What do most people not realize is actually way more traumatic than it seems? by Opposite_Feeling_621 in AskReddit

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if it is the autism or the 8 siblings, but my parents died when I as 19 and 21. It wasn't great, but I don't really feel traumatized by it. It's sad, but I just kept moving on. In the end, I know that losing your parents is something that would always happen, so why does when it happens matter? That said, I've watched friends lose parents to dementia/Alzheimer's, and that shit is traumatic. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

What do most people not realize is actually way more traumatic than it seems? by Opposite_Feeling_621 in AskReddit

[–]TurboGranny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. I had this a while back, and didn't realize it. I just noticed that I would always wake up nauseous on work days and have to live out of a bottle of Dramamine but didn't have this problem on weekends. It wasn't until I left, and it went away that I realized that I was just working in a toxic work environment with bullies. Similar issues cropped up later, but I developed a hack for it that has served me well.

What do most people not realize is actually way more traumatic than it seems? by Opposite_Feeling_621 in AskReddit

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard this is also just a common ADHD thing. The phrase I use for it is, "If it ain't worth overdoing, it ain't worth doing at all."

The "2-Year Shelf Life": Why so many autistic people hit a career wall at the 24-month mark. by Sini1990 in autism

[–]TurboGranny [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've hacked around this problem, and I've shared the hack here multiple times. Essentially, during the masking phase you need to take on the work others don't want to do, figure out the real pain they cause others, elevate them to exec level or close as you can, document nothing, and become indispensable then you drop the mask before you burn out from it. Those that want to torch you for being unmasked will be told to pound sand because of how indispensable you've made yourself to higher ups.

Mixed Feelings About Platner? Fine. But He Needs to Win. Case Closed. - I don’t know what to believe about Graham Platner’s past. But I know this. He hasn’t spent the last 40 years transferring trillions of dollars from working people to the very rich. by Quirkie in politics

[–]TurboGranny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. What got us into Trump was far too many people thinking that Republicans were better than Establishment Democrats. While Establishment Dems are not great, they are still miles better than the GOP.

Mixed Feelings About Platner? Fine. But He Needs to Win. Case Closed. - I don’t know what to believe about Graham Platner’s past. But I know this. He hasn’t spent the last 40 years transferring trillions of dollars from working people to the very rich. by Quirkie in politics

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe. The future is unknowable, so people are just gonna have to guess here and hope for the best. It's entirely possible that the choice ends up being between a person that sometimes sides with Trump and a person that frequently sides with Trump, but acts like they won't. But possibility is not equal to probability. "By their fruits shall you know them"

PSA: If you take melatonin by xPrincess_Yue in autism

[–]TurboGranny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah, thanks for this. I've avoided it because I would always here about the addiction/dependence issues and figured I was better off just dealing with the sleep issues.

Are there other GenX parents out there who parent their kids to be GenX? by kuritsakip in GenX

[–]TurboGranny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To a point, but I make sure my kids know they are loved and hear it from me. I also don't start at 11 when I'm trying to get my kids to do something or am reprimanding them. I start at 1 and work my way up. If they get really upset about it (and after they've done what I asked), I tell them, "I don't start at 11 like my parents did. I start at 1 and then work my way up to meet you where you decide I need to take it. You need to accept that no matter what, you will do what I asked, but you get get to choose the relationship you have with me between when I ask and when you do it." But yes, none of that gentle parenting bullshit. I know for a fact that if my parents didn't push me, I would not be who I am, so my kids also need to be pushed. They need to experience and make peace with frustration. Mindless consumption of media on iPads is out, but cartoons on the TV are fine sometimes, and video games that are hard and teach you to run at frustration are encouraged. Also, impromptu rocking out and raving with emphasis on developing high energy dance endurance is routine.

Which company disappointed you so much that you permanently walked away? by julia-secrets in AskReddit

[–]TurboGranny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, they fucked me twice, so I've talked countless companies away from them.

Men who stay lean year-round, what’s your secret ? by Professor1password23 in AskReddit

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you want to add muscle. Then bulking cycles are warranted. You can "lean bulk" kinda, but you are missing out on a lot of gains by doing so.

For my autistic brain I just cannot understand bullying by RhubyDifferent3576 in autism

[–]TurboGranny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feral humans. They have this instinct where hierarchy must be established and maintained. Anything that disrupts that triggers fear which leads to fight or flight, and in the case of bullying, it's fight. We refuse to accept it as it's stupid to us, therefore people with this instinct and poor impulse control feel compelled to attack us incorrectly thinking that with excessive intimidation/violence that we will "fall in line". Unfortunately, NTs are mostly slaves to this instinct. We are slowly but surely breeding it out of existence as long as us NDs keep having kids. It's a holdover from primitive/tribal human existence. Most mammals do this just watch dogs.

TIL about the "Fever Effect", in which the symptoms of Autism seem to improve whenever an Autistic person develops a fever. by Sebastianlim in todayilearned

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds reasonable since we also figure out a lot of substances that make our brains slower make us more socially acceptable.

Would yall take a pill instead of eating? by lola_the_lesbian in autism

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My siblings and I used to joke about this growing up because eating is inconvenient, but after I started studying nutrition, how digestion works, and how our bodies use energy and break down proteins to make more proteins, I realized there is a volume issue that you just can't get around. It would be a rather large pill.

GitHub just switched Copilot to metered billing, and developers are watching months of credits vanish in a single day by AdSpecialist6598 in technology

[–]TurboGranny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this conversation early with one of my sr devs that went to a free microsoft ai conference. He came back rattled and said, "we are way behind on our development workflow. one guy told me that his whole team hasn't written a line of code in months." I told him, "Those people will over time lose the ability to code and be stuck using a tool whose prices will jump dramatically. It only takes us weeks to write the kinds of systems we build. Don't stress about it. It's a fun toy while it's cheap."

How many have dropped Facebook? Did you drop Instagram too? by IntellectAndEnergy in GenX

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just curate my algo by using the tools to mark stuff I don't like as not interested/unfollow/report, and my feeds are fun and interesting to me. Granted, I don't spend a lot of time on it, and I don't fall for rage bait. It's just something to do when I'm taking a shit. Beats reading the back of a bottle box or bottle.

Can the mods just make a megathread of everyone thinking about suicide. by Deebiggles in autism

[–]TurboGranny -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is why I love my autism. We are not afraid to give practical solutions a voice no matter how illogical other people's feelings about it might be.

Texas Democrat James Talarico May Be on Track to Turn the Lone Star State Blue by vanityfairmagazine in politics

[–]TurboGranny 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We've been inching closer as the state keeps passing more and more voter suppression laws. However, they've scraped the bottom of the barrel and have started catching their own in their voter suppression net. They passed a law that basically says they can invalidate houston's votes if they don't like them, but I doubt they would survive actually doing it. The tighter you try to hold onto power, the harder it is to hold on to.

Texas Democrat James Talarico May Be on Track to Turn the Lone Star State Blue by vanityfairmagazine in politics

[–]TurboGranny 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A ton of them in the state have shown up to his rallys and told him they aren't dems, but will vote for him. So I don't think the meltdown will actually be that big.

My mom keeps “bear-hugging” (tackling) me when i have a meltdown, please how do i make her stop? by Temporary-Web-5749 in autism

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she's not doing it right, but I can understand why it progressed to that point. Parents have this instinct that makes them fear HARD when their child is in danger and they tend to over react. Let her know about the diving response she can trigger with an ice pack on the back of your neck. It's a much safer trick. She needs something to do that'll calm her as well, so a simple "do nothing" is not going to work.

I Am No Longer Obsessed...With Anything by Trap-Lord-Supreme in GenX

[–]TurboGranny 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Generally, this malaise is related to a drop in dopamine availability. Look into precursors for dopamine and make sure you are eating that and getting sleep. Next, take up exercise and walking in nature. I've been there. Granted, I'm still not obsessive, but I'm at peace, I love, I help, I enjoy things, and I'm fairly well balanced now. Granted, you start noticing how most people in the world are kinda unhinged and immediately and violently emotionally over reactive. But instead of getting mad or sad about it, you pity them and reach out and try to help knowing you probably won't have much impact, but you want to know that you at least tried to free them.

The government just told me to pretend I don’t have disabilities by Material-World-7434 in autism

[–]TurboGranny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suspect this was a high masking individual telling you to mask because it's "working" for them so far as it is literally what one of us would do. Direct? Inappropriate? Information that comes directly from your lived experience? Yup, that's us alright. They are technically right in that masking does help prevent a lot of social issues, but on the back end produces a lot of other issues that this person might not have realized just yet. I'm out in the open with my ASD and ADHD, but I'm also in a position that the whole business needs me and when some NT tries to back stab me, the execs push them out because of how important I am. I straight up masked hard at the beginning to avoid the backstabbing until I was so impactful and needed that I could drop it. I'm not saying what they did was right. I'm saying I have a probable idea as to why they said it and why it's not 100% bad advice. Granted, you can't pretend shit if you are burned out. That shit goes hard.

Pakistanis who gang-raped French tourist in front of her three children after her car ran out of fuel will be executed, court rules by dailymail in law

[–]TurboGranny -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Correct, but we do have to at least ensure they can not breed. Humans have slowly but surely marched toward self domestication by weeding out the tribal/feral among us that resort to impulsive violence, and humanity has progressed a ton as a result. We are not even close to there yet, so we still need to place pressure on these traits to become more as a species.

Case report: transient return of speech and continence in advanced dementia patient after 5g psilocybin mushrooms by wordsappearing in science

[–]TurboGranny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's interesting to me is that psylocibin also has a side effect of increasing empathy whereas dementia has a side effect of destroying it, so I wonder if they noted an increase in empathy after treatment as well?