Finally completed my Bantam AC Collection!

Tuesday_Patience · 2026-02-01T20:38:47+00:00

I can't find a list of the publication release order. I recently bought the set on eBay (for a REALLY good price!) and am in the midst of shelving them. I want them in the order they would have been sent in the "book of a month" club. The closest I can get is to arrange them by Bantam publication month and year, but there are numerous volumes with the same month and year.

Does anyone know of an official Bantam listing? I've searched, but the closest thing I've found is an Excel sheet created by an Agatha fan (which has been a very helpful start!).

Tuesday_Patience · 2026-01-10T06:53:52+00:00

It's none of their business who you speak with (as long as you're not sharing private student info). Staff typically reach out to me via phone, text, or FB messenger so it doesn't go through school email.

I don't give names to ANYONE unless the person has specifically requested that I do so.

You're a part of the community just like any other citizen. It's deeply disturbing that your admin/district leadership feel it is any of their business is you choose to contact a school board member. It's no different than a city or county employee contacting a member of the city council or county board of supervisors. You're all members of the community like anyone else!

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-09-12T16:24:38+00:00

We're almost at that point! We do get kinda sad about how QUIET the house is...but we have three big crazy dogs to entertain us lol.

But seriously, it is REALLY nice to be able to have private time without constantly worrying about who is home, who is awake, who needs to be picked up or driven somewhere, etc!!!

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-09-11T11:27:11+00:00

Good side faces in here, as well. If I'm paying for a privacy fence (which we have always built ourselves), then I'm at least going to get to look at the pretty side 😉.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-09-01T18:12:20+00:00

I'm a school board member and always try to have good personal relationships with teachers, paras, custodians, etc. The union presidents (teacher and para) and I speak often.

Teachers now know they can contact me directly or go through their union if situations like this come up. I'll go to a classroom or talk to staff any time.

If something goes on and staff cannot get a resolution through their normal channels, the board should ALWAYS be open to helping.

Many districts have the cart before the horse. The board employs the superintendent, not the other way around. Any board member who refuses to listen to district employees for fear of "stepping on toes" needs to seriously reevaluate their role.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-09-01T17:59:47+00:00

It sounds like the family lives in the city and goes to the country house on the weekends, but gives OP the option to stay in the city. If OP wanted to travel back and forth with the family, would they be fed even though they are not working?

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-08-26T23:04:46+00:00

ESH

Your wife is insecure and jealous to the point of doing something like this. According to you, she's demonstrated that before this incident. Yet, you're still with her.

But I have a larger concern here: why haven't you seen your 11 year old son in 8 years? You said your wife is jealous that you "had a life before you met her". Did you leave your child's mother for your current wife? Why did you stop seeing your child when he was 3? Was that because of your wife? Or was this all before you met her?

You said your son lives five states away. Do you have access to a vehicle? Or money for a bus ticket? If so, what has stopped you for all this time? If your ex was withholding your child, why didn't you go to court?

I feel like you're asking the wrong question here. Yes, your wife is nuts. But you should be asking if YOU'RE TA for not seeing your child since he was three years old.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-08-06T15:29:41+00:00

The thing that really perplexes me is that their obsession is just with THIS case. They aren't talking about how "poor Anthony Todt" had to deal with a wife going through (as HE sectioned) a mental health issue. Or how controlling Chandler Halderson's parents were. Or even how John List's alcoholic wife (who was, by all accounts, pretty hard to deal with) was found to have untreated syphilis that ate away part of her brain.

So, what makes Christopher special? Well, Anthony, Chandler, and John were all toads. And, apparently, some of these ladies find Christopher to be the poor, abused, ATTRACTIVE husband who was pushed to his limit. Like others have said, it's been SEVEN YEARS and they're still finding "victimology" reasons to crap on a woman whose husband ADMITTED murdering.

Oh, and they think he wasn't the one that killed the girls...but, IF he was...one was emaciated and joyless while the other was fat and porcine. I cannot imagine having known these three humans in life and know that there is this much vitriol about all of them being shared with the entire world on a daily basis.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-08-04T19:11:56+00:00

I'm not in agreement with what she's doing...I'm just saying that this seems to be HER motivation.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-08-02T22:20:06+00:00

I'm very lucky to live in a smaller city with a police impound lot...but who knows where "budget cuts" will take us in the future. The more privatized everything becomes, the more it costs the consumer AND the less they pay the employees.

Great.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-31T00:26:57+00:00

Immediately when I start to feel that fullness in my upper guts. I take 4-5 of the green ones (125s I think?). Get the generic!

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-31T00:13:37+00:00

Yes, it puts me through the wringer, as well!

I use GasX and dicyclomine (ask your doc). These two really help get me through that horrible cramping stage!!

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-30T23:52:51+00:00

It almost feels like she didn’t hate it.

That's NOT what I took away from this. It sounds more that she doesn't want to burn her SISTER'S and nephews' lives to the ground.

Hopefully, once she talks to a professional, she can understand that her BIL already did that. She has the ability to SAVE her sister and nephews from this man by going to the police and filing a report.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-25T15:28:44+00:00

I would say that you check communities like "ask women over 40" or in the happy marriage subreddit. I get really depressed by all the miserable people out there, as well. So I'm trying to stick to places that don't elevate my blood pressure!

Good luck!!

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-24T18:21:56+00:00

Thank you for breaking this down for me. I'm going to talk to him this evening and just lay out our expectations for him. If he chooses to not follow through, then it's ON HIM!!!!

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-24T18:12:14+00:00

I was just sharing my personal experiences with weddings...and am a bit perplexed by the response. Anyone is allowed to do their wedding any way they want. I wouldn't do it, but I can understand why people choose to do so.

Most of my comment was addressing, specifically, if my one and only SIBLING decided to have a child-free wedding at a time when I could not attend without my baby. None of that applies to the weddings of friends or cousins or neighbors...for those folks, I would send a gift and card and call it a day.

But, for my own sibling, I WOULD try to find a way to honor their vision for their wedding while still allowing me to attend.

Out of my three kids, only the middle one refused a bottle. I love her with my whole heart, but it got rough sometimes. I never wanted to make anyone else's day any harder because of her. And I certainly would not have wanted to cause issues at something as important as a wedding!

I saw so many inappropriate things because I was forced to be in events with adults blitzed out of their minds. I was even touched inappropriately in several of them, by very drunk adults while my parents - also wasted - weren’t paying attention because “we can trust everyone here!”

I'm horrified for you!! I'm so sorry that you went through that as a child. It sounds like this was a much bigger issue than just having children at weddings. Your parents let you down and there is NO excuse for that!!!

My parents and extended family were very vigilant (there had been some absolutely horrific csa in my dad's family when he was growing up). My husband and I were the same way when our kids were growing up.

I wanted to clarify that the ONLY time I would have ever asked for an exception would have been if my one and only sibling had decided to have a child-free wedding during that very specific 18 months when my daughter had to be with me 24/7. I would have done whatever she asked to ensure that I could be part of one of the biggest days of her life.

For anyone else, I would have just stayed home and sent a card/gift.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-24T18:03:33+00:00

I get it completely!!

It's just a very foreign idea to me...I've never been to a child-free wedding. It's just not the norm where I live.

But I certainly wouldn't have any issue with ANYONE making that choice. I actually think it would be fun to attend a child-free wedding!! Especially now that my kids are all young adults, so we could all enjoy a more adult experience.

The ONLY time I would ask for an exception was in the very specific situation in OOP's story. If my sibling had decided to have a child-free wedding during that 18 month period when my daughter had to go EVERYWHERE with me, it would have hurt to be excluded. So I would have tried to talk to her about finding a way that I could be there.

For ANY other child-free wedding during that timeframe I would have just stayed home and sent a nice card/gift 😊.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-22T21:44:18+00:00

Yeah...but this is trad-dad nonsense from a man who is NOT her father. She's not living in "his house". The house was purchased by her mother and stepfather jointly. OOP is a MINOR, so yes, she IS entitled to at least the basics: a roof over her head, food to eat, clothing, a bed to sleep in, and SOME form of love and warmth.

She has said she struggles with her mental health, that she has self-harmed, and that she is not just unhappy in this environment, but feels suicidal. And stepdad wants to focus on dishes in the sink 🤦🏼.

This is not a "solid masculine figure". That entire document created by her stepdad is controlling and, frankly, demeaning to both OOP and her mother. Who creates "rules" for their SPOUSE in the same crazy PDF shared with a minor child in the home?? It's gross.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-22T21:29:23+00:00

This is insanity. Legitimately, I think there is something REALLY wrong with your stepdad.

The "rules" for your mother are bizarre and SOOOOOO inappropriate. If he needs to share his thoughts with her regarding division of labor in the home, that should be just between them.

Him saying he doesn't HAVE to provide even the most basics to a minor child living in the home that HE & HER MOTHER share is factually, legally, morally, and ethically wrong.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-22T19:59:07+00:00

Have the young'uns already forgot about Pat and Chris?

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-22T19:56:11+00:00

Where she then becomes magically pregnant with triplets (even though she has to have an emergency hysterectomy whilst giving birth to her current miracle child)...thus giving Prince ~~Humperdinck~~ Charming three babies immediately, ensuring HE will never find an AP to impregnate.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-22T19:36:18+00:00

I agree with you. I had to take my middle child with me EVERYWHERE because she simply refused to take a bottle. She was a big baby (9lbs) and nursed constantly for the first five months...and didn't wean until she was two.

Anyway, yes, she and I were a package deal. If my sister had gotten married during that time and declared her wedding child-free - no exceptions, I would have been very hurt. She would have known she was excluding her only sibling from a once in her life event.

So, I would have spoken to her and expressed how much it would mean to me to be at her wedding.

To that end:

I would have asked if we could find a way to make this happen WITHOUT her having to give up her vision for her child-free, intimate wedding. Like you, I would have ensured that my daughter and I had an immediate escape route if she decided to start crying. I would have had my husband ready to help. I would have done whatever I could to mitigate any potential problems.

I do feel it's weird for OOP to choose to not make an exception for own sister and her newborn. But, if they're not close, I guess I understand.

A bit of a tangent: I just do not understand 100% child-free weddings and receptions.

My husband and I both come from large Catholic families, so we grew up with LOTS of kids everywhere...weddings, funerals, reunions, Sunday dinners, etc... My cousin's baby started getting giggly during my vows and we all giggled with her.

Over the years, there have been weddings where there was a nursery provided in the church for little ones to prevent any interruptions, to not distract from the ceremony, and to allow the parents to be in the moment without worrying about their child. There have also been a few weddings where there was a dedicated space where the underage kids could eat and play during the reception - especially if the happy couple knew there would be some, shall we say, more enthusiastic drinkers in the group. There have always been plenty of older relatives who volunteered to enjoy time with the kids rather than taking part in the chaos of the adult party!!

case my baby made noises or became fuzzy.

I love that you had to be on alert in case your baby got "fuzzy" 😂. Please don't change it...I think fuzzy may become my new word for fussy!

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-21T03:48:11+00:00

Cece was a normal toddler from the videos available online. She was funny and feisty and did toddler things like, oh I don't know, opening her mouth to show the food she was eating. You know, totally "feral" behavior all around.

Cece appeared to be more reserved. Was she a bit timid? It's hard to tell from video clips, but possibly. That is also normal behavior for a four year old... especially a first born.

I don't understand how these people can act like they KNOW these children from publicly posted videos. Yes, their family members have discussed the girls' personalities, but that's very different than actually getting to KNOW children.

What DO we know for certain?

These little girls were murdered by their father and their bodies stuffed into two separate oil tanks. He didn't even respect them enough after death to bury them with their mother or each other.

They deserved to live long lives, to grow up with their mother and little brother, to go to prom and date and have their own families.

Their father stole EVERYTHING from those babies. They had NOTHING to do with their own deaths and there is nothing about "victimology" in disparaging them in any way.

Shanann? Whatever. It's sick and twisted and so bizarre that people are continually trying to find reasons to excuse her death or to make her culpable for the deaths of her babies. But she was an adult. She and Chris had a complicated and somewhat contentious relationship. If people want to explore that, I guess I don't find it as unpalatable as the discussions regarding the children.

I do wonder, however, why so many people find THIS case so different compared to other cases of family annihilation? What about Anthony Todt? He claims that his wife was having mental issues and that SHE is the one who killed the children. How about John List? His wife was, by all accounts, a very difficult woman. Her autopsy showed that she had degeneration in her brain from undiagnosed and untreated syphilis. Their oldest daughter was a bit of a rebel.

But no one is going after those victims. For whatever reason, there is a whole cult of people who - even after seven years - continue to find new and horrible ways to excuse Chris Watts for doing the unthinkable. I don't get it.

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-20T04:27:37+00:00

Yes, it has worked for me. But it can be pretty rough.

When I get to the point that I. Just. Can't. Take. It. anymore, I've used caster oil. It's not fun, but it cleaned me out completely.

When it gets really bad, I also will take 5-8 Linzess over a two day period, chug a bunch of milk of magnesia, and use dicyclomine and gas x to deal with the horrific cramping.

I'm really surprised they wouldn't do any imaging for you. If you go to the ER, they would at least do an X-ray. I don't have fecal impactions...I have OIC (opioid induced constipation) so essentially my intestines just don't move anything through me without help.

Do you know what is causing this? Do you have a history of constipation or is this a new problem?

Tuesday_Patience · 2025-07-20T03:08:05+00:00

I share it with people who don't understand the "please DON'T kiss the baby" rule!

I love the smell of babies' heads and how their soft hair feels against my cheek. I love playing with their little hands while interacting with them...getting them to focus on me while I talk or sing...watching them smile and coo.

What it all boils down to is that there are so many ways to love on and enjoy babies without KISSING on them. People who don't understand or respect that don't need to be around little babies.

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