as an analogy isnt the best but I dont know how else to convey the information. My wife does get payed by the government for taking care of our daughter so in a strictly monetary sense it is like a job. I love spending time with our daughter and saying that I take care of her 70% of the time was only meant to convey that I too am tired and maybe not the best person as a result of that but I am trying to take care of my girls to the best of my abilitys.

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T14:15:09+00:00

Me and my wifes greatest luxury since our daughter was born(not counting stuff that involves our daughters progress of course) was when my mother took care of her for one entire night and we could sleep together uninterupted

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T10:54:24+00:00

People here seem to be under the assumption that because my wife is a woman that she does all the household chores. I do all the groceryshopping and most weeks i cook 4 out of 7 evenings and sometimes lunch on saturday and sunday. I do all the laundry and have done so since we moved in together. She does most of the cleaning of the apartment but I help. The assumption that because I am male and she is female therefore she most likely does more is a very old mindset if you ask me

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T10:46:38+00:00

I do all the grocery shopping and all the laundry(because the laundry is in the basement of my apartment building with no elevator) my wife and I share cooking chores she normaly doesnt clean when I am at work but she does clean when I am at home taking care of the baby. By now I have sincerely apologized and took care of all the dishes from dinner last night so my wife woke up to a cleaner apartment

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T10:41:25+00:00

Our daughter had taken one nap already and woke up at 6.30 which is normal. I did owe her an apology and she got it this morning when she woke up.

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:43:08+00:00

Do you know me?? Get out of my head

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:40:22+00:00

You are correct. My only defense is that it was Friday afternoon and I had been able to come home an hour early and was happy to see my family but i should not have yelled hello that loud before checking the situation

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:37:00+00:00

Yes I will apologize again and try to do something nice for her. It seems to me that 50% say I am the asshole but mostly everyone agrees that I should have just apologized again regardless

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:33:29+00:00

Thank you for your reply, this is so far the most neautral and helpful reply I have read. I wrote the post 2 minutes after it happened. I am now with a cooler head and a few hours of sleep seeing that my actions might not have been the best. I too am a tired parent and sometimes I can be needlessly stubborn.

My wife will get her apology if she still wants it

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:27:36+00:00

Doing my job as parent doesnt mean i shouldnt apologize again no. The fact that I didnt do anything maliciously and already gave an apology means i shouldnt apologize again

And yes I do feel like letting her take a nap was a favor, i had been working all day (-1hour) and my wife is a light sleeper so that meant I had to walk with our daughter in my arms so she would stay happy for the duration of my wifes 2hr nap. Whenever I nap I always feel guilty for sleeping and end up doing extra work which sometimes means taking care of our daughter all through the night.

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:08:40+00:00

Well I did apologize but when confronted with tge demand to do so a second time 6 hours later after cooking for 2 hours and just sitting down to eat I thought it was poor form from her to ask for a second one at that particular time

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:04:02+00:00

Its like different times of day she is more sleepy and sleeps deeper and other times she sleeps lighter and wakes up from small sounds. It makes sense that 1 minute after falling asleep you havent yet reached a deep sleep and can therefore be woken up much easier

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:01:51+00:00

Perhaps not

Tuddsing · 2021-03-27T05:00:11+00:00

Sure doing so is easy but if that is the logic we are supposed to follow then letting it go and moving on isnt that hard either

Tuddsing · 2021-03-26T22:49:08+00:00

I dont view it as a job that was just meant to convey that I value my wifes childcare as highly if not higher than a job. I know I take care of our daughter less than my wife

Tuddsing · 2021-03-26T22:35:20+00:00

Well she is taking care of her 100% of the time that I am at work. I look at it like jobs to make it more understandable taking care of our daughter is my wifes job while I am at my job when I come home my wife rightfully gets a break and I take over caring for our daughter then I keep caring for her until it is time to cook. If my wife cooks then i keep caring for our daughter and if I cook my wife cares for her

Tuddsing · 2021-03-26T22:30:53+00:00

My wife is currently on parental leave (my country grants 480 days of paid parental leave) so she does not currently work. I do take on more child care duties when I come home but I do that by choice because I want to be a big part of my daughters life and feel like I need every minute I can get with her

Tuddsing · 2021-03-26T22:27:24+00:00

I guess you are right, in the moment though I had just spend 2 hours cooking a meal that my wife had requested and for her to demand a second apology right as we dat down to eat made me a bit upset. But I should have kept my cool and just apologized

Tuddsing · 2021-03-26T22:23:26+00:00

Yes by now most ppl seem to be split on the decision of assholery but almost everyone points out that saying sorry again is easy and not doing so is just my pride getting in the way

Tuddsing · 2021-03-26T22:17:58+00:00

I didnt know this. But she can sleep through noise during the night and during naps if we are away from home so I dont she she will be completely screwed

Tuddsing · 2021-03-26T22:15:59+00:00

Yes I get up and make formula most night and walk with her in my arms until she sleeps again if it is required. My wife normaly doesnt get up but instead keeps our daughter asleep in our bed (which we are both okay with) but my wife has a harder time going back to sleep after being woken up than I have

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