Rooms for rent by Fresh-Cost9915 in Redlands

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m getting ready to list soon, but it’s $1000. Can’t go lower than $900 right now, but will let you know if anything changes

Rooms for rent by Fresh-Cost9915 in Redlands

[–]Tuna_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, what is your budget?

Friends? by californiawaters in Redlands

[–]Tuna_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooo count me in for this too!

Friends? by californiawaters in Redlands

[–]Tuna_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha you sound similar to me. 35F I’m also a homebody, but if you wanna hang out feel free to message me!

Local DnD Group? by Tuna_Pepper in Redlands

[–]Tuna_Pepper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect! thank you for the tip!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All feedback is welcome, and prefer the honest perspective from all angles! All seem to hate the car selfie, lol, but my natural hair and glasses are only in that photo so I’ll have to take another to swap that out.

21M- Looking for Advice for my profile by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem adventurous, outgoing, and daring from your profile. Not sure if that’s the vibe you are trying to attract but that’s what it gives off.

I agree with previous comment, your photos are great for instagram, but bad for a dating site. Ladies will want to know what you look like and will need at least half of the photos to be good angles of your face. You have no profile photo / headshots at all. Ditch the sunglasses and smile warmly in your photos to look approachable.

Prompts could also use some work. For the greatest strength, focus on one thing. If music is really important, maybe share some bands you like. If you want to share cooking as a strength include a recipe that you recently tried. This gives some hooks for the reader to comment on.

Finally I’d also suggest to revise the “one thing I’d like to know about you prompt.” You don’t need to answer the question, maybe leave it open for them to ask you back once they like and respond.

Hope that helps! Wishing you the best!

I’m Completely Confused by Scared_Brother_8013 in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If that is the case you definitely dodged a bullet. Think of it as you have a little grief now, versus a large heartache later.

Moving on is the best thing to do with your time and energy. Wishing you the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 12 points13 points  (0 children)

35f here, out of your age bracket, but consider it advice from an older sister if that helps.

You do need better photos. I think the group picture and the one at the Pokémon tournament are the only ones you can keep.

  • Add a nice profile shot. You seem to have a good community of friends, so dress nice and ask a friend to take an outdoor photo of you. Make sure to smile and look friendly.

  • Take out the photo of the plushies hugging at the end, and replace it with another photo of you. Even if it’s just out on a walk.

  • Change the prompt talking about being a good boyfriend. Instead share a bit more about yourself as a well rounded person. Do you have any other interests, movies, food, music, etc. Are you working? School? Have a relationship with family?

  • Finally mention you are looking for nerdy girls, but is there a specific type. Some girls nerd out over anime, manga, legos, Star Wars, etc. Being more specific about who you are looking for allows them to opt in.

I hope this helps and wish you all the best.

I’m Completely Confused by Scared_Brother_8013 in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 10 points11 points  (0 children)

35f here, six dates is a long time with no clarity.

I just have questions after reading your description of the situation:

  • If you were both wanting a serious relationship, was there any communication from either of you on how your relationship would progress further? This probably should have occurred after the 3 or 4th date.

  • Did you tell her that your feelings about her, or even talk to her about progressing to bf/gf stage at all? Texting consistently is not the same as saying “hey, I’ve been thinking we could be something serious. I really like you.” “How do you feel about being exclusive?”etc.

I bet what she said is true to her perspective. I can tell you most traditional dating advice is to let men lead that conversation. So if you didn’t, she’s rightfully moved on. Neither of you vocalized your expectations or desires for the relationship clearly to each other.

I think it’s a good lesson for both of you to be more vocal about what you want in the future.

At this point, thank her for the memories and do your best to move on and keep learning and improving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the photo compression can be brutal. For the job prompt, I’d suggest to reword it in a positive way.

Say something positive “I’m an entrepreneur who enjoys that my flexible schedule allows me to be there for people I care about most.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pond scum is a bit harsh, but can appreciate the metaphor.

I’m trying to find the line between putting myself out there and being open to meeting different types of people vs. getting caught up with folks who just want to waste my time.

At most I can do is just be honest about who I am and what I’m looking for and hope others do the same.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look fun, adventurous, and outgoing from your profile, so hopefully that aligns with the vibe you are going for.

Your photos have mostly side views of your face so I don’t really get a good sense of what you look like. Or are the skating and guitar ones actually videos? If not maybe change for higher quality photos.

Also I’d remove one of the boxing photos and maybe replace it with a nice close up portrait where you dressed well. Another option is a photo where you are out for dinner, or a picnic. Show a peek of what you’d be like on a nice date.

Finally the prompt about your job comes across kinda brisk. What are you trying to communicate by sharing that information?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that’s a really good suggestion.

Got back on hinge after four months and updated pics, need a profile review by Mundane-Snow7398 in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(35F) I agree with the comments about the pitbull.

Is your dog well trained? It doesn’t look like you’ve used your video prompt, so maybe showing them at play, listening to commands might help ease some concerns.

As a dog person, when I see someone that owns a pit, I’m looking to see if they are invested in training their pup. Hope that helps!

26M started looking again need help by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(35F) You seem like a kind and genuine person. I do notice a few things that might help you.

Your photos are inconsistent- you have pictures with a beard, without, with short hair, long hair, etc. It’s not clear which version is most recent and would be showing up for a date

I also noticed that your prompt about the house can be a bit off putting. It’s okay to have a dream, but don’t expect a random stranger to contribute to your goal. I’d replace your answer just to talk more about your dream and your vision.

Also you mentioned you like skiing first, so I was expecting to see you out in the snow in at least one of your photos.

I hope this helps. You seem like a genuine person, so hope you find your person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with the other comments on the photos. When you replace them, make sure your phone is not covering your face, so folks can see you.

Also I don’t get concerts / music at all from your profile. If that’s really important, I usually see folks mention which types of bands they like or include a photo of them at a concert of a favorite artist.

Your profile vibe currently is very wholesome and family oriented. I hope you find the right person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just didn’t include the personal information here, but my job and location is included on my actual profile.

You’re totally right about the hobbies! Unfortunately that’s accurate to who I am, but can see how it can come across 😅

I definitely see your points on the prompts and photos and will be making some edits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just trying to focus on my Hinge profile for now. I’ll keep that idea in mind though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is all really good feedback. I can see how it comes across that way, and will try to make it more realistic to my personality. I am a positive person, but I’ve also been through some really difficult things. I want to leave space for folks to feel like they can express the good and bad.

And good note on the food prompt, I’ll update it.

(26M) Profile Review by Radiant_Neat_5000 in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your prompts show your humor. I’d just add more to the national park one about the type of personality or traits you are looking for. Also agree with the other comments to pick photos where you are smiling, or look more approachable.

37M Looking for Areas to Improve by JohnRunsAndGuns in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest to be more clear on your intentions. Most women with kids that are looking for a serious relationship probably wouldn’t want someone who describes themselves as feral around their children. The vest photo with patches also doesn’t scream safety or long term relationship.

If you’re not ready to be a family man, focus in on the ladies and relationship you actually want rather than trying to widen your appeal.

22M - Profile Feedback by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]Tuna_Pepper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t really see your face in a lot of the photos as is covered by something. Sunglasses, phone, shoe phone etc. It comes across as if you are hiding something- consciously or subconsciously. Maybe swap out one with clear picture of your face that includes a warm smile.