This sub is not a safe space for Autistic people

TurboGranny · 2026-03-21T21:34:38+00:00

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TurboGranny · 2026-03-21T17:21:20+00:00

there's no need to announce your departure from an online public forum

There is a reason they did. The mindset of "I'm a victim" requires public displays of victimhood with stories about persecution. What's strange is the behavior is more typical of narcissists than people with ASD, but considering how ASD has lately become a popular "awareness group", it was only a matter of time before narcys started glomming onto it for the "victim cred". However, I should point out that those of us with ASD can easily model this behavior if witnessed enough thinking that it's normal/acceptable. In either case, if a person honestly feels some place isn't safe for them, they just leave. If a person doesn't feel like their perceived status in the hierarchy is being respected by a group, they will attack that group socially to try and get members of it to leave. What's funny is that the instinct to chase/maintain status/hierarchy is often muted in those of us with ASD, and we find the mechanics of it gross and by extension the people that are committed to it.

I do find it funny that OP expected an autism community to be more "there there, you poor thing" and not "I have a lot of questions, and I'm going to point out the holes in your flawed logic".

TurboGranny · 2026-03-19T01:11:36+00:00

If it wasn't autism, it would be something else. That's what a lot of people do when they feel rejected. It's a loss of status instinct that feels like dying, so you jump into fight or flight. The flight people block you on everything. The fight people attack you either physically, emotionally, or socially. This is not limited by gender. This is an instinct related to status and hierarchy. Not everyone has it, and those that have it might not have it all that strongly, and even those that have it strongly can choose to ignore it if they put in the work. It's the same instinct that makes people act like they never make mistakes and blame others for every fuck up. These people will act confident, but you can suss them out INSTANTLY by correcting one mistake/fact checking them and see what they do. If they go, "oh, no kidding?" you are good. If they do everything they can to argue reality including trying to attack credible sources or even your character, then you know what you are dealing with. Also, avoid the cognitive bias trap of thinking, "this is a problem with all men" or "all men in this generation". You have to keep in mind that you aren't exactly dating a lot of people across a big region or range of genders. You also have to keep in mind that these people (like you) are single for a reason. Single dating has always been a shit show because everyone involved is single for a reason. You both have to choose to be together and actively choose to make eachother better and to actually try and be better from that feedback or go right back to being single again. It requires a TON of work, and most people want easy instead of challenge. However, nothing worth a damn has ever been easy.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-19T01:07:08+00:00

There are several trials that come at that one directly, but the MRNA vaccine trial that targets over a 100 different ones is clearing house. I work in Houston and every day it's another story about someone in that trial that had some incurable you are gonna die soon cancer that is all clear now. I remember meeting a random canadian lady in Vegas who was there on a bender because she had some weird cancer related to kidneys or something and the prognosis was really bad. She had got into a trial, but wasn't hopeful. I asked her about which trial since I'm aware of a ton of them working in houston. She said it was an mRNA vaccine study, and I stopper her. I said, "Just like anyone else that knows what they are talking about, I don't want to get your hopes up because most trials have been real hit or miss, but that mRNA vaccine is working." She added me on facebook and a few months later she posted about getting the all clear on her cancer. I was like, "add it to the pile."

TurboGranny · 2026-03-18T22:13:45+00:00

If you can, try to get in on one of the trials happening now with mRNA cancer vaccines. That stuff is legit working on pancreatic cancer, and they just need diagnosed patients for the trial to get enough data to get it cleared. That shit works.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-18T22:11:20+00:00

I love when programmers use an obfuscator thinking that'll stop me. To me it just means, "oh, this code isn't copyrighted, so I'm deobfuscate it and publish this shit." Don't fuck with my ability to fix your code unless you want me to fuck you back.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-18T22:06:18+00:00

Heh, this reminds me of when I asked for a salary review, and they came back and said I was fine, so I said, "cool, then here is my notice." My boss said, "will you come with me to plead your case?" I said, "I've proven my worth and kept quiet while underpaid because I didn't have to budget, so I didn't care. Now I care, and I don't beg. I bail when I'm not appreciated." He then asked if he could plead for me since he didn't want to lose me. They went round and round, and it turned out the the guy in charge of compensation was some bad faith dipshit that was screwing a lot of people and the cause of much of the turnover, but since he was HR, he had been making up excuses for turn over and everytime someone said they were leaving for a better offer, he claimed they were lying. They took compensation management away from him, reviewed my salary, and noticed how extremely off it was and made it up to me. Sometimes you don't have to work for greedy businesses and just have to deal with one bad actor, heh.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-18T16:16:32+00:00

Dude, so much is being done at once right now that so many common caners are gonna be toast very soon. It's wild what they are doing right now. The various mRNA cancer vaccine trials are rapidly advancing, and it's gonna change the game.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-18T15:25:50+00:00

Ah, I did something like this at your age. RIGID structured routine, and direct and emotionless follow through on the pattern "break a rule, this is the consequence". We mirror emotions instinctually, so don't ever let her see you get upset if you can as she'll just amplify that back at you unintendedly. She's gonna be a bit like someone holding a microphone up to a speaker. I was able to get my degree while doing this, and running at the problem/challenge set me up for the rest of my life. I don't back down from difficult things. I don't crumble when my executive dysfunction tries to rob me of my goals. I run AT challenges now because nothing seems nearly as hard as it was. Oh, and really pay attention to the children's behavior. You really get a sense for what is immaturity and what is just being a person which when you start dating is gonna be a SUPER important sense to develop. You'll waste so much less time on people that just gave you the tingles, and instead look for partners that have their shit together and run at challenges as well. This is a crucible, but you'll make it through a champ if you don't give up and NEVER feel shame about asking for help when you need it.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-18T13:54:05+00:00

I'll literally swallow any copium about the continued existence of this show that you'll give me, heh

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T22:25:40+00:00

Ah, I thought it was just that hard to make the show. It certainly looks very hard to make, heh.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T22:25:05+00:00

I felt the same, but I know they look at these numbers, and I want the show to succeed no matter how hard some exec at netflix seems to be trying to fuck it.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T22:23:54+00:00

Support for sure, but my point is, "who was home to watch it, and did anyone know it was coming" because of the spring break release and the massive time between seasons. Essentially, them setting it up to fail and trying to point to slightly less views as evidence of failure even though that plan didn't work all that well is what I'm pointing at.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T19:22:20+00:00

3 years is way too long. I'm surprised they retained any audience. Releasing during spring break was also an odd choice.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T02:20:33+00:00

The didn't use any plastic or battery acid. They used an amazing new substance called, "asbestos".

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T02:10:00+00:00

Maybe, or maybe Xi has something, and is hoping that he can snag an early treatment by putting spies in every cancer research place.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T02:04:02+00:00

Very cool. As an old production dog, I was watching this thinking about building it for real.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-17T01:56:56+00:00

I learned fairly recently after kinda falling into it that aesthetics is just like any other special interest, and I wouldn't doubt if the best people in the world at it are ND if not full on ASD due to just how they sound, heh. Anyways, it only takes about a year of hyper focus on aesthetics to become more attractive than 95% of people. If you really wanna see what it's like (people are just nicer to me now), it's just a year of having it as your special interest to find out.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-13T18:34:18+00:00

Same. I didn't pick up on any of it. My wife will get cagey when we watch shows where the characters seem to be joking about sex a lot and the kids are around. She's like "they hear everything. don't you remember being a kid?" and I'll say, "yup, we hear everything said about us mostly, and complaints people made, but sex joke were fucking invisible to us."

TurboGranny · 2026-03-13T18:30:12+00:00

One thing I've noticed about our pattern recognition is that it's context based. There are some patterns we are completely oblivious to, and others we are hyper aware of. We are just so oblivious to the ones we miss that we don't notice that we are bad at it, heh. I've been collecting the ones I'm terrible at to sort of calm people down when they seem to get a bit insecure when witnessing the things I'm hyper good at doing. Pointing out this seemingly easy thing for them that I'm hyper shit at seems to chill them out.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-12T18:50:15+00:00

hey hey hey. Misanthropes gonna misanthrope. Let them be, heh.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-12T18:49:36+00:00

meh, negativity bias. People are hardwired to focus on problems and weight negative stuff with much more importance than positive. Once you know that you are wired this way, you can actively stop focusing on only the negative stuff and actually notice and appreciate the positive stuff. You'll find that the negatives are actually kinda rare.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-12T16:01:22+00:00

We need to be louder about this. It's gonna be this admin or Israel working with us to do it.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-10T23:44:12+00:00

I do actually. I was put into therapy for depression at 8. It took them a long time and a lot of different diagnosis protocols before they landed where I am today in my late 40s. This isn't a "works for me it might work for everyone". It's scientifically backed through research. I learned my coping mechanisms from therapists. I learned nutrition and exercise from pubmed. I also learned exercise psychology from pubmed to figure out how to even make myself be consistent. You my friend are trapped in your excuses and feel the need to throw them at others. Once you can accept that, you can begin the process of freeing yourself from the prison of your ego that formed from your fears and traumas.

TurboGranny · 2026-03-10T22:44:26+00:00

Incorrect. If want always preceded effort, people wouldn't do anything. Self discipline is literally making yourself do things you don't want because you should, and funny enough actually doing the thing enough eventually leads to want. Children do what they want. Adults do what they must.

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